Once a month or so I review the blogs that I’m following and have a clear out. I like the reciprocal follows, and I made an unsaid commitment a long time ago to follow back any blogs that follow me. With now over 7500 followers, it’s a time consuming process, but worthwhile. So please bear with me if I don’t follow you back immediately, I do my best. One way you can help is to keep your gravatar up-to-date with your correct blog address.
I see people come and go follow-wise, and I’m very pragmatic about it. People’s lives change, their interests etc. So happy if they follow and just as happy if they don’t. I wrote about how I feel about it here – What is Charisma? by Don Charisma, with a little help from Richard Branson
I honestly have no clue where all this pettiness over who’s following who comes from, what’s the point in that ?
Anyway, I received three messages from a reader, the first two from fake email addresses and no gravatar or website, so I’ve just ignored, currently in the trash queue. The third message is authentic, with gravatar details. I’ve reddacted the blogname from the messages as I’m not generally a vindictive person. But I will publish the blog name if there continues to be problems with this person.
First message with fake credentials –
Sorry man, my feed was entirely pictures of buddas from your mobile phone. It was driving me nuts! No hard feelings I hope. Let us continue on our very different paths. Good luck.
Second message with fake credentials –
I meant no offense. I just don’t want to follow a blog that consists of 50 photos in a row of roughly the same thing. Seems fair enough to me.
Third message with “authentic” credentials –
yo, you know when you spoke directly to me I was surprised- you were saying good shit- that ‘i stood up to you without picking a fight’ and that I was ‘working with my feelings’ which made sense to me and hadn’t occured to me. But your blog as it stands I don’t really enjoy. Your voice is very different from when you’re talking one to one. You’re all about promoting and I can’t be fucked with it. Also, 50 pictures of the same buddah statue clogging up my feed is quite annoying, you must admit. So just unfollow me, I know you don’t really give a shit about reading my once a month at best update and I don’t want any antagonism in my vicinity either. It ain’t right. C’mon. Feel free to check back in on me some time (and I’ll do likewise) but I don’t want someone following me just to be mean.
My reply –
Dude, thanks for your feedback.
However at the end of the day it’s my blog and I’ll put whatever I want to on it. Also I’ve never asked you for your feedback. If you don’t like it then press the unfollow button as I wrote here – https://doncharisma.org/2013/10/13/what-is-charisma-by-don-charisma-with-a-little-help-from-richard-branson/
I don’t recall having a “private” conversation with you. All blog comments are public. I tried to be helpful and positive, that is generally where I’m coming from as a human being. However, I don’t act the same when respect isn’t shown. This is normal well adjusted adult behaviour.
I really don’t have time to be playing “games” around follows, I find this petty and boring. So no antagonism meant or intended. Facebook maybe that’s the norm, WordPress it’s abnormal as far as I am concerned. There is a great community of inspiring, creative and positive people here and I am certain that most would agree with me.
And you are right, best we go our separate ways, as I don’t see anything positive or useful for me in any continued conversations.
So in honour of my ex-reader, I will post the rest of my photos from my big Buddha hill trip over the course of the next 24 hours. And don’t worry there are only 49 “buddah” photos to clog up your feeds. Kidding, actually only 20 photos left and they are not all “buddahs”.
Positive feedback, discussion, even constructive criticism all always welcome, I often find useful in improving what I’m doing. True friends are always welcome.
But I do my blog how I want, and that’s that, it’s not up for discussion, never has been never will be.
Resources and sources
Muppet Critic Photo – http://aninspiringexistence.com/surround-yourself-with-amazing-people/