No advice in first person please, I’m asking for your opinions on the topic (in the title) … personal advise will (probably) be laughed at vigorously …
Childhood – some had great ones others had awful ones. Lucky for the lucky ones. But what of those who had a terrible time – bullied or abused, terrorised or a narcissist’s object, unloved or abandoned, and so on ? Is it possible to have a great adulthood, even with a terrible childhood ? And of course are all adults “happy” who had what would be considered “a great childhood” ?
Many widely accepted paradigms suggest that – what we do, how we feel and who we become in adulthood is directly related to our experiences as children. Obviously a paradigm isn’t “the truth”, it’s just a way of looking at things, an opinion. When the paradigm is widely accepted, and collectively believed, then it becomes a “widely accepted opinion”, again which not “the truth”. Within that, perhaps it’s true for the majority of people that quality of childhood equals quality of adulthood … many in the psychology field seem to believe this to be true.
Far be it for me to say, but – is that way of thinking perhaps just a convenient way to excuse being miserable, or a victim, or worse in adult life (a question, not a statement) ?
A more progressive paradigm might suggest that childhood has nothing to do with who we are in adulthood. Probably not a majority opinion, but that doesn’t make it “not true”.
It’s also possible that difficulties and challenges may build us into stronger, more capable and happier adults. This I believe is another widely accepted paradigm ?
Are we fated to serendipitously live into a predestined adulthood as a direct extrapolation of our childhoods, or do we have the free will to be who we want to be ?
For bottom feeders, the question is – does one’s childhood determine one’s adulthood, or not ?
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