“Critics” – Don Charisma’s Opinion

Dr Willy has kindly decided to grace me with his comment on my about page. He is awaiting my approval, which will happen as and when I feel like it. The previous post was a prompt, this one is an opinion post, so feel free to share your opinions here.

I’ve drafted a reply, which I may or may not post, up to me really.

Thanks for following my blog. I suppose your blog is an intelligent kind of spam based on the wish of bloggers to let their ego develop on the net.
I have respect for your intelligence and wish you good luck.

(Kind thanks to drwilly of drwillylip.wordpress.com)

Aside : Willy is a word we use for “penis” in the UK, not that I’m implying that Dr Willy is a penis, obviously.

My draft reply :

Interestingly you’ve shown degree of social intelligence and tact, which does put you a cut above. And of course you are welcome for the follow. As for ego, takes one to know one, an egoless person doesn’t see ego. Your comment seems to come from a fairly weak sense of self because of your need to criticise others that you only know at face value. Spam is an unwanted communication, which a blog isn’t, so I’m afraid you’re out of luck with that assertion. Further, your use of plausible deniability (“I suppose”) and veiled hostility (“spam” and “ego”), are largely unwelcome and unwanted communications in my eyes, so you are indeed generating spam yourself in your communications to me. Two wrongs I’m led to believe don’t make a right, so your attempt to do so would only strengthen my assertion of your own weak sense of self.

Not that I think you’re listening (egotistical people like you rarely do) but I would suggest perhaps in future that you take a look in the mirror before letting lose with your own ego and spam.

That said, I thank you for an interesting comment, which mirrors what I think a lot of men feel about social media. So as an egocentic neandarthal relic, with little in the way of social intelligence, you are not alone, if that is any consolation.

Nice sparing with you 🙂

Warm regards


Over to you guys 🙂

Warm regards

Don Charisma

PS (Clint Eastwood is my celeb name for this post … for fun you may think up a tenuous connection if you like, please keep it clean and respectful, otherwise I may not be able to post)

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Notes for commenters:

Don Charisma Warning Improvised Writing

Comments are invited. BUT you are reminded that this is a public blog and you are also reminded to think before you press the “post comment” button. 

Good manners are a mark of a charismatic person – so please keep comments civil, non-argumentative, constructive and related, or they will be moderated. If you feel you can’t comply, press the “unfollow” button and/or refrain from commenting.

I read ALL comments but can’t always reply. I will comment if I think there’s something that I can add to what you’ve said. I do delete without notice comments that don’t follow rules above. For persistent offenders I will ignore you permanently and/or report you.

Most decent people already know how to behave respectfully. Thank you for your co-operation on the above.

Warm regards, Don Charisma


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74 thoughts on ““Critics” – Don Charisma’s Opinion

      1. ..that’s because your line on the Willy thing 😀 😀
        That one, is really a Willyblog! 🙂

      2. 😀 ..oh… well, ther’re so many ways to name OUR beloved friend FRITZ..
        .. willy in Italian is: pisello (( pea ))
        .. ok.. all audience out there, put children to bed now.. this is going to be serious 🙂

      3. Oh.. YES, it really has.. it equals the term co-k.. :-O
        .. it’s written with a double “zz” because in Italian a “TZ” in a word doesn’t exist. The sound that word produces is funny and direct!!
        Ok and after this pearls of noble grammar.. I’d like to offer you a slice of this wonderful apple-pie that 2 hours ago my She took out of the microwave.. niiiice
        Great Don 🙂

      4. LOL, so it’s my phonetic writing 🙂 … and yes heard it before, I used to have an italian girlfriend … she used to like saying – “porko putana merda” … which I’m sure you’re used to in Italy … slice of apply excellent, and I see some excellent photos on your blog my friend, very good indeed 🙂

      5. Thank you dear Don. Yesterday we had a great time in Bosco Fontana, a magical place 🙂
        A hug 🙂

      6. Thank you.. hey Don, I’m downloading this afternoon’s photos taken at the Old Viniyl and Comics Fair.. 🙂
        tomorrow I’ll make a post of them.. you’ll have to see.. they’re … emh.. .. 😀 😀 may I send you one privately as a preview?

  1. Pretentious twaddle, really, isn’t it? It reminds me of when I read some artists’ statements and within a few seconds my eyes cross and I wonder what the hell they’re going on about. Plain and simple gets it every time.

  2. I say, ignore it and….trash his comment. I am reminded of a Dilbert comic, years ago. Dilbert is talking to Catbert. Catbert states, “anytime I think someone says something stupid, I just wave my hand at them and go..bah.” Dilbert says, but that’s not very nice. and Catbert replies, bah.

    Had it framed and hanging in my cubicle for several years. When I retired a couple of months ago, I took it down and gave it to a nice, promising, smart alecky young engineer I had been mentoring. I wished him luck and with a huge grin on his face, he waved his hand at me and said, bah.

  3. I think I’m going to have that Wee Willie Winkie rhyme playing through my mind for a while now. 😀 That comment could be seriously hurtful though – it’s amazing how people think that it’s alright to be as nasty as they like just because they’re on the internet and not in kicking distance.

  4. I’m actually a really nice and friendly person believe it or not Don!! Childish and annoying as hell mainly but when events warrant, I’m an utter bitch. That’s not necessarily a bad thing though. It’s good to have a mean streak we let out once in a while that reminds people not to overstep the mark.

    I’m dying to go in search of the “Larry and his larger than average lice” blog now to be honest – just to see what he has on offer.

    1. I do believe it and wasn’t casting aspersions on your upstandingness as a charismatic woman … merely that I should probably be polite during our discourses 🙂

      I wouldn’t bother, it’s not overly interesting blog, and I think I had to use translate on it … still “she who dares wins” …

      1. Don’t be daft!! Honestly you’d do well to upset or offend me even with effort. There are prizes for whoever manages it at my home and workplace I’m sure but nobody has scooped the jackpot yet.

        I’d just keep an eye open and see whether anything else crops up but wonder if it might even be that the comment was genuine and not intended to be arsy at all?! Maybe it came over that way just because of the formality. That’s happened to me before.

        Anyway, I’m off with my daughter’s camera to try and get some random pictures of stuff she’ll find in another few weeks and spend ages trying to work out. Catch you later on! 🙂

  5. The childish angle isn’t for everyone but I personally love it. The beauty of occasionally being this immature is that haters with ideas about their views and opinions having some level of superiority won’t allow themselves to sink to my level and return a childish swipe which I really love because it means getting the last word in. It’s usually something along the lines of “fat-head” but it doesn’t matter. I still win.

    Once every now and then, someone will get my full attention and I’ll opt for a different approach and lengthier response but petulance is generally the preferred method for dealing with fully paid up members of the Hardcore Haters Club.

    The only people whose opinions I genuinely care about and value are the people I genuinely care about and value. 🙂

    1. Remind me never to piss you off auntysocial …

      As for the last sentence I’ve said almost exactly the same thing myself, although slightly different – myself, my loved ones, my friends … those are the people I matter to, and those are the people that matter to me …

  6. Looks like a backhanded compliment to me. He probably gets off on throwing people off-kilter or looking for their insecurities. Well, as I said before a bit of ego is a healthy part of a human psyche, so if he wants to accuse you or others who participate in your blog of egotism, I wouldn’t take them too seriously.

    1. LOL, nah, he’s long gone, still not very busy with his blog entitled “My Struggle” … and wonders why no one wants to read it … hmmm, not exactly rocket science !

      1. You’re a strong hearted woman, and I have a lot of respect for that … you do have his blog address so you could bypass the middleman and go straight for the jugular 🙂 Who knows he might actually be a cool guy if he stopped spitting insults 🙂

  7. A guy like this should get a clip around the ear hole.
    He shouldn’t get a single view nor reply.

    Your comment is better off being left as this post.
    That’s wot I recon!

    1. Thanks and yes that one definitely has passed through my grey matter … opposing argument would be one of letting sleeping dogs lie … so again another paradox 🙂

  8. This guy certainly seems to hit a chord with you. I love the response you drafted, but have to give the motherly advise: Ignore the ignorant jerk. Insecure folks make stupid comments hoping to get a rise out of you, engage you in a back-and-forth debate – to make themselves feel more important. Drop the issue to show him his comment was as insignificant as he is.

    1. Thanks, erm, “mum” … and yes it’ll probably end up like that …

      “growl” … that’ll be my spam queue’s tummy rumbling, haven’t fed it much recently !

  9. I wouldn’t print the comment. Newspapers sort out their letters to the editor. Same thing.

    1. Thanks, and I’m moving into concurrence with that idea at the moment … had to read and re-read the newspapers thing, but I understand the concept, just not had anyone put it so concisely before … so thanks again 🙂

  10. I truly don’t understand why someone would be insulting. If someone chooses to follow my blog, I: A) visit their blog to see what it’s about; B) determine if I want to follow back based on his or her blog content; C) make an encouraging comment if I decide to follow, or D) make no comment and beat a hasty retreat if I decide not to follow. Sometimes, I will make a positive comment if I decide not follow, but I never made a negative comment. Never. Ever. It’s their blog.

    I may disagree with a post, but if I do, I do it politely and lovingly. Why? It’s not my blog. I’m a visitor to their home. I would never visit someone’s brick and mortar home and insult them; why would I do so virtually? It’s just bad form.

    If someone visits my blog and is insulting, I will either put their comment into spam or attempt to reply in a positive way, depending upon the content of the comment. If it’s simply to insult, I won’t subject my readers to it. Gotta spread the love. 🙂

    1. Totally, I think as I indicated in my response which is looking like more for my readers benefit than Dr Willy – what you describe is social intelligence, consideration for the other person is just that …

      And like you I don’t see the point in leaving negative comments on other blogs, one just risks getting blocked through have been spam queued …

      If I don’t like someone’s blog, I unfollow or ignore them … what possibly is there to gain in leaving a negative comment ?

      1. Exactly. He was rude; I’m glad you chose to comment to us and not to him. Just shows you’re taking the higher road, Don. If Dr Willy is a young man, it’s sad his parents didn’t teach him manners. If he’s older, then he didn’t learn them in the first place, and pray he has no children upon which to burden his lack.

      2. For sure Irene … I just left a long comment for Sheilan about how I’m thinking about it. I suspect he’s an older gentleman. And in his defence he was actually polite within his rudeness, which as I said is one of the reasons why I’ve justified it with any of my time …

        I’ve found I learn a tremendous amount from these opinion posts and always very very grateful to the clever and charismatic people I have as readers, it’s a joy to behold. Also I reckon others may learn from looking at these issues, so look it’s a double or triple whammy win-win at least 🙂

  11. Childishness wins every time without fail. Haters similar to the one you’ve managed to bag expect whoever they’re having a pop at to get riled and post a long, well-written and carefully thought out response. I’d imagine him almost pissing with excitement at the little orange box telling him you’ve got back – followed by confusion / disappointment and quiet defeat when he reads your cutting remark about how he smells and has head lice so big you can even see from the MOON.

    Either that or I’d ask if he likes Pokemon because you’re starting a new blog about it only it’ll be way better than his because everyone will know about his mammoth sized head lice.

  12. One thing for sure; he is not and will never be charismatic in your great way to be a gentleman who knows how to act, talk and communicate with other people.

    One thing is, that you are intelligent another that you don’t use to abuse it in any way, so just ignore that foolish behaviour Don.

    We like you as you are so just continue at your good way to blog 🙂

    1. Thanks Irene, and yes I figured someone who genuinely wanted to make friends, probably wouldn’t have left that comment … I keep doing what I’m doing, and having fun doing it, I like to share with people reading what’s going on, and this guy’s insults are what was going on today 🙂

      1. There’s also a learning in here for me, and perhaps for my readers … so it’s useful to get several perspectives … largely I’m with you on the can’t get no satisfaction from a mind that’s closed, although if others around observing get what you’re saying then it probably doesn’t matter whether the closed mind gets it or not … so there’s not just the one-one conversation to consider, there’s the larger arena of *everyone*, which is probably more important to me than individual conversations with morons who aren’t interested in what I have to say anyway …

      2. Good then my job is done … I’m looking at the whole thing via the concept of “status”, which I did a prompt about few days ago … dr willy wants a dick measuring competition in order to find out where he is in the pecking order (no pun intended), which starts with a challenge or confrontation – “now look here young pup, I’m the boss in these parts, now piss off” … now from my improv rules I could lower my status, “yes you are right dr willy, I’m just trying to prop up my feeble ego, and all I write is pathetic spam” to which he’d feel all superior and in charge, vindicated and validated or I could raise my status and squash him, to which he’d feel rejected and lowered, and probably never speak to me again, the beta lion that strolls the plains alone … no decision has been made, I’m preferring to deal with these decisions in a group as I think we all can learn from the process … in all honesty it’s one of the most refreshing processes I’ve experienced in a long time … every opinion post I’ve done I’ve learnt something, often invaluable wisdom 🙂

      3. With you on Auntysocial Sheilan, I think you and I probably quite similar, because you’ve said it how I view it which is I can’t understand why people would want to risk everything for a fight … I think pushing outside one’s comfort zone doesn’t hurt too … learning from masters, rather than taking the long route can be a noble short-cut, I feel 🙂

  13. See – that’s a good, sensible and intelligent response. I would probably have just replied with “Shut it you bit fat stinky poo-head” which believe it or not, would have had me howling with laughter and unable to breathe for about six minutes. You can’t beat a good childish return to knock someone off course. Childish, immature insults are the absolute shit.

    Nicely done though. Enjoy gearing up in readiness for his response 🙂

    1. LOL, so many great teachers I have here on WordPress … I did consider a plain straight insult, but felt the guy had shown some intelligence with his comment, so worthy of some explaination … however, probably his “ego” will filter it out, so childish immature insult might be more effective …

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