Good friends all know that I’m impossibly forgetful over important dates and keeping in touch. What seems to happen is that I get focused on what I’m doing, and time just evaporates.
I’d say it’s a male thing, but I’m not convinced it is. Those who know me personally would surely attest I’m pretty cool guy – so there’s never any harm intended in my “forgetfulness”.
I make a point in responding to my comments here on the blog PERSONALLY, each and every one. AND I aim to do this as quickly as possible. It’s how I think it should be done, and don’t really care how other people do it. I think the personal touch is partly what has made my blog so popular, so I do my best to keep that personal touch … people like to connect with other people, basically 😀
Over the past weeks I’ve been answering up to 500 comments a day. If I devote just 30 seconds to each comment, well that’s over 4 hours replying to comments a day. If I’m replying to a complex comment, then could take 30 minutes per comment, for 500 comments that would be 10.5 days 24/7. SO look *really* long hours and days for me.
My point – I do my best to give individual attention to everyone, but I have limited resources. Sometimes it just has to be a smiley face to acknowledge that I’ve seen and read someone’s comment – for me that’s just good manners.
In a world of ideals I’d have 5 writers, a full time photographer, a researcher, a full time fund-raiser and a full time technical geek. But money isn’t currently forthcoming to pay all of those people, expenses and equipment. So I do my best with what I have, to produce the best quality content I can, within what I’m capable of and what I have.
Yesterday was as busy as any other. What did make me stop and think was a young woman who’s new to blogging. She’s looking to make new connections, the same as all of us. WORDPRESS IS SOCIAL, AND WILL BECOME MORE SO. And basically I hadn’t had time to visit her blog, in her own words I’m probably – a “forgetful friend”.
Becca is interested in photography and socialising – she took the above photo herself. It’s a photo that actually captures a lot, the condensation on the window, the winter day outside … the condensation in focus and outdoors blurred. Good job – it has depth and is interesting to me. Much much more so than photoshopped-stock-spam because it has character, individuality and authenticity. But most of all she’s shared something real, from her real life 😀
I’d love her to have the same positive experiences that I’ve had here – with the many inspiring and good hearted people around me I’ve met here. You guys are one of the main reasons I’m still here.
I know there’s many lovely people in my readership – so guys and gals, please drop by and say hello. She’s Becca and blogs at – bexy695blog.wordpress.com
So in summary – my resources are very limited, but I do my best. I can’t help everyone 24/7/365, it’s simply impossible. You guys can help yourselves – for instance share your blog posts that you think I might be interested in and congruent with on my – “Share Your Blog Here :D” page OR connect with the other bloggers on that page yourself. IT’S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE …
Also you can meet the entry requirements for “Team Charisma World People”, for a guest blog spot. The bar isn’t all that high, I promise you – just would take a little effort to write some comments. Others managed it, five so far and a sixth on the way.
And I do do my best to help bloggers who I feel are deserving such as Becca, as and when I can.
BASICALLY – There’s really little excuse for people who’re helping themselves, not receiving my assistance. Those I won’t help are the “something-for-nothing” brigade. Lazy, egocentric and over-privileged basically. I’m donating massive amounts of time and energy here – the least you can do is put some effort in yourself or put some money into my blog.
I WOULD LIKE to see more donors and sponsors come forward, however I can’t make people help us financially. Whilst we’re not receiving financial support I have to concentrate on other commitments and our business DonCharisma.com for finances. SO I have less time to be doing this blog, and even less time to be helping people.
I have setup a gift page for those wishing to donate or sponsor – “Gift Page”. We’re 100% discrete, and we’re very grateful for assistance that’s given. We’re not currently accepting anonymous donors or sponsors – hence the no donate button on this blog.
PLUS I need time to rest, and do other things apart from helping other people. Sure I do really get a kick from seeing others succeed, it’s one of the best feelings in the world. But has to be with respect for me too …
BASICALLY – I do my best, within what I have, which isn’t all that much.
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