Today’s prompt – “Disapproval”
A. Imagine someone disapproves of what you’ve said, what you’re doing or worse who you are. Imagine passive aggressive disapproval, ignoring, catty remarks, responsibility shifting, emotional projection (denial with blaming). Imagine aggressive disapproval, verbal abuse and threats, physical abuse and threats. What does this mean to you ? Why do you care if someone disapproves of you ? How will you defend yourself ? Will you succumb to force or stand strong ? Are you annoyed because you feel you’re being strong armed or bullied ?
Then imagine what it’s like to be them, what hurt must they be suffering in order to be so hostile and defensive ? Empathise with how they must be feeling. Does this make you want to change your point of view, what you are saying, who you are or what you are doing ? Or not ? Do you feel they are being childish by sulking ? Do you feel maybe they have a point ? Or Not ?
B. Put the shoe on the other foot, imagine you disapprove of someone else, what they’ve said, who they are or what they are doing. What does this mean to you ? What are you trying to prove ? What is it so important to you that you must show hostility towards another person ? Does logic go out of the window, and you want to “win” through any means and at any cost ? Why do you feel so strongly that you must be hostile in order to rectify what you perceive is “wrong” ? Do you perceive yourself as holier than thou ? Do thoughts of violence appear towards the other ? Are you a bully ? Are you strong enough to withstand a defence or counter-attack ?
Then imagine what it’s like to be the other person, hated, an outcast, worried for their safety for an imminent attack, relationship, friendship and alliance withdrawn. Bullied, oppressed, abused and attacked. Do you feel less or more like continuing with your disapproval when you empathise with them ? Did you get it right, are they really a “bad” person ? Is it possible you made a mistake and lost your temper too quickly ? Could you live and let live ? What if you’re the one that got it “wrong” ?
Why ? You’re a fiction writer or screenplay writer for movies. How do you expect to put together a believable enthralling drama, if you don’t understand the basic human emotional and interactive mechanisms ? Drama is based generally in conflict, and disapproval is surely a conflict mechanism.
Why 2 ? You’re a photographer, you’ve just shot 400 photos a photoshoot for a client, how do you choose the “best” photos to give to your client, if you don’t even really understand something like disapproval ? – I’ve even photographed disapproval, see my post on “the parrot pimp”, I wouldn’t have got those great shots if I’d caved in to the parrot pimp’s disapproval.
Why 3 ? Disapproval is a blocking mechanism. It’s a moving out of relationship with another person. It can be used creatively in improvisation as part of the scene, the opposite of accepting. So it’s introducing a fundamental concept of an incredibly simple “method” for creatives. It’s the closest thing I’ve found to magic pill creativity.
Why 4 ? You’re a great designer, you design bridges or tables or book covers or some shit. You still have to persuade other people to buy your designs, use them, build them etc. If you don’t understand disapproval how you ever expect to overcome an objection, just abandon the sale or bridge building because someone disapproved of something you did ?
Why 5 ? In part an individual’s charisma can be measured by their ability to be able to process disapproval, criticism and other blocking and negativity, intelligently. Wouldn’t a bit of time giving it some thought be useful therefore, for someone who wanted to be more charismatic ?
Why 6 ? Daily I get people asking me how they can improve their blog – “Please have a look at my blog and critique and tell me how I can do it better” … These prompts are it, I’m not going to critique individual blogs, I’m giving away something far more valuable than a few tips, I’m giving you the HOW THAT GOES INTO IT. Give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach a man to fish feed him for a lifetime.
Why 7 ? Didn’t someone say “criticism is the breakfast of champions” ? Well what do you think disapproval is ?
Why 8 ? This is kind of getting ridiculous. But I started these prompts to be something different from the normal prompts I see floating about – today’s prompt “Oranges” … yawn … sheeple … boring … My prompts are for people who want to go beyond the safe, the ordinary, the comfort zone and explore and push out beyond, past the barriers into unlocking their creativity and spontaneity, become all they can be. I could go on giving other reasons all day, all night and all the next day … but I haven’t got all day, if you didn’t get it by now … well perhaps you will later … it’s really all the same to me, I’m having fun anyway.
Write about it. Design it. Draw it. Paint it. Photograph it. Whatever it. Publish it.
Resources & Sources
Sulking Pouting Woman – morgueFile.com
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