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Depression Is An Inability To Construct A Future

“Depression is an inability to construct a future.” – I don’t know the original source of the quote, could be clinical literature or somebody like Freud. Usually someone comes along on the comments and lets me know, or it’s an original quote from the movie. Dunno.

The quote made me look back at tough times in my life – and I think it’s an explanation or partial explanation (of course there’s other factors that make us depressed). We tend to predict the future based on what happened in the past. We tend to feel happier with a “secure” future, and less happy without. Uncertainty feeds into this. With the caveat, that the future doesn’t really exist, it’s a mental construction (ie we don’t know for sure what the future will be, it’s just degrees of certainty or uncertainty.) Continue reading Depression Is An Inability To Construct A Future

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Stages Of Grief (And Loss)

I can’t remember if I blogged about this before, I first heard about it in the movie “The Bucket List” with Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, who’s characters were both terminally ill with cancer, and they eventually made friends and had some adventures together. It’s a nice film, well worth a watch. In the movie, they talk about the 5 stages of grief which I think originated with Elizabeth Kubler Ross Continue reading Stages Of Grief (And Loss)

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COVID-19 Plague – The Lockdown Vs Open-Up Paradox

Lockdown quite possibly could cause the biggest global meltdown in human history, a cure worse than the disease. Opening things back up has the potential risk of the biggest loss of human life we’ve ever experienced. So hence a paradox.

My hope is that rational, clever people will find a solution, that resolves this paradox. They probably won’t be communists or communist controlled organisations, more likely people like Trump and Johnson in USA and UK. Sorry I don’t know the answer for other countries.

My lean is towards opening things back up, with caution, but urgently now. Human life is precious, but in balance we need to be able to feed ourselves, and our loved ones – and have a future – And feed the elderly, sick, infirm etc – we can’t care for our most vulnerable if we’re “just surviving” or worse ourselves. Continue reading COVID-19 Plague – The Lockdown Vs Open-Up Paradox

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40 Rules For Life – Jordan Peterson

Jordan Peterson’s book “12 Rules For Life” is said to have been based on an original list of 40 rules which Jordan posted on Quora in answer to “What are the most valuable things everyone should know ?” originally in 2012.

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Can’t You Write Your Own Original Material? Quoting Einstein Has Been Done!

The silver lining, the emotional alchemy – as I’ve said a million times on this blog – is they never cease to give me something to blog about, and it’s made me quite popular. If I have the time, or I’m bored, I might even play with them for a while, and then add their details to my blocklist (do not pass go, do not receive $200) Continue reading Can’t You Write Your Own Original Material? Quoting Einstein Has Been Done!

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Honey Wheat Bran Bread Recipe

Continuing on with my bread making I’m baking this one today :

Honey Wheat Bran Bread – Sweetened with Honey, and with the better nutritional value of wheat bran this bread is the monkey’s nuts. Continue reading “Honey Wheat Bran Bread Recipe”

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Applesauce Oatmeal Bread Recipe

Thanks to Chef Kevin Ashton of “Grumpy Old Men” blog, for the cooking inspiration – So, continuing on with my bread making I’m baking this one today :

Applesauce Oatmeal Bread – A great tasting apple’ey and oat’ey bread for all occasions Continue reading “Applesauce Oatmeal Bread Recipe”

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Michael Moore Presents: Planet of the Humans (Well Done Michael Moore)

To be honest I thought Michael Moore was a deranged weirdo, after bizarre woke comments and absurd tweets I’ve seen within the last few months – but, he’s completely redeemed himself in my eyes with this documentary, exposing the utter fraud and lies behind “green” and “renewable” energy. This documentary came totally out of left field (kinda no pun intended). I could never have anticipated or expected this. Continue reading “Michael Moore Presents: Planet of the Humans (Well Done Michael Moore)”

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The Wrong Thinker’s Guide To Being A Successful Novelist (Or Any Kind Of Creative)

WARNING – CREATIVE WRITING AHEAD

Without freedom of speech, we no longer have freedom of thought. Without freedom of thought, how the hell are we supposed to be creative?

 

– Source – Someone cleverer than me, probably JP.

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Strip Richard Branson Of His Knighthood – Change.org

I used to look up to the man. But since he bought my mortgage company after the 2008/Lehman Brothers crisis, they have set their interest rate at an extreme profit margin, all whilst interest rates have been historically low (like close to zero). For more than 12 years now I’ve been paying a huge premium over the Bank Of England’s base rate, straight into Richard Branson’s pocket. It’s one of the reasons I’ve personally struggled financially ever since 2008 – whilst Richard has his fingers in a number of pies, including his own island. Bouncing around in his private jets and floating around in Bentleys, living the life of Riley. Continue reading Strip Richard Branson Of His Knighthood – Change.org

Happy St. George’s Day, And Risque Painting By Petar Meseldzija

I just found it’s St. George’s day today, an important traditional day for English (and some Spanish and Portuguese) and Christian people.

So wishing you a Happy St. George’s Day.

I’ve also added the Portuguese flag to my sidebar – so hello and welcome to all my Portuguese followers (4097 page views as of today).

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Saint George’s Day, also known as the Feast of Saint George, is the feast day of Saint George as celebrated by various Christian Churches and by the several nations, kingdoms, countries and cities of which Saint George is the patron saint including England, and regions of Portugal and Spain. – Wikipedia

And, in Don Charisma style – here’s a “little risque” St. George and the Dragon painting that I posted back in 2014, as a bonus.

Painting by (c) Petar Meseldzjia – Originally posted here (with permission) :-

https://doncharisma.org/2014/04/23/nudity-in-art-st-georg-and-the-dragon-by-petar-meseldzija/

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Suicide – Saving Lives – Befrienders Worldwide And Samaritans

Danny posted yesterday about the saddening Thai Suicides. The post didn’t publish correctly (WordPress on the blink I think) – so if you missed it it’s here – https://doncharisma.org/2020/04/21/thai-suicides/

Reports Danny’s heard today are that things may be opening up economy wise in Thailand shortly, so hopefully, that’ll work out OK for the folks who’re struggling. Official reports also indicate that COVID-19, is a *relatively* minor problem in Thailand.

I thought it worth bringing again to your attention The Befrienders Worldwide (who I hadn’t heard of before) and the Samaritans. They are volunteers who “man”/”woman” phones (sometimes 24/7/365) to speak to people who are having difficulties in their lives, usually desperate to the point of feeling suicidal.

Obviously use a bit of common sense and don’t contact them, unless it *really* is necessary, as you could be tying up the line, where someone who’s really suicidal can’t get through.

Befrienders Wordwide

The Befriender’s Worldwide have contact telephone numbers in many countries on their website :

https://www.befrienders.org/

Samaritans

“Whatever you’re going through, a Samaritan will face it with you.” – The Samaritans UK

Thailandhttp://www.samaritansthai.com/

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans.Thailand

Tel: 02-713-6793

Tel: 02-713-6791

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans-Chiang-Mai-1027321303981834/

Tel: 05-322-5977

UKhttps://www.samaritans.org/

Tel: 116 123 (Free)

UShttp://www.samaritansusa.org/

Tel: 1 (800) 273-TALK (I think 1 800 is a free to call number in USA)

 

I’ve been in a few tough spots myself, and others helping me made all the difference, so – Thankyou to Befrienders Worldwide and Samaritans, for being the change *we all* want to see in the world – without good people like them in the World, we’d be lost. Real heroes.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Passive Aggressive – Stupid Is As Stupid Does

WARNING – CREATIVE WRITING AHEAD

“Speak the truth” – Jordan Peterson.

That’s what I’m doing right here. Exercising my right to speak freely as what I currently see as truth.

I may look stupid to you. I may write stupid stuff sometimes. I may not be a great artist, or a great writer, or a great photographer, or that great at anything. I may not be in the same tribe as you, or idolize the same gods. I may not be the cookie cutter blog you’d prefer me to be. I may not be as intelligent as you.

In fact I’m pretty average and ordinary by all accounts, nothing special. I just do my best, and hope for the best, most of the time.

I have done my research on passive-aggression. I know what your motives are and what your narrative is. I know that you deserve my pity more than my respect. I know the counter measures and moves – I have been doing this for a while, 57000 comments on this blog at last count, so I’m not exactly short-in-the-tooth by now.

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So please kindly stop leaving passive-aggressive comments, or trying passive-aggressive schemes on me – You’re wasting your time, and making yourself look pathetic in the process.

It’s transparent to me by now – someone broke the rules of fight club and showed me “the matrix”, might have even been me that did it.

The silver lining – I never end up short of something to blog about, so thanks for that at least. Also makes me laugh, so double whammy.

But – Why oh why, would you prefer to argue when we could have been friends – I’m perplexed at the lengths people will go spread their misery onto others – it beggars belief, the lengths their ego will go to ensure they feel they’re right, holier than thou, ideologically superior or have “won” the argument, even if it means completely deluding themselves, and destroying a potential friendship in the process.

“Stupid is as stupid does” – Forrest Gump

I guess.

If I have the time, and the skill, I try and help other people who’re honourable and respectful. I’ve lost count of the number of reblogs, guest bloggers and shares I’ve done over the years – bloggers helping bloggers, helping each other – you know solidarity. Not to mention that at least half of the 57000 comments are my replies to others.

At the end of the day – if you have no respect for me, you’re not worthy of my time.

Which reminds me of a quote I saw the other day, I’ll post that later.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Thai Suicides

Hi, it’s Danny posting on Don’s blog from the UK. I felt that this was important to share this, to raise awareness.

I don’t as yet have anything other than word of mouth, of initial reports coming in via FaceBook. But friends have sadly reported to me a number of Thai men and women have committed suicide in Thailand due to basically running out of money. With curfews and lockdowns, little to no government help, no tourist income (a large part of Thai GDP), many Thai’s operating small/micro-businesses, a drought in Thailand, already an economic downturn and with little or no savings – people who are poor are basically living hand to mouth and have become desperate.

I really don’t know what else to say, other than I’m deeply saddened to hear these reports. Losing a life through suicide is heartbreaking, and needless. My deepest condolences to those who’ve lost loved ones.

If this isn’t resolved swiftly, I’m worried things will descend into civil unrest, which would obviously lead to violence and more deaths.

I don’t know how this can be achieved – But it’s time we got the world economy going again, so more lives aren’t lost, and we don’t have more tragedy on top of the tragedy we’ve already suffered.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Danny


If you’re affected by this, then it’s possible to contact the Samaritans :

“Whatever you’re going through, a Samaritan will face it with you.” – The Samaritans UK

Thailandhttp://www.samaritansthai.com/

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans.Thailand

Tel: 02-713-6793

Tel: 02-713-6791

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans-Chiang-Mai-1027321303981834/

Tel: 05-322-5977

UKhttps://www.samaritans.org/

Tel: 116 123 (Free)

UShttp://www.samaritansusa.org/

Tel: 1 (800) 273-TALK (I think 1 800 is a free to call number in USA)

There’s also Befrienders Wordwide (similar to the Samaritans), who have contact telephone numbers in many countries – https://www.befrienders.org/

Continue reading “Thai Suicides”

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Coronavirus And Blog Update 3

Having blogged 93 days straight now, through UK general election, Brexit and Coronavirus outbreak, it’s time for me to stop posting so much about Coronavirus. In the beginning I was doing my best to raise people’s awareness and warn of a possible problem aka “a pandemic”. My sources ended up being right, even though I’d prayed they wouldn’t be – and right a long time before the legacy media had any clue what was going on.

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Jaded Coloured Spectacles

Judging by the number of comments, seems like I was missed yesterday. As a general rule, I think one should rest of Saturdays and Sundays. I do try and put at least one quote out per day – sometimes the simplest things are the best. In these times of struggle it might be the only positive/interesting thing that person saw that day.

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Yesterday best described as “jaded”, one of my commenters apparently felt the same, so I wasn’t the only one in that boat. We are, like it or not interdependent, it’s how the world still spins. Without spending countless hours, or having any qualifications, this is roughly what I said :

Sometimes life doesn’t feel full of possibilities, it’s the same for most people. “Charisma” seems to take a day off, for various reasons.

 

Ultimately, short version – In the end up, it’s up to you to pull yourself back to a motivated and positive state – external forces sometimes are there to help, sometimes we have to do it on our own.

 

Sometimes reaching out and telling a friend how you feel can bring one back to positive mental attitude. Other’s rely on their faith.

 

Do something you enjoy doing today, or do something for someone else, that they’d enjoy. Write or speak to someone you miss, or haven’t written in a long time. Do you’re own mini-thanksgiving – think of all the things in your life you are grateful for.

 

“When the going get’s tough, the tough get going”

I’m fairly sure by now that the 38000 of you subscribed to my blog are smarter than me, so what would you have said ?

Well, there are a few subscribers straight off of this page –

https://doncharisma.org/2015/03/23/100-ways-to-say-not-the-brightest/

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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The Origin Of Fear

Firstly – Happy Easter. Clearly I’m a wrong thinker, and contradictions-a-plenty – so don’t expect a traditional Easter message !

During these times which just seem to get odder and odder – I don’t write so much anymore, the shape of free speech has changed for the worse over the last few years, and often times I’m not interested in competing for the “freshly pressed” award I’ll never receive, nor care about TBH, or the income I’ll never get from blogging. Matt and WordPress.com don’t like me, I’m fairly certain of that by now, for mostly, they think I’m a “wrong thinker”, in an Orwellian way. To the extent I’m now officially shadow banned on WordPress.com (maybe I’ll write about that experience someday). I’ve even been a long time follower and liker of ma.tt’s blog, but that doesn’t make any difference. Is what it is, c’est la vie.

So, I share what’s of interest to me, use my meagre talents as best I can – sometimes I do write, sometimes I’m compelled to write enthusiastically, other times not so much. I like to help promote other’s art, especially when they are better artists than me – because they help me improve, learn and grow as a person. When we’re helping each other, it’s a cooperative win-win.

Since publishing three recent guest blogger’s submissions – there’s a few things been bouncing around in the Don Charisma thinking soup. Each blogger very different, and each very thoughtful in their own expression. Each made me think deeply – Maria about “doing/thinking vs being”, Urban about how he perceived my blog, plus an interesting foray into the paradox of light and dark and Shelley about solidarity during the pandemic. The thinking soup ended me up at, “the quote” :-

The included quote is something that I read about 10 years ago, and eventually sprang to mind out of the soup. The part in bold was the most memorable, or at least what stuck in my mind. But doesn’t work to quote it out of context, so I have included the context, or at least enough of the context.

(A theology student once told me I’m a “humanist”, and I’d say, having looked up what one of those is, he’s probably right. So, I don’t draw my theology from any one authoritative source, I prefer to keep an open mind. Eckhart Tolle was handy at the time, although most of my cultural and theological influences have been Christian, Hindi or Buddhist)

I’ve suspected for a while, that the edict of some – “every human interaction is power based”, is defective and will likely lead to suffering, for others, but mostly for themselves. The vainglory in power obsession over all else, seems probable to make life as meaningless as nihilism, and the world as hostile a place as ever one could live in. And in living by such an edict – haven’t you just objectified, into a mere tool to do your bidding, every other human being on the planet ? Where is the place for love, sharing, kindness, compassion and empathy ? Or, solidarity ? Or, doing the right thing ?

Still, each to their own I guess. Perhaps I’m naive, and I need to learn something. Perhaps I’m not naive and I have already learnt something (thanks to Urban for that one).

So, this is my “reaction video” in written form, or response, to my three guest blogger’s most excellent writings – Thankyou again Maria, Urban and Shelley.

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The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger.

 

It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now. You are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future. This creates an anxiety gap. And if you are identified with your mind and have lost touch with the power and simplicity of the Now, that anxiety gap will be your constant companion. You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection – you cannot cope with the future.

 

Moreover, as long as you are identified with your mind, the ego runs your life. Because of its phantom nature, and despite elaborate defense mechanisms, the ego is very vulnerable and insecure, and it sees itself as constantly under threat. This, by the way, is the case even if the ego is outwardly very confident. Now remember that an emotion is the body’s reaction to your mind. What message is the body receiving continuously from the ego, the false, mind-made self? Danger, I am under threat. And what is the emotion generated by this continuous message? Fear, of course.

 

Fear seems to have many causes. Fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of being hurt, and so on, but ultimately all fear is the ego’s fear of death, of annihilation. To the ego, death is always just around the corner. In this mind-identified state, fear of death affects every aspect of your life.

For example, even such a seemingly trivial and “normal” thing as the compulsive need to be right in an argument and make the other person wrong – defending the mental position with which you have identified – is due to the fear of death. If you identify with a mental position, then if you are wrong, your mind-based sense of self is seriously threatened with annihilation. So you as the ego cannot afford to be wrong. To be wrong is to die. Wars have been fought over this, and countless relationships have broken down.

 

Once you have disidentified from your mind, whether you are right or wrong makes no difference to your sense of self at all, so the forcefully compulsive and deeply unconscious need to be right, which is a form of violence, will no longer be there. You can state clearly and firmly how you feel or what you think, but there will be no aggressiveness or defensiveness about it. Your sense of self is then derived from a deeper and truer place within yourself, not from the mind.

 

Watch out for any kind of defensiveness within yourself. What are you defending? An illusory identity, an image in your mind, a fictitious entity.

 

By making this pattern conscious, by witnessing it, you disidentify from it. In the light of your consciousness, the unconscious pattern will then quickly dissolve.

 

This is the end of all arguments and power games, which are so corrosive to relationships. Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within, and it is available to you now.

 

The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: The more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering – and free of the egoic mind.

 

If you no longer want to create pain for yourself and others, if you no longer want to add to the residue of past pain that still lives on in you, then don’t create any more time, or at least no more than is necessary to deal with the practical aspects of your life. How to stop creating time?

 

Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.

 

Whereas before you dwelt in time and paid brief visits to the Now, have your dwelling place in the Now and pay brief visits to past and future when required to deal with the practical aspects of your life situation.

 

Always say “yes” to the present moment.

 

– Eckhart Tolle (an excerpt from “Practising The Power Of Now”)


For lovers of the concise I recommend “Practising The Power Of Now”, as it’s essentially the teachings of Eckhart Tolle in 72 pages. I have read both of the other books of the same time period, and this one I found most useful in it’s simplicity.

My best way to explain Eckhart Tolle’s teachings would be, to impart spiritual knowledge (for want of a better word “enlightenment”) without religious dogma or doctrine. Or there, or there abouts.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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If COVID19 Can’t Bring Us Together Nothing Will

If COVID19 Can’t Bring Us Together Nothing Will

by Shelley (c) 8-Apr-2020

I think we can all agree that we are fighting a common enemy.  At the writing of this post 81,478 lives have been lost to COVID19, and infections have long surpassed 1 million worldwide.  Countries are in lockdown, there is great uncertainty and the world is gasping for breath, literally and figuratively.  These are extraordinary times like we have never witnessed, and you would think that we would cling to each other, help each other, defend each other against this common enemy, but yet we squabble among ourselves like seagulls on a beach fighting for that last piece of tossed watermelon rind.

Of course, the divisiveness is not easily apparent in many countries, and doesn’t exist in some, however here in the west it’s a free for all.  A few days earlier, reports of shipments of N95 masks being blocked from leaving the US incited anger and debate. [1]

Not only has the US blocked shipments of masks to Canada and Latin America.  It has also blocked the shipment of ventilators to Barbados.  Additionally, buying medical supplies at inflated prices while circumventing previously agreed upon contracts with other countries, is a version of “modern day piracy” as termed by The Guardian. [2]

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N95 masks, ventilators and personal protective equipment are in high demand.  In countries that did very little to prepare, the game to acquire these materials is on, leaving other poorer or defenseless countries to fend for themselves.  Is this a form of bullying?  And when all is said and done, what becomes of the relationships that are damaged?

Beyond the global squabbling, it has been noted that domestic violence is on the rise. [3]

As families are sequestered together, not all is wine and roses.  Perhaps more wine than roses and that may be the issue.  If there were cracks in your domestic relationships before, then those cracks have turned to chasms as many families are confined to their homes and time spent together is enforced.

In a recent article The San Antonio Express News states, “Last month, when local residents were told to stay home in order to slow the spread of the coronavirus, emergency 911 calls for family violence increased 18 percent compared to the same time in 2019, officials said Tuesday.” [4] This means that victims are facing greater hardships than just combating potential illness.  Lives are at risk and abusers are taking advantage of an already difficult situation.

To get a sense of the divide in North America you just have to visit Twitter for a short period of time where opinions are rampant even though they may be spurious and misinformed.  Typically based on political, religious or ideological beliefs people engage in combat with each other but contribute nothing to the solution or system at large.  Fingers of blame point in all directions, not recognizing that blame does little to alleviate a situation that is going to change our world permanently, in some ways not for the better.

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At a time when we need to be physically apart, we need to come together ideologically. Work on the solution together. Find the common path beyond this crisis.  There is greater strength in unity than in any one individual’s belief system.

If COVID19 can’t bring us together, nothing will.  We’re sunk, and we deserve all we get.

Shelley (c) 8-Apr-2020


References

[1] https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52161032
[2] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/apr/03/mask-wars-coronavirus-outbidding-demand
[3] https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/06/world/coronavirus-domestic-violence.html
[4] https://www.expressnews.com/news/local/article/Family-violence-calls-increase-18-percent-in-San-15184892.php


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Shelley’s bio (in brief) – I dive into data for business and emotional intelligence, and because curiosity kills.  Data is a storyteller.  Measuring and analyzing data reveals the story and shifts decision-making.

https://makingbetterdecisions.ca/



Shelley has been a long time follower of my blog, and we’ve become friends.

I’m very proud indeed to present her writing to you, and her message of solidarity during this global crisis we are *all* facing.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Charisma: May The Force be with you.

Charisma: May The Force be with you.

By Urban Vyaas

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The Force in Star Wars was an innate person’s quality; you were born with it or not. You had it or you didn’t, and so it goes for charisma. When you’re a shy, retiring, socially inept introvert, there are little chances that you’ll ever become a charismatic leader. There exists only a little loophole to that; you can build some resemblance of charisma.

The cultivation of a resemblance of charisma needs you to balance between inviting other people in close and letting them feel your power by standing apart. Introverts should not discount the effectiveness of quiet confidence and the qualities that introverts bring to the table, such as empathy and independent thinking. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be straightforward about your introversion. Diversity is good. Remember that. Many minds and diversity among them make for creativity.

This blog invites you to accept that life is full of paradoxes. In this context I often like to quote the American poet Walt Whitman ( 1819 – 1892):” Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.”

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Walt Whitman (PubDom)

Part of Whitman’s charisma was derived from his self-reflexive humor, as illustrated by the previous quote. Self-referential humor is sometimes combined with breaking the fourth wall to explicitly make the reference directly to the audience, or make self-reference to an element of the medium that the characters should not be aware of.

Just as The Force, charisma has a “dark side”. I wonder sometimes if Sheev Palpatine was also telling to Darth Vader “May The Force be with you” when the camera wasn’t running.

The pen name Don Charisma refers to the “dons” at Oxford University, who’re lecturers and teachers. There are also plenty of places where it refers to the darker sides of the charisma abusers. Think for example at the Mafia Don, the Don Juan who uses his charisma to turn himself into a women magnet or the delusional Don Quixote who burns it to fight windmills.

And then you have the most dangerous of all of them: the demagogues. They’re political leaders who seek support by appealing to the desires and prejudices of ordinary people rather than by using rational arguments.

Modern demagogues include Adolf Hitler, Benito Mussolini, Huey Long, Father Coughlin, and Joseph McCarthy, all of whom built mass followings the same way that Cleon did: by exciting the passions of the mob against the moderate, thoughtful customs of the aristocratic elites of their times. Since the rise of Donald Trump in US politics, the word “demagogue” has been widely used in the press to describe him.

Luckily for the human race, history balances things out with the teachings of charismatic figures as Buddha, Jesus, Mohamed, Confucius and many others, placing them into the centre around which we model the lasting social conventions that rule our society. Their visions of reality go back to exceptional experiences of humankind at its moments of most refined insights.  Rising up from the particular but stretching out to the general. Not many among us aspire for such a historical appeal.

Charisma: May The Force be with you. by Urban Vyaas (c) 8-Apr-2020 (Thankyou Urban)


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Thanks to Urban Vyaas, for this guest blog, which I’m proud to publish. He fulfilled every request I made of him, and then some. He’s a regular visitor and commenter on the blog, and we’ve become friends.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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THE NATURE OF TIME

 

THE NATURE OF TIME [by mariafokas]

How did we get to this dire point; not all at once, I suppose, but bit by bit, being too busy with life; drunk with regrets of the past and manipulated into worrying about the future. I don’t know what stand to take today. I tried writing this post so many times, stopped, and started, and stopped, and then back to the keyboard – and all I accomplished was to exhaust myself; you’d think it were a love letter, where I struggle to find the perfect words to make it work; while hiding the gore of bodies piling up without end as we speak –

Going back to the beginning of this virus, I started gathering information, believing it would help me and my loved ones. I watched and read everything about this novel virus. I even had an opinion about how governments of countries are handling it, and responding to it, and soon enough it began to take me hostage; it had become an addiction; collecting all the news this virus was creating. The stories I came across were endless; the mistakes and delays of the world health organization, the secret agendas of governments, Bill Gates and the Rockefellers involved in promoting it, conspiracy theories, a novel supposedly written in 1981 predicting it; and then I put my two-cents in too… what if just maybe, E.M. Forster predicted our restricted lives due to this virus, in his short story, The Machine Stops, (1909),  and just maybe, the Titanic had also been predicted in Morgan Robertson’s novella The Wreck of the Titan (1898). And was it the iceberg that took 1500 lives, or was it the delayed response, and ignorance to the iceberg? But, does any of this solve the problem?

I listened to people complaining about having to stay home. Could they not see the devastating alternative; images around the world of hospitals in chaos, doctors forced to decide who lives and who dies. Dead bodies in New York, stacked up in 18 wheeler-truck-fridges. A nurse in Italy, calling it the lonely flu; people dying all over the world without any hope for recovery; isolated without their loved ones to hold their hand in their final moment; to be reminded that THEY WERE LOVED! This virus has exposed the weaknesses in our system, our weakness to prepare, our weakness to prevent and to prevail – I think about our response to this virus; our delayed actions, and ignorance; the crack in our health system due to the governments we voted for; or didn’t even bother voting; too busy that day; giving away our greatest power of voice.

I listened to President Trump telling the American people that it was going to go away like a miracle, I heard Boris Johnson claiming that there was no need for restrictions; business as usual; we’d eventually become immune to it; Turkmenistan’s government claiming it doesn’t exist and, making it illegal to utter the word “coronavirus” or you’ll be arrested. The world health organization not only took too long to declare it a Pandemic, but they also informed us that there was no true evidence of human to human transmission, on January 14th – And China kept too quiet about the information that would have saved lives.

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“Ceidefields” by (c) Barrie Maguire

But I will not search for more to blame. I closed my door to the fear this virus has been spreading; the kind of fear that makes us weaker. I began to feel the stillness I was forced to bear and noticed the voice inside my head; words not mine, but nevertheless, coming from me; regurgitations of the outside world telling me, all the things I should believe and should be doing and should be wanting. And I stopped! I was not going to waste any more time –

These stay-at-home restrictions haven’t been taking time away from us; they’ve been giving it back to us. Having to live hour-to-hour, I realize that all I have in this world is that hour; that moment to moment that flows through me, and what I choose to do with that moment, determines everything. . . “God give me the wisdom to know the difference.” –

So, I wonder about the universal values of today – how do we make choices; on the basis of what? Yes, 95% of the information out there is a lie, so what is the truth? The truth might be that it will go away and that we will continue our lives regardless of how it has affected each and every one of us. We will gather the data and analyze the outcome – and there will be much talk and more blame but the crime will never be solved; and then soon after, we may forget.

Or we can decide to wrap our arms around the only thing that truly belongs to us – the present moment in time – not the past – not the future – only that precious moment; the one thing no one can take away from us; the most precious commodity we give away, in exchange for a deception; a promise for a “better” future waiting to be obtained. Aren’t the past and the future merely labels to define illusions; an anchor holding us back and, a promise of a holy grail at the end of the tunnel, in exchange for our lives?

Having to give up my freedom for a brief moment in time ended up saving me from an empty life filled with goals but no essence. This stillness made me aware of how numb I had become, and how I completely took my existence for granted; using myself to make ends meet, instead of experiencing life as a means to an end. So do I want to go back to that life, when the restrictions have been lifted; do we go back to the life this virus momentarily took away from us, or, when this is all over, do we make it better?

The Nature of Time by (c) Maria Fokas April 5/2020 (Thankyou Maria)

Artwork – “Ceidefields” by (c) Barrie Maguire, (published with permission of the Artist, Thankyou Barrie)


Maria has also written a poem, which is kind of a “companion” to this writing, you can find it here –

The Nature of Time


Thanks to Maria Fokas, for this guest blog, which I’m EXTREMELY proud to publish. She’s lovely person and would highly recommend visiting her at her blog.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Nice Poem From Bernard In France

Bernard posted this lovely poem in my comments today. I thought it worth sharing :

Bonjour Ami

 

J’ai un cœur, tout tendre qui bat
Un petit cœur qui pourtant est grand comme ça
Il y a toujours une place pour une personne

 

Mon petit cœur est peux-t être fragile
Il m’a dis un jour
Que tu as réussi à trouver le mot de passe pour venir sur mon blog

 

Que ce code n’était pas très compliqué
Il est fait d’amour et d’amitié , de tendresse et de douceur
Ce n’est pas parce que on ne se voit pas ,que cela n’existe pas

Mon petit cœur te souhaite une bonne journée en ce Vendredi
Un bon week-end

Prends soin de toi, Bisous Bernard

 

Author – https://bernard25.wordpress.com/about/

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Translation into English (Google translate):

Hello friend

 

I have a tender, beating heart
A little heart that is however big like that
There is always room for one person

My little heart can be fragile
He told me one day
That you managed to find the password to come to my blog

 

That this code was not very complicated
It is made of love and friendship, tenderness and sweetness
Just because you don’t see yourself doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist

 

My little heart wishes you a good day on this Friday
A good week-end

 

Take care of yourself, Kisses Bernard

Thanks Bernard, hope you are safe.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Baking Bread And A Break From Sitting At This Computer

I don’t know why exactly, but I do really love blogging, and even more so creating things. I think art is mean’t to be shared (otherwise what’s the point in doing it ?), and a blog allows that combination of creation and sharing.

I’ve been doing my best to try and warn people about the Coronavirus pandemic as it transpired. And, I don’t make any money from blogging. Today, I feel like I’ve been sitting at my computer for weeks now, and fed up with dealing with stupid people I have to deal with on a day-to-day basis.

And, no I probably don’t mean you, I do mostly get many lovely commenters, who are supportive and positive, good well meaning people. No, it’s a tiny minority who are complete assholes. “Haters gonna hate” I think is the collective wisdom on this. And “The biggest fool is the fool that argues with a fool” or there or there about.

A fellow blogger once advised me – “just put them in the spam folder, and you’ll never hear from them again”. Not sure that’s very ethical solution, or recommended, just passing on what he told me.

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So today, as I have all the ingredients, I’m baking some bread, which I haven’t done for a while. Not quite sure what kind of bread it will be, I have a selection of flours, and a sourdough culture living in my fridge.

Sometimes I use my breadmaking machine just to make dough, and then cut up into balls, wrap in clingfilm and freeze (like the photo above). Then with pizza sauce and mozzarella, I can make my own pizzas, as and when I want.

As I don’t have an oven, I cook the pizza base, like the “Fry bread” which I watched native Americans make. Basically I roll the Pizza base out into a round shape, leave in the the frying pan (with lid) to rise. Then nuke it on highest setting the hob will do, the steam generated by the lid being on helps to cook the pizza base. You have to be careful, because the time difference between “cooked” and “burnt” is literally around 30 seconds. So timing is everything with that one. Oh, and it does need turning once the bottom is cooked, to cook the top for a short time.

Other times I can let the machine complete it’s cycle and bake a loaf. I pause the cycle after it’s mixed, so I can remove the stirrer from the dough, so loaf doesn’t have a hole in it where the stirrer was, when baked.

Anyway, hope you are safe and it stays that way for you and your loved ones.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Don Charisma Added To Bitchute

A Canadian friend of mine wasn’t able to watch a video I made on YouTube, I think because of their location. The copyright owner of the music had already taken any money earned (which I don’t care about), but Geo-limiting who can watch is a bit “pisch” as Scots would say, ie “bollocks” as British would say.

A video I tried to share of Italian doctor and nurse describing the heatbreaking situation in Italy, was taken down, I think by YouTube, because it didn’t fit the political narrative of the moderators. These kinds of messages whilst distressing, should be allowed. As far as I know it wasn’t “fake news”, I have seen other meltdowns of medical staff, working long shifts, with their lives in constant danger (Medical staff worldwide are under immense pressure) – this is real life, and IT IS IN THE PUBLIC INTEREST that the public know the truth. Not censored by the “wrong think”/”wrong speak” police.

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So, I’ve opened a BitChute account, which don’t do this kind of stuff (as far as I know). Kinda like YouTube used to be like for those of us that can remember 10 years back.

I don’t have any videos on my BitChute channel yet, as new channels have to go through some kind of approval system, before I (or you) can upload. It’s said to take 24-72 hours.

The primary purpose of opening the channel on BitChute is free speech. I believe people should be able to say what they want to say. Censoring for partisanship reasons, ie basically totalitarianism – is essentially the highway to hell – some seem to have forgotten lessons we learn’t under totalitarianism despot rule, in the present and not that distant past – Russia, Cambodia, China etc, and currently Venezuela. The death toll is said to be in the 100s of millions, people were murdered and some starved to death. If you need a reminder watch “The Killing Fields” or read George Orwell’s “1984”, and other works. Somewhat ironically, from what I understand Orwell was a leftist.

So, anyway, enough of my ramblings, I’m at :

https://www.bitchute.com/channel/doncharisma/

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And I’ve added the link to my small print below, and it will be there going forward.

Provided I do get approved, I’ll do my best to upload videos to both YouTube and BitChute and share both links.

Hope you and loved ones are safe, and stays that way during these awful times.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Thank You British Airways (And Some Things I Think They Should Change)

Just a short blog, saying a massive thanks to “Ursula” at British Airways, for allowing me to change my flight dates, waiving normal change fees, “bending” the rules for me. I think there will only be a small fare change fee, if any. Very polite and helpful on the phone today, and she want the extra mile for me – I’m grateful.

This is the second time (recently) I’ve had helpful customer service from British Airways and they’ve bent over backwards to help me. The other time was during the crew strike last year, and they were able to get me an alternative flight with Qatar airways, and very helpful on the phone.

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99% of the time BA have treated me exceptionally well, over the years, and I’m happy to fly with them. I was even once, many many years ago, upgraded (for free) from club to first, by a very kind woman at JFK New York. It’s the first time I’d been in first, and will probably be the last, as no way I can afford to fly first or even club these days.

As a relatively frequent flyer (in economy) – My only (critical) suggestions for BA are :

  1. Be a little more lenient on slightly overweight bags – most of us don’t have professionally calibrated scales at home, and do our best to follow the rules (like weighing bags at home as best we can). Occasionally we may be a kilo or two overweight. In the scheme of things this shouldn’t cause the flight a problem, as other passengers after often underweight. It’s pretty off to have a fare paying passenger on their hands and knees at check-in desk repacking suitcases, and having to throw things away – that should be an absolute last resort.
  2. Do something about the rude, and unhelpful staff at check-in at Suvarnabhumi airport in Bangkok, and this relates to 1. above. I hasten to add that most of the check-in staff in Bangkok have usually been very polite and helpful, but there are definitely some bad eggs.
  3. Get rid of the ghastly check-in machines at terminal 5 (London Heathrow), and put some real people back on check-in desks. It’s quite the disappointment to arrive at the airport, and not speak to a real human being, I do feel robbed of something valuable. Aside from after having a million things to organise, to then have to work out how to put a luggage label on a bag, and work out an unfamiliar computer system – especially for older people. Automating and mechanising things isn’t always progress, especially for those check-in ladies and gents who will have lost their jobs.

I make these criticisms with a positive intent, as I think it would improve BA’s service, to a higher standard – these small things make the difference between loyal customers, and customers who eventually will fly with someone else.

Sincerely I wish BA the very best of luck financially, over the coming weeks and months, as this will be a very challenging time for them because of the pandemic. Qatar airways have a 25% shareholding in BA, so might be they may be able to help.

Thank you once again BA, and Ursula who works for BA customer services.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Thailand – Official Infection Rates Very Likely Under-Reported (COVID-19)

I spoke to a Thai friend in the UK, about various issues surrounding what’s currently going on for them, in the current situation of the COVID-19 pandemic. They run a business and are worried about that – whether the business will survive.

They also mentioned that a COVID-19 test in Thailand costs around 7500THB, or about 200GBP (which is getting on for a month’s wages for the average Thai worker). I checked other sources online and seems that this information is correct. ie tests aren’t free, when really they should be, in Thailand.

So, if you’re already in Thailand or planning to visit Thailand, please be aware that the infection numbers are likely much much higher than officially reported. Because – most ordinary Thai people can’t afford to get tested.

It’s also going to be a tough time for many Thais as Thailand is reliant on tourism, and, tourists aren’t coming. That in conjunction with the Government effectively closing it’s borders to many countries, drought in Thailand and economic downturn in Thailand.

Also, some businesses have been ordered to close down for 2 weeks in Bangkok and other busy tourist cities, in effort to curb public gatherings.

So, I’m very concerned about the Thais, their health and welfare.

I hope you and your loved ones continue to be safe.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Blog Update 2 – 20-Mar-2020 – COVID-19

I had to take a flight at short/”emergency” notice, due to imminent border closures – Hence no time to blog. As far as I know I am disease free, just have jetlag symptoms today. So I think I’m OK for now.

I will try to keep forwarding updates from my sources, but I think it’s safe to say COVID-19 is now a global problem. Which is why I’ve been trying to warn people about COVID-19 for quite a long time now. I’ve had a few critics on the blog, of both my sources, wanting to pick arguments with me – YOU CAN LITERALLY FUCK OFF, I WILL BLOCK YOU PERMANENTLY – I was and have been doing my best. I know Styx looks like a hippie and Dr John Campbell is only actually a nurse (although he’s PHD educated, and has global contacts in medical profession) – but at least they have been doing their best to try to warn, and educate people.

You morons who are not taking this seriously, are one of the whys why this has become SO serious, and situation worsens hourly now. You have helped in making deaths likely of many of our most vulnerable people now almost inevitable, including members of my own family. Needlessly.

And the probable destruction of people’s livelihoods en-mass should also not be ignored. Again the most vulnerable will suffer most, ordinary people with families, just trying to make a living and ends meet.

Anyway, rant over, sorry, I had to get it out, it’s heartbreaking.

My advice is :

This is a serious situation, globally. It is going to get worse. Panic doesn’t help – you are just putting other people (and yourself) at risk.

Please do your best to prevent the spread of COVID-19. If you’re under 60 and in relatively good health, then you’re doing this for other people, not for yourself (you’ll probably get flu like COVID-19, at some point, but not a fatality).

The world needs *TIME*, delaying the spread provides that time. That TIME is LITERALLY made/created by us doing our best to slow the spread of the disease, with things like social distancing and hygiene.

Not catching COVID-19, is actually helping other people, as well as yourself.

Cooperation and protecting the vulnerable, are core principles of human civilisation as we know it, without it the world would be a dark and dystopian place. So – Are there people you could help locally who are elderly or infirm, or otherwise vulnerable ?

Overall – This is a time for solidarity, not selfishness.

I hope you and your loved ones continue to be safe.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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The WHO sent 25 international experts to China and here are their main findings after 9 days

My Uncle sent me the link for this, it’s a couple of days old. Originally posted on Reddit, authored by what looks like it’s The WHO (Sorry I don’t use Reddit much)


The WHO has sent a team of international experts to China to investigate the situation, including Clifford Lane, Clinical Director at the US National Institutes of Health. Here is the press conference on Youtube and the final report of the commission as PDF after they visited Beijing, Wuhan, Shenzhen, Guangzhou and Chengdu. Here are some interesting facts about Covid that I have not yet read in the media:

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Twitter/Trump Poetry Humour – Mistermuse

Mistermuse commented on my post – entitled “There’s Writers And Then There’s Writers”

The comment is funny and made me laugh – Even though I’m anti-“Orange man bad”, relatively neutral on Trump – I don’t trust him, the same as I don’t trust pretty much any/all politicians.

Humour is still humour, and good writing is still good writing, at the end of the day :

“There’s writers and then there’s writers”….
There’s a tweet writer who’s nothing but an inciter.
I’m all right with “writers and then there’s writers”
But the tweet writer who Trumps them all is a blighter.

 

Author “Mistermuse” – https://theobservationpost.wordpress.com/about/

Also it’s possible I didn’t get the point, so, apologies if that’s the case.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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