When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?


I’m curious due to occasional comments I get on the famous people’s quotes that I post, where people seem more concerned with discussing the person, than what the person actually said …

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Do we judge first and listen later, or listen first and judge later ?

Can a person who’s a jerk, or an asshole, or we don’t like for some reason or another, actually say something wise, helpful, useful or worthwhile, or do we just filter out everything they say ?

And conversely do we listen to (and believe) complete bullshit and rubbish from people who we hold in high esteem ?

And how would you like it if people didn’t listen to your actual words, but filtered it through a judgement about you ?

Do we let our prejudice and hate get in the way of reason and rational learning ?

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer says it pretty well. I’ve also heard the same said thus – “Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.” OR…

“Says more about you than it says about them” 🙂 … or “Says more about you than it says about me” 😀

When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?

Cheers

Don Charisma

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19 thoughts on “When Did We Stop Listening To People’s Words And Listen To Their Reputations Instead ?

  1. “I’ve also heard the same said thus – “Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.”

    But did you judge rightly that this was wisdom according to the parameters implied in your questions? *grin*

    “people seem more concerned with discussing the person, than what the person actually said”
    I see this differently than you do. Could be our simple interest in biography and story, esp if we like the few things we hear out of someone’s mouth. That’s what I thought I could do on my blog my first year, keep distance, not bore readers with who I am or glimpses into my life. Talk concepts, ideas. It was a marvel to see they enjoyed getting to know ME. They loved the more personal stuff. Still getting over it after inviting input on posts on a recent thread. They confirmed this, asked more about the family and my own faith.

    1. I’d like to study you in more detail, but today I find myself a little busy … other than to say – I don’t do introspection on request …

      And I understand intimately the equation you’re talking about … if it’s real, and you can keep it up well done … if it’s not, then, well it’s not real, obviously …

  2. Don, very good post. It sort of goes along with my current post on Renaissance Musings, “Question Everything…” Would it be okay with you if I reblog this post?

    Thanks, Jeff

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