“Can I Say Whatever I Want On Your Blog ?” – Don Charisma’s Opinion

Short answer – No, you can’t.

Why ? I am responsible for the content on my blog, legally responsible as well as ethically and morally responsible.

I only publish content AND COMMENTS that I am congruent with. So I won’t publish an article on the ill treatment of the natives of a small fishing village in outskirts of nowhere, because I am NOT CONGRUENT WITH IT, I’ve never been there I don’t know all the facts, and perhaps I’m not interested in them either. Perhaps they HATE English people, in which case I probably couldn’t care less about their predicament.

I asked a commenter recently to re-read my disclaimer, asked them to desist from being argumentative and stop being irrelevant in their commenting. They then had the gall to tell me I was being more argumentative than they were. Then continues on with her irrelevant commenting.

Also the comments were politically motivated, and I don’t support the politics either way. I won’t be strong armed or manipulated with “clever” wording into supporting a political movement that I’m agnostic to. I understand how political manipulators work – they want as quickly as possible into a loyalty conversation (you being loyal to them), might even be the start of the conversation. I do not give my support when someone tries to strong arm me into being loyal to any cause. I may choose after careful consideration, to support because I so choose, but not to make the person or the movement happy or because they tried to guilt me or force me to support. Not gonna happen not ever, in fact your more likely to strengthen my resolve and push me into the anti-side. It’s called integrity on my side. It’s called manipulative on the persuaders side.

Smart politicians use charm and charisma, they speak slowly and confidently, have patience, take time, it’s confidence that comes from true strength. Bully-manipulative-moron politicians are weak so they try to use strong arm tactics to attempt to force one’s allegiance as quickly as possible before the manipulated party realises they’ve sworn allegiance to a house of cards or they’ve been robbed of all their valuables. These people are extremists, leaches, manipulators, thieves and haters –  generally most able minded people can see what’s going on, and don’t enjoy it happening to them or others.

Bottom line, I can’t be argumentative on MY BLOG, what I say goes, full stop/period. For the above already given reasons at the beginning. If I say “stop being argumentative” or “stop being irrelevant”, it’s not a request, it’s not thrown open to the floor for a debate, we’re not going to setup a meeting and discuss it over tea and biscuits or coffee and a chat. It means stop doing it, or no further of your comments will be published. It’s my house stop doing that in my house, or get out of it. CEASE, DESIST, NOW – not when you feel like it.

BOTTOM LINE – Be polite and relevant or f*** off, really. Wankers. (SORRY FOR THE BAD LANGUAGE, my tourettes plays up from time to time)

One of the best moves I’ve ever made on my blog is switching my comments to manual approval. I read every comment anyway, but the advantage is that I have absolute power over which comments get published and which don’t. Someone who wants to argue or troll, just never sees the light of day, rendering their efforts largely pointless. I’m simply not interested in rude, argumentative and manipulative commenters, AND NEITHER ARE MOST OTHERS IN THE WORDPRESS BLOGGING COMMUNITY.


I can’t see there’s much to add, so over to you guys …

Warm regards

Don Charisma

PS (Kylie Minogue is my celeb name for this post … for fun you may think up a tenuous connection if you like, please keep it clean and respectful, otherwise I may not be able to post)

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Notes for commenters:

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Comments are invited. BUT you are reminded that this is a public blog and you are also reminded to think before you press the “post comment” button. 

Good manners are a mark of a charismatic person – so please keep comments civil, non-argumentative, constructive and related, or they will be moderated. If you feel you can’t comply, press the “unfollow” button and/or refrain from commenting.

I read ALL comments but can’t always reply. I will comment if I think there’s something that I can add to what you’ve said. I do delete without notice comments that don’t follow rules above. For persistent offenders I will ignore you permanently and/or report you.

Most decent people already know how to behave respectfully. Thank you for your co-operation on the above.

Warm regards, Don Charisma


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82 thoughts on ““Can I Say Whatever I Want On Your Blog ?” – Don Charisma’s Opinion

  1. This was a great post, Don which presented your point clearly with intelligence and a dash of humor. You just can’t get that combination just anywhere (even at WordPress). That’s why I keep coming back…hopefully not overstaying my visits and keeping on topic when I comment.

    You’re right of course. Your Blog!! Your rules!!

    Best Regards,

    1. OOPS!! I think I used the word “just” twice in one sentence. How embarrassing…too much work and too little sleep. Hope this doesn’t disqualify me from the discussion. lol.

      Going to bed now to rest my weary brain.


    1. That’s good, and positives are that I’ve stumbled on a feature in wordpress that allows me more control of what’s happening on my blog, which I’m very happy for 🙂

  2. OOOH IT’S SO UNFAIR!!! After all, your blog is the ONLY place on the internet people can express their opinions! It’s not as though anyone could sign up for WordPress or Blogspot free and just make their own forum to express themselves! Oh no wait—the opposite of everything I just wrote, LOL. 🙂

    I know I’m interested in social issues and will speak up when they come up in topic here (like the recent post about feminism and bras) or defend myself when I feel something inaccurate has been said, hopefully I’m not being proselytizing or browbeating about it.

    1. LOL, only site worth visiting on the internet 🙂 …

      And Jenny, I’ve come to know you a little and I think you’ve come to know me a little. And I do welcome your comments, you are well informed and thoughtful, even though I don’t think we’re always in concurrence doesn’t matter to me, I do usually learn things from you 🙂

      1. Ah, ok, it was many many years ago, and it was extremely hot in 45-50 degrees … stayed for two weeks near Faliraki … I guess there are nicer places on the island to stay LOL

      2. Well , faliraki and lindos are the most crowded and hottest places on rhodes during the summer. I believe the best period to visit the island is during the low seasons.
        (mid september and october ).
        Take care and have a great day!
        Ann Marie.

      3. Yes was crowded and hot … and as I’ve matured a little now, I’m virtually not interested in bars and clubs, so would want to spend my time relaxing and having a look around … if I make it again I’ll come low season !

        Take care too

        Don Charisma

  3. I am trying to wrap my mind around the notion that some people believe 1st amendment rights extend to other peoples blogs? I had someone argue with me about this on my blog and they thought I should allow any statement they saw fit and I should have no say in the matter. Great article Don

    1. Sounds like a complete moron you had on your blog … you are legally responsible for the content of your blog and could get sued or I guess imprisoned … so no that’s complete nonsense, whoever is just a moron … block, ban, spam queue, delete, report, publicly embarrass take your pick …

      1. Yes I do find guys can lack a certain social charm online, my serious issues I’ve had to deal with have all been men … duels at dawn, pistols or sabres, type of thing … women tend to see sense and compromise, or back down when they realise you are serious, and actually seem more interesting in ongoing relationships, rather than falling out of something petty … if that makes sense …

  4. I love this! My blog, my rules! 🙂 I have been fortunate, to this point, in that the replies I get are always positive in nature. (But then, I only have a handful of followers, so that is probably why.)

    Great post, as always!

  5. I recently had someone commenting on one of my posts about addiction saying that I dont know what im talking about and just on and on, finally I just said look if you dont like what I have to say then dont read my blog. You would think people would be smart enough to figure that one out on their own.

    1. Dumb people sometimes need a helping hand to find the door, the real dumb ones might need a boot up the backside in order to proceed through the exit … perhaps a door slam would be a nice finishing touch … and yes I’ve had all sorts, it’s normal, I learn something each time, so no time is really wasted …

  6. “Smart politicians use charm and charisma, they speak slowly and confidently, have patience, take time, it’s confidence that comes from true strength. Bully-manipulative-moron politicians are weak so they try to use strong arm tactics to attempt to force one’s allegiance as quickly as possible before the manipulated party realises they’ve sworn allegiance to a house of cards or they’ve been robbed of all their valuables. These people are extremists, leaches, manipulators, thieves and haters – generally most able minded people can see what’s going on, and don’t enjoy it happening to them or others.”

    This is Brilliantly put and completely on point !!! I absolutely loved this post… Calling the trolls out…. Fantastic job ! 🙂

  7. Well said Don and I agree completely. The comments posted on my blog have always been subject to approval. It may seem like a lot of work going through them and approving, but at least you know that you get the final word on whose words are offensive or not. Not much work for me though. Don’t get a lot of comments.

  8. I couldn’t agree more! Although my blog is relatively new, so I am not at a point where comments are overwhelming. However I have already switched over my comments to manual review. Thanks Don.

  9. great post. respect for a differing opinion is quite different from slamming someone for an opinion and especially on a blog. Sorry to say there will always be ignorami (plural of ignoramus?) out there. 🙂

    1. Could well be although I never looked up the plural, if the spell checker likes it then it’s probably OK … and yes I do get confictual opinions from time to time, the polite ones seem to fair better than the rude ones … who’d have thought it !

  10. I’ve given this a few minutes to rattle about after my previous comment. Just wanted to add – there’s a big difference between differing points of view and verbal assaults.I’m more than happy to attempt understanding of some knee jerk tongue lashing.Call me crazy but my optimistic nature clings to a shred of hope reason might prevail. I draw the line quickly when respectful discussion proves futile.Life is too short to waste time on obvious small minded people. I admire your up-front stipulation it won’t be tolerated 🙂

    1. For sure, I’ve had people express differing points of view objectively and without starting it as a political loyalty conversation … these people I engage and often learn something from … what I won’t tolerate is bad behaviour, my gut usually tells me first, and with the manual approvals I have as much time as I want to let my brain catch up … Cheers Don

      1. So true. It’s no secret that I have strong opinions on the church and religion. That said, I’ve had numerous discussions on those topics with highly religious individuals resulting in no hard feelings and respect for our differences. I’ve also been told that the commenter hopes someone I love is murdered so I understand abortion issues and been invited to the “rapture” provided I change my opinion of Obama.I refuse interaction with people who believe the rings of Saturn are actually the foreskin of Jesus. 🙂

      2. True enough … I tend to stay out of religion and politics, it’s not my scene so much, plenty of nutters who hide behind the vail of one holy book or another …

        As for Saturn who knew !

      3. Yes but don’t get me started. I’m just happy there are sensible people able to present thought provoking insights without playing into the trap of negative, combative comments.

  11. I had some problems with comments too, so I know how you feel. Only a short visit this time to look around, Will come back later for a longer session. Many thanks for the follow!

  12. From start to finish: Loved this post. When I first saw the title in my feed – my first reaction was to simply say ‘NO’. So I shall leave it at that in that regard. True points; with that splash of humour – can’t ask for more really right.
    About Kylie: ‘Be polite and relevant or f*** off, really. Wankers.’ sounds so like something an Aussie person would say – I even read it in that accent! So there’s your link dude…She is Australian isn’t she? lol!

    1. Awesome Belinda, I can just image Kylie saying that now you mention, sometimes my brain just can’t make a connection, so good I’ve got cool people around like you to help me 🙂

      I’ve just typed up another post, is it possible I can put you down for a review ?



      1. ..if I had that beach – afraid it is neither for me today hey – gotsta get some other bits done in a bit.
        I think you should go for a short walk and than a little nap. Sounds like a very GOOD plan Don 😉

      2. yeah – all good hey 😉 Same old same old. Don’t want to keep you too long Don…that beach awaits you dear 😛
        (I had my time ey – 7 years near a beach and 35 under the African sun…can’t have the best of both worlds right 😉 )

      3. …I know… sometimes 😉 WHen the stars aline with jupiter and the moon is rising over saturn and the sun is ….just kidding.
        YES – it can – and it DOES. And we must be very frateful for the times when it is like that…they do not ALWAYS last. But again – sometimes – they do that too 😛
        All depends on what we hold and what we choose and what we want and strive for and – and a- and – yip.

  13. Haha. So you really wrote this because of the 0.01 per cent whose comments are below the belt! Now, you are a writer who cares for all, even the strayed sheep.

  14. Exactly what I think when I read the comments section of news sites. While it’s funny there, it might not be so when it happens in your own blog. Unfortunately, that 0.01% will never learn. They’re either bored or seldom get a vent for their various frustrations, so they take to the internet and clog it with meaningless, irrelevant opinions.

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