When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?

I’m curious due to occasional comments I get on the famous people’s quotes that I post, where people seem more concerned with discussing the person, than what the person actually said …

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Do we judge first and listen later, or listen first and judge later ?

Can a person who’s a jerk, or an asshole, or we don’t like for some reason or another, actually say something wise, helpful, useful or worthwhile, or do we just filter out everything they say ?

And conversely do we listen to (and believe) complete bullshit and rubbish from people who we hold in high esteem ?

And how would you like it if people didn’t listen to your actual words, but filtered it through a judgement about you ?

Do we let our prejudice and hate get in the way of reason and rational learning ?

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer says it pretty well. I’ve also heard the same said thus – “Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.” OR…

“Says more about you than it says about them” 🙂 … or “Says more about you than it says about me” 😀

When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?

Cheers

Don Charisma

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19 thoughts on “When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?

  1. “I’ve also heard the same said thus – “Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.”

    But did you judge rightly that this was wisdom according to the parameters implied in your questions? *grin*

    “people seem more concerned with discussing the person, than what the person actually said”
    I see this differently than you do. Could be our simple interest in biography and story, esp if we like the few things we hear out of someone’s mouth. That’s what I thought I could do on my blog my first year, keep distance, not bore readers with who I am or glimpses into my life. Talk concepts, ideas. It was a marvel to see they enjoyed getting to know ME. They loved the more personal stuff. Still getting over it after inviting input on posts on a recent thread. They confirmed this, asked more about the family and my own faith.

    1. I’d like to study you in more detail, but today I find myself a little busy … other than to say – I don’t do introspection on request …

      And I understand intimately the equation you’re talking about … if it’s real, and you can keep it up well done … if it’s not, then, well it’s not real, obviously …

  2. Great point you make. Sure wish political advertisements would list a candidates accomplishments instead of his or hers accusations.

    Regards and goodwill blogging.

  3. Don, very good post. It sort of goes along with my current post on Renaissance Musings, “Question Everything…” Would it be okay with you if I reblog this post?

    Thanks, Jeff

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