There’s a few friends and mentors behind the Don Charisma blog, that I don’t mention too much. These guys and gals aren’t looking for validation through being thanked publicly, it’s thanks enough that they see me doing well.
One of my friends who’s been a big input in making my blog the success it is, sent me an email a couple of days ago. His doctors have told him he has a malignant melanoma. Melanoma is the correct term for “skin cancer”, and it can be “malignant” which means spreading, or “benign” which means not spreading.
Malignant is the worrying kind, the kind that can kill. So it’s grave and serious for my friend.
He lives in another country, so I spoke to him today on skype. I could tell he’s feeling run down from his voice, a little low and not his usual powerful boom. We chatted a while, he was making dinner ready for his family. He still has time to do for others even though he’s feeling pretty ill. Amazingly, he’s still is working incredibly hard in his job – The guy is a one man superhero.
I did try to crack a couple of jokes, but generally they are best avoided in situations like this. He smiled and ran with it, but not good taste on my part. Main thing is just to be friend to my friend, same as he has for me. We look after our own.
He’s being fast-tracked up the waiting list to see specialists. He’s likely to have to have urgent surgery to remove a large amount of skin from the top of his head. By the sounds of things they’ve caught it in time, 6 months later and his doctors think it would have been too late.
My friend doesn’t want publicity, I just wanted to share what’s going on for me (and him), as this is partly my personal blog. I tend to blog about what’s happening right now, and this is what’s happening for me right now.
I’m hoping for a speedy recovery for my friend. First because he’s a cool guy, and second because I hope that he’ll continue to be my mentor. My personal experience having been on both sides of the equation is that Mentor-Protégé relationships benefit both sides 😀
One positive to have come out of this as a renewed closeness with my friend. As for the cowardly-cynics around me – I can’t even explain how irrelevant you are right now …
Resources & Sources
Crab – MorgueFile
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