Today’s prompt – “Vulnerability”
VULNERABILITY
This is a tough one for most people, I know this because it is for me. Please only publish your work IF YOU FEEL 100% COMFORTABLE TO DO SO. There’s no looking bad in my eyes if you don’t, I understand, I really do.
Without vulnerability what would we be ? How could we relate to each other and how would we know when something is wrong ? Well basically we wouldn’t be human beings if we didn’t have vulnerability, more mere robots.
Genuine intimacy and genuine creativity I think involve elements of vulnerability. Also, accepting our vulnerability and being OK with it I think are part of a foundation of happiness. Add to that there’s strength and courage in knowing one’s limitations, Clint Eastwood as Dirty Harry intimated to this – “A Man’s Got To Know His Limitations”
For MANY people our vulnerabilities have of been hurt in lots of different ways. Could be a parent that didn’t care and ignored our need for warmth and love, or even abandoned us. Could be having been humiliated. There are many different ways we get hurt. Most kids will have had the things they are most sensitive about at least “roughly treated”, at worst suffered extreme cruelty. In my experience this is more the norm than the exception.
It’s generally why people are often evasive and defensive about themselves. It’s also often where anger comes from, we perceive an attack on our vulnerability. Fear for similar reasons.
ALSO don’t forget there’s nothing wrong with protecting oneself, it’s NORMAL and ORDINARY. I would always advise people to only share what they are comfortable sharing for this reason. Personal security is paramount.
I’d recommend having a lot of kindness for yourself if you want to do this prompt, it’s not an easy one.
DO – Sit, walk, lay down, whichever is preferable. Think of something that you personally feel sensitive about, a vulnerability, something that hurts when people poke fun at or something you’re afraid of. Try and be with the defending emotion, for example anger or fear, if there is one. If you are able to let go and move past that emotion, try and be with the vulnerability that comes up underneath. Take care of yourself, like loving parent would a child. I know it’s not easy, so be patient and don’t force anything. It usually takes time also. Patience can often work miracles, be patient with yourself.
IF YOU FEEL YOU WANT TO – THEN DO DO, BUT ONLY PUBLISH IF YOU FEEL 100% COMFORTABLE TO DO SO :
Write about it. Design it. Draw it. Paint it. Photograph it. Compose it. Play it. Whatever it. Publish it. Job Done.
Do it because you want to try something new, learn something, not for a reward. Pingback me and leave a comment with the link to your work.
Cheers
Don Charisma
“Give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime”
Resources & Sources
Kitten – morgueFile.com
Notes for commenters:
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I read ALL comments but can’t always reply. I will comment if I think there’s something that I can add to what you’ve said. I do delete without notice comments that don’t follow rules above. For persistent offenders I will ignore you permanently and/or report you.
Most decent people already know how to behave respectfully. Thank you for your co-operation on the above.
Don Charisma 
Here is my work, is in Spanish (one thing is speak, read or write in English, but create in English is too dificult for me).
http://elcaminoalacima.wordpress.com/2014/05/08/mirando-atras/vulnerability-part-of-don-charismas-prompt/
Ps: I hope I share it well. If not, tell me please.
Thank you, and yes I understand, I can’t even speak or write Spanish so would be impossible for me 🙂
HHHHMMMM…..I’ll be pondering this a bit….LOL. But hey!….AWESOME SAUCE for having a Kitty on your post! Is this kitty yours?? It’s so *SWEET*….Another Great Post Don 🙂
*Cat*
LOL … no, he/she’s from morguefile 🙂 and thx 😀
Made me do some thinking… about myself, my past thanks….http://dailymusing57.wordpress.com/2014/05/08/vulnerability/
Good to ponder, and thanks 😀
Don, thank you for another great prompt. You always get the gears turning.
Here’s my response:
http://mewhoami.wordpress.com/2014/05/08/no-tears-allowed/
Thanks, I’ll take a look soon as I can 🙂
Very interesting… Great challenge. Kudos to those that share.
Thanks … and yes definitely kudos, people with who know themselves very well will share 🙂
I’ve been thinking about doing some of your prompts and this one really resonated with the direction I am going in therapy right now. I will be thinking about it for a bit and maybe posting. But it’s definitely inspired me to journal a bit , which is something my therapist has been recommending, so thank you 🙂
You’re welcome, and please only share publicly what you’re 100% comfortable with, but I guess I said that already … I’ve tried to keep journals myself, needs discipline to keep it up and a useful way to see the way one changes over time 🙂
Really like this post, if i had time to make a comic out of it I would. Thanks for the inspiration, this is a topic I wanted to approach subtly but it looks like openness is one of the best ways of dealing with it. I’ll ping back you then of course, I might do something like this in the near future!
You’re welcome, and yes openness can be good, I did also indicate our need for privacy, so please share what you feel 100% comfortable with … not everything needs to be shared … warm regards Don
Thank you Mr Charisma – here is my response – 😀
http://idiotwriting.wordpress.com/2014/05/07/everything-is-opportunity/
You’re welcome hun, I shall get to it later today 😀
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Reblogged this on Idiot Writing and commented:
..because it is a good prompt and I think everyone should do it…my response is coming up shortly. Thanks Don ~
YW
I tried that pingback trick, but for whatever reason, it didn’t seem to work. So here’s what I got:
http://mindfuldigressions.com/2014/05/07/i-am-a-rock/
That’s because *all* my comments are approved manually including pingbacks … there’s a pingback waiting to approve so it did work !
So good. Thanks so much for sharing. I wrote about vulnerability in my post today, without knowing about yours. I guess it’s true what they say: great minds think alike. 🙂
That’s true to say 🙂 … and you’re welcome !
Reading your post it hit me that all the humans are bonded by vulnerability, and it is probably why they so need each other.
Yes very much so … one has to remember that that’s married in paradox with a need for independence and separateness … many struggle with that paradox myself included 🙂
You just being rebellious against the laws of human nature:)
Perhaps … balanced was my intention not rebellion.
There is so much about this post that I love. But the part that really stood out to me is the bit about acknowledging your feelings.
Far too often, we push down the negative feelings. I think it is important to embrace them and work through them.
What you described as a parent lovingly taking care of a child, is something many of us forget to do. We need to nature our inner child.
Love the ginger kitten!
Thanks, and agreed 🙂
Reblogged this on VOS en PLURAL.
Well I dont know if I did everything right or not. But here it is mommyx4boys.wordpress.com titled vulnerable.
Honestly, I’m happy if you did it, there’s no getting it right or wrong hun 🙂
The link didn’t work properly, it needs to be exact – I think is the problem … see if you can find the help page on google.com for the wordpress.com support pages on linking 🙂
Interesting post Don 🙂
I will join. Do you want the pingback to this post?
For those who don’t know how to pingback, doubleclick at Don’s link address, copy and insert this in that post you wish to share 😉
Best to pingback and comment me with a link, that way you’ve covered all angles, plus you get 2 links for your own SEO, bonus 🙂
Okay and thanks Don 😉
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Link to my post for your prompt: http://irenedesign2011.com/2014/05/08/vulnerability-part-of-don-charismas-prompt/
Thanks Irene, like it a lot 😀
Thanks Don 🙂
YW 😀
By one or another reason the link to you at my blogpost doesn´t function, so I did ad your blog address there too.
You missed out the “:” in http : // … I think that’s the problem 🙂
Thanks Don. Even I did copy your address directly, something went wrong.
Shit happens … that’s life hun 🙂
This is an interesting challenge. I am definitely going to noodle on it. In the meantime do you mind if I use some of your “Warnings and Notes for Commenters?” Recently found someone “creeping” my blog and they are starting to leave inappropriate comments. I like how you handle it here. Thanks.
Thanks 🙂
Happy for you to use the writing, the graphic is (c) Don Charisma, so do use the writing on it, but not the graphic itself … would suggest paraphrasing so that’s it’s congruent with exactly what you to say as well 🙂
The best way to handle inappropriate comments is ignore them, spam queue them and add them to the blacklist in your settings. The blacklist can take blogname, ip-address and email address … you should never hear from them again, well apart from their comments going straight in your spam queue !
Good luck
Warm regards
Don
Interesting and thought provoking…I had decided that I wanted to get involved with your daily prompts but I can’t do this one, it’s too difficult at the moment for varying reasons. I hope you get lots of fab response xx
No problem Elaine, you know yourself 🙂
xx
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Okay I saw the answer above but how do I do that
The pingback ?
Easiest way is to copy the http : // doncharisma.org / postname
paste it into your post …
In my browser it’s a “right-click” then select “Copy link address”
Also try this in google.com see what comes up “linking site:wordpress.com” … there’s probably a wordpress.com help page which gives detailed instructions on linking …
How do I do a pingback
Link to a post on my blog from a post on your blog, basically 🙂
nice article…
Thanks 🙂
How do you ping back?
Link to a post on my blog from a post on your blog, basically 🙂
Ah!! I thought that there was some abstruse mystery to it!
I could make it mysterious if you want ?
Please! These things sound so very cool when wrapped up in jargon!
Well I’ll try … you get the long thing that’s highlighted in blue, do some dance moves on the mouse … stand up spin around until you’re dizzy … sit down and slap that blue thing into your page of writing … now is your head spinning because you’re dizzy or because you just made a link ?