I have a long time female friend who’s dutch, more than 15 years we’ve known each other. She’s the salt of the earth, one of the most likeable people I know. A real ambassador’ese of Dutch and everything Dutch.
So I’m always a little bemused by Dutch men I’ve come across on WordPress who seem to be utter sociopathic trolls, it beggars belief. Don’t get me wrong – I’m sure there are some cool Dutch guys out there, happy for you guys to prove me wrong. Do make yourselves known, before I end up reaching a hopefully wrong conclusion!
I closed the comments on my home page and about page, not because of all the lovely charismatic people who leave comments for me there all the time. But for morons like Jimmy who seem to have had the charismatic part of their personality removed – perhaps it’s not enough love from the mother or perhaps they are bitter for another reason, kids wouldn’t play with them in playground ? Wouldn’t like to comment, I’m not a psychologist.
Jimmy seems to feel the need to spew his inner angst all over my comments, with the expectation that I’ll publish it. I dunno where you got the idea that I would Jimmy, I tend to just laugh or use this kind of stuff to enhance my blogging. That’s the only charismatic way I can deal with it, apart from spam queuing it.
So here’s Jimmy’s comment and if I could have been bothered, what my replies would have been :
How blogging seems to work
Indeed ! And you’re telling me after 2 years at it !
I ‘run’ a Dutch blog since it’s my native language and I’m better at expressing my thoughts and feelings this way. Obviously it really narrows my chance at getting followers and/or view(er)s.
If you want more followers you’ve got to respond to as many blogs as possible, this is the way to get exposure. There seems to be a trade going on: “I follow you, you follow me”.
So it’s a blog just for Dutch people, so then you’re a racist ? I’ve been using Babelfish for decades and Google translate more recently, I can read pretty much anything in pretty much any language. So not understanding why this would limit your chance of getting followers. Which leads me back to the start of this paragraph, you’re a racist. Or at best a big pessimist.
“I follow you, you follow me” … horseshit … I’ve never followed a blog expecting the blogger to follow me back. If they like my blog and want to follow me, then good. If not, then also good. It’s all the same for me. There’s no forcing someone to like something, they like or they don’t, it’s subjective and up to them, and nothing to do with me.
I’m really oblivious to the real ‘goal’ of having a blog.
You have no goal, no dream, no purpose in life ? I find that hard to believe to be honest, but up to you if you want to randomly drift from one troll episode to the next … each to their own … idle hands and all that …
Also doesn’t surprise me that you’d blame other people for your problems, when you don’t have the courage to set a direction in your life and get on with it. It’s easy to blame others, hard to take responsibility for yourself and get the fuck on with it. That’s life, either take control of your life, or it’ll seem like others are in control. Blame doesn’t generally fix anything. Hard work and effort quite often does.
It seems to me the quality doesn’t matter, better blogs don’t have more followers. What it seems to be about? Selling yourself, like a cheap whore, the cheaper the better. As cheaply as possible, to as many people as possible.
Quality doesn’t matter ? You must be kidding, I’ve spent days/weeks on some of most popular posts, really you’re just being rude whether you know it or not. Weeks/months/years I’ve put into the content on my blog, so I do take umbrage on that fella. Not feeling any empathy from you, it’s all about you, you, you.
Better blogs don’t have more followers ? … horseshit … I know blogs with a hand-full of followers that are awesome, and ones that have 250000 or more followers that are awesome … there’s no correlation between followers and how good a blog is or isn’t. IT’S THE CHARISMA OF THE PERSON BEHIND THE BLOG THAT COUNTS – CLEARLY THIS IS SOMETHING YOU DON’T POSSESS JIMMY.
AND you’re pissed off with the way communities and social life goes, you shouldn’t have to present yourself in a positive way, after all, you’re special aren’t you Jimmy, so people should just adore you for you being you ? How old are you, five ? A bit narcissistic Jimmy …
Some random idiot followed me today. I wanted to know why this person was interested in my blog, seems the fucker doesn’t even speak Dutch. Do I follow back? Of course I don’t. Selling out makes you a good blogger, good enough to award yourself with the most influential blogger award.
So now you’re calling me a “random idiot”, not very nice Jimmy, where’s your manners ? You were doing OK up until this point … one thing I do know though is – if you’re able to be rude, you won’t mind me being rude back … or perhaps you’re a cry-baby troll too ?
Is your blog that crap, that rubbish, that pointless that others wouldn’t like it … selling yourself a bit short, and not much confidence going into how you perceive yourself ? Seems a little bit insecure to be asking why someone likes you blog, personally I know some do, some don’t like mine, why is the why so important ? Why could I care what they like or don’t like, I’m not them. I like what I like and that’s enough for me.
AS FOR WHAT I LIKE AND DON’T LIKE, THAT’S ACTUALLY NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS. YOU PRESUME TO DECIDE WHAT I LIKE AND DON’T LIKE BASED ON UTTER IGNORANCE, WITHOUT EVEN BOTHERING TO GET TO KNOW ME. HOW SUPERFICIAL AND PRETENTIOUS YOU ARE. AND YOU HAVE THE GALL TO ACCUSE OTHERS OF BEING THE SAME.
You call me “fucker” which is just rude, and how the fuck do you know I don’t speak Dutch. IN ANY CASE with the aforementioned Google translate doesn’t matter if I speak Dutch or not, I can still read your blog.
So you didn’t follow back … well whoopy-shit Jimmy, what the big man with the principles you are … I’ve met five year olds less petty than you. You don’t need to tell me you didn’t follow me back, I don’t actually care. I might actually go out and celebrate that you didn’t follow me back. An unfollower party, yay !
I was awarded the “most influential blogger” by other bloggers, posted about it, look for yourself. Even spent hours creating a new badge try and spruce the award up a little. It was the last award I gave out, which is why it’s still on my sidebar. I’ve given out many many awards, and hope to continue to do so as and when I have time. I think awards are good for blogging, and couldn’t care less what anti-award neigh-sayers say – the arguments I heard where all *WRONG* misinformed sensationalist spin. NEVER-EVER will I feel ashamed to display an award badge when someone was kind enough to bestow it on me.
No need to follow me
Consider yourself “not on my following list”, for being one of the least charismatic people I’ve spoken to this week, perhaps this quarter, maybe even this year.
Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy
Please grow the fuck up Jimmy. Many might share your disappointments with how social life can be at times. Others of us have chosen to just accept the annoyances and get on with enjoying our lives and being happy as best we can despite the deficiencies in human nature. If you feel inner angst about it, blog about it, that’s a good way to let it out. But I suspect you probably don’t have the balls to blog about anything real.
I’m not your counsellor or dad, so have a little bit of respect when you leave comments on my blog, or piss off to be honest.
There are good people out there, but you won’t find them if you’re so angry about stuff no one can do anything about. And when you project your personal problems onto other people, you’re very unlikely to get a positive response. Making it personal with someone who isn’t actually responsible won’t help you. But perhaps that’s what you want, I’m not omnipotent, I am the only partially seeing, not perfect Don Charisma.
Oh, and thanks for this 1700 word blog you just helped me write 😀 I am grateful for that Jimmy, it’s the alchemy of turning a negative into a positive. New bloggers that been asking me for tips, there’s one right there – Don’t let the bastards grind you down aka learn to turn negatives into positives.
On the whole and in general, I love the positivity new bloggers bring to this community, at other times, well just meh really – prefer you went back to Facebook and left us to enjoy WordPress pettiness free … but then what else would I blog about ? Kittens ?
Over to you …
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Warm regards, Don Charisma