I’m curious due to occasional comments I get on the famous people’s quotes that I post, where people seem more concerned with discussing the person, than what the person actually said …
Do we judge first and listen later, or listen first and judge later ?
Can a person who’s a jerk, or an asshole, or we don’t like for some reason or another, actually say something wise, helpful, useful or worthwhile, or do we just filter out everything they say ?
And conversely do we listen to (and believe) complete bullshit and rubbish from people who we hold in high esteem ?
And how would you like it if people didn’t listen to your actual words, but filtered it through a judgement about you ?
Do we let our prejudice and hate get in the way of reason and rational learning ?
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. Wayne Dyer
Wayne Dyer says it pretty well. I’ve also heard the same said thus – “Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.” OR…
“Says more about you than it says about them” 🙂 … or “Says more about you than it says about me” 😀
When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?
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