It’s come the time to talk about this and name the party responsible. He his the first to go on my public blacklist which will be located at :
I started the DonCharisma.org blog back in July-2013. These problems occurred in September-2013, when I was still fairly new to blogging, and quite unsure of myself. I nearly gave up blogging the day I saw these words in the WordPress.com public support forum – “How To Block Abusive Stalkers”. It was thanks to blogger friends Shaun Gibson and A.D. Everard that I had the friends around me to turn a negative into a positive. The incident sparked my trolls post which was one of my biggest early successes. Both Shaun and Alison are on my friends page and have earned lifetime respect from me.
FAR FROM making a laughing stock of myself, I gained a tremendous amount of friends as a result of posting about my experiences, I even have a very prominent figure in UK mainstream media who’s a reader and friend – AS A DIRECT RESULT OF HAVING THESE PROBLEMS. So there are positives, but doesn’t make it right for people to lie and behave in an very hostile way.
How To Block Abusive Stalkers by “The Axe Muderer” aka “Ernest Dubois” aka “Ernest Dubious”
Really this should be called :
“How to lie in the support forums in an attempt to defame an innocent man, and satisfy a personal desire to attack a fellow blogger”
or “Abusing the support forum staff by getting them to put my toys back in my cot for me”
I monitor as part of my SEO my Google and Yahoo results. One day in September last year I see my name associated with a thread in the support forums entitled “How To Block Abusive Stalkers” by Ernest Dubois
The thread is still there, click the Google link below, third entry down, I see it almost every day :
As I explained in my Trolls post, all I ever did was follow this guy’s blog, liked a few posts on his blog, a couple of polite comments where exchanged on each other’s blogs and we unfollowed each other. I didn’t think anything more of it.
At the time I was helping my friend with his home improvement business in London, which had suffered badly during the recent recession. My friend was flat broke, and really finding it tough. I helped him improve his website, and at the time was making contacts with tradesmen on WordPress, Ernest Dubious would have come up maybe on my search for “carpentry” for instance in the reader. I thought these contacts might be able to help my friend, although I didn’t know exactly how, collaboration, perhaps they know of work etc. My friend’s home improvement business London Home Maintenance is now back on it’s feet this year and he’s got plenty of work.
As I explained in the support forum, my father is a carpenter, and I’ve been involved in the trades myself. I used to run a plumbing and heating business, and I’m a qualified gas engineer. My father used to build timber framed houses in oak and build furniture in again oak. Wordworking tools like axes I have an interest in through working with my father and later on my own.
Back to Ernest Dubious, he runs a public blog with a public feed and at the time he had like buttons on it. Following and liking posts with a genuine reason, is normal blog behaviour, there is absolutely nothing stalkerish or abusive about this. If the guy didn’t want public attention then don’t do a public blog, simple, not rocket science.
I must say I was gobsmacked at the lengths that he went to to lie about me publicly, at the time it was very upsetting. The talk on the thread also mentioned illegality, which made matters even more serious as far as I’m concerned. “Abusive stalking” is something that I could potentially get police questions over. To make an allegation of criminality publicly, is EXTREMELY HOSTILE and something I will always DEFEND VEHEMENTLY. Especially since I’m entirely innocent of the allegation.
My friend and fellow blogger Jason Cushman came to my aid, and tried to make light of it by dismissing as “New bloggers”, which is kind and helpful of Jason, but that’s his style. It gives the Ernest a way to back down without losing face. Did he back down or apologise ? NO he didn’t. All magically went quiet, presumably as he crawled back under his rock or bridge. Troll.
Ernest Dubois never withdrew the allegation, apologised or set the record straight. He is still blogging hermit or recluse to his 26 followers at :
His gravatar is :
I’ve spoken to my business partner and friend Danny about the whole thing. He doesn’t care, I think he actually thinks it helps us not hinders us, something like the old adage of “There’s no such thing as bad publicity”. My objection is that it continues to appear when people search for “Don Charisma” in the top three results. Some people won’t bother to read the thread or find out the real story, they will just decide that I’m a bad person. This is entirely unfair as I never did anything wrong, I never said or did anything abusive to Ernest Dubious, I have never and never will stalk Ernest Dubious. My only intention was networking and making friends, normal in the blogging environment, most people are happy for new connections.
At the time I asked the support staff to remove my blog name and my ip address from the support forum thread. They agreed to remove my ip address. But refused to remove my blog name, even thought their forum says underneath the comment box – “We love positive and productive discussions, so please keep comments on the topics at hand and not on other members of the community. Thanks!”
There have also now been “copy-cat” morons posted similar crap in the support forums. PLEASE PLEASE give these support forum volunteers a break from your lies, it’s not their job to be putting your toys back in your cot, grow a pair, doing this is completely manipulative, you f***ing morons.
I’ve even talked to some of Ernest Dubious’ friends, who I’ve found to be entirely contrasting to Ernest, very friendly and personable people, I still follow some of their blogs and some of them follow me.
I didn’t feel ready to share this publicly until now, but I feel it’s in the public interest to know of someone who is a liar. Someone who will go to the extreme lengths of lying about me in the WordPress.com support forums to try to personally attack me. The support forums are run by volunteers, nice and helpful people actually, why increase their workload with perry crap like this ? That’s just pathetic when there are genuine people waiting for the support staff’s help and attention.
Ernest Dubious is so devious that he’ll spin a situation into a lie, then waste everyone’s time trying to help him. Ass-hole.
SO ERNEST DUBIOUS OF AXEWORK IS THE FIRST TO BE INCLUDED ON MY PUBLIC BLACKLIST FOR THE REASONS STATED HERE.
I will NEVER tolerate being strong armed by liars and bullies. I will always defend myself vigorously when I experience this kind VILE behaviour, it’s abhorrent to me.
And seriously a guy who’s obsession is axes, a recluse *REALLY ?* … does make one wonder if the guy likes to murder people with his axes … hence “The Axe Murderer”
My piece said.
What you my readers do with this information is up to you. I’ve just told the truth because I think you should know what this person is capable of, and what others may be capable of. Maybe you’ll learn something about how you can defend yourself.
Standing strong and unmoved in self-defence is a charismatic trait not a petty one. I will always defend myself against bullies and those that attempt to strong arm me.
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