Making Friends With Yourself – Don Charisma’s Prompt


Today’s prompt – “Making Friends With Yourself”

DonCharisma.org-Man-In-The-Mirror

 

MAKING FRIENDS WITH YOURSELF

There’s only really one person you need to learn to make friends with. Look in the mirror and you’ll see that person. He or she is the only one that truly matters. He/she is the only person who will ever experience all that you experience. So might as well be friends with your lifelong companion.

OR put another way, if you don’t like yourself, then why would you expect anyone else to ?

Liking yourself and being able to spend enjoyable time by yourself I believe is the foundation of being able to be friends with other people. A simple analogy is when they say “fit your own oxygen mask first” in the aeroplane safety briefing. Why is that ? Because you can’t help anyone else if you’re dead. Once I’m dead I can’t really be a friend to another. Simple logic.

Yesterday I had a bit of “me time”, I left on my own, travelled on my own, looked around the shops on my own and came home on my own. I didn’t actually end up buying what I set out to look for as they didn’t have a deal that suited me. I did buy a few things that I needed, some pasta and home things. I had a nice long walk and time spent with just the man in the mirror, listened to my music, walked and enjoyed being me. My day was happy and pleasant enough, largely stress/hassle free.

DO – When you have some “me time”, plan a trip to do something that you want to do. Could be shopping, a movie, a show/play, a walk in the park/by the sea or just chillaxing in a private spot, in your own garden maybe … whatever, doesn’t matter you choose what you want to do. Go there on your own, be as alone as you can when you get there, and come home alone. Obviously be polite to friendly passers by if they happen to talk to you, but don’t go with the intention of “making friends”. And don’t go with the intention of doing things for others, your intention is to do for yourself. Think about how you can make your trip more enjoyable, as a friend or friends would do for you – do those things for yourself. Use the challenging bits to learn and become a better friend to yourself, and perhaps later a better friend to others.

IF YOU FEEL YOU WANT TO – THEN DO DO, BUT ONLY PUBLISH IF YOU FEEL 100% COMFORTABLE TO DO SO :

Write about it. Design it. Draw it. Paint it. Photograph it. Compose it. Play it. Whatever it. Publish it. Job Done.

Do it because you want to try something new, learn something, not for a reward. Pingback me and leave a comment with the link to your work.

Cheers

Don Charisma

“Give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime”


Resources & Sources

Man in the mirror – morgueFile.com


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41 thoughts on “Making Friends With Yourself – Don Charisma’s Prompt

  1. Who would you rather live with your enemy or your friend? I’ve been working on this for 25 years. Great prompt! I am writing and painting about this subject. The project is called Yellow Bird. ❤

  2. Reblogged this on Commit to Be Fit and commented:
    This post is definitely something that we all need to live by, and I am slowly getting there to loving myself again. Cheers to that! 🙂 It’s important to love yourself before even being able to try to get others to love you, and these are good rules to follow. It’s important to just have some “Me time” every On my way! and then.

  3. We all need to realise that having downtime for ourselves is so important. It gives us time to focus what is more important in life and even helps having those moments where we can find what is beneath us, realising some of the opportunities we have neglected for inner growth or finding the creative side in us. Solitude is great therapy! 🙂

      1. That’s the thing isn’t it? Sharing the concepts we have had shared with us? Not much I think that has not be passed along to me from someone who was in a place where they were able to share enough without giving all of their space away – in so setting the example of being a friend to yourself too. Even if it they were just setting up the triggers of thought. (of course we can learn a lot from ‘enemies’ too – maybe even just the ‘what not too’s’ – IN FACT – I am sure we can learn THOSE from friends too!)
        I am sure we are meant to do that as we move along through life – grow and learn they say 😀
        Can be elaborated on till we get dizzy of course – then it oversteps the mark of that space and ME time 😉 Then what are we good for?

  4. It has taken me well into my 50s to become comfortable with myself. as an individual mostly due to the fact that I have finally embraced everything about me that I thought I didn’t like.and actually, you know, I’m okay. I like myself and I love my life. I don’t mind it if isn’t interesting to others it suits me.and that is all that matters..
    Bright blessings
    x

  5. I’ve never had a problem being with me. I’m my own favorite person! But I get your point. It is important for people to be alright being by themselves. To “need” to be around others all of the time is a very unattractive quality. As my acting teacher used to say, regarding love scenes, needing each other is not sexy. Wanting each other is.

    1. LOL, a general prompt not specifically for any individual, that delves into a topic that’s sensitive for some … and yes needed vs wanted a discussion that’s familiar to me … the ideal is to be all “wanted”, but when is life entirely ideal ?

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