I’m friends with two of the largest “powerbloggers” on WordPress. Both these guys are smashing, awesome people and I constantly learn from them. I don’t see these guys as competition – they are my mentors and friends. They are largely about friendship and community, whilst sharing their talents.
I don’t have a problem with being in the shadow of these dragons, they have always treated me with the utmost respect and friendship. I reckon they feel the same way about me, as that is how I try to treat others. Respect 101.
Thing is, I’m often confused about what they are doing, generally I take a step back, think about it for a while and learn something. Sometimes they even explain to me what they are doing, which I’m always very grateful for. So I’m very privileged to know these guys, and very thankful to know them as my friends.
What I’ve seen from time-to-time is new bloggers that just don’t seem to get what we’re about. And that’s fair enough, neither did I when I first started blogging.
WHAT IS A POWERBLOG AND A POWERBLOGGER ?
Leaders in blogging progress from simple blogs, into communities, which is what powerblogs are really. Our blogs start to take on a life of their own and we start to act more like conduits for what’s going on around us rather than just “a blog”. Sure we put in our own ideas, and try to inspire and motivate, and encourage people to be creative, but it starts to move from a simple blog to a community which we’re having to act as ROLE MODELS and LEADERS for.
SO – A LARGE PERCENTAGE OF MY TIME IS SPENT DOING STUFF FOR OTHER PEOPLE.
We also find that we have less or no time to visit other blogs, especially with the numbers involved, one blogger has 36000 followers and another over 50000 followers. If we spent 5 minutes visiting each of those blogs that’s 180000 minutes and 250000 minutes respectively. Or put another way 125 days and 173 days working 24/7, nearly 6 months, basically without rest, sleep, eating, doing anything aside visiting other blogs. It’s impossible basically.
What’s my point ? Leaders in blogging act and behave differently partly because of the scale of what’s going on for us. We do our best to give individual attention, but it’s virtually impossible to run a busy blog and give the individual attention we’d like to every other blogger we know. It’s sometimes challenging enough just to keep up with comments on our own blogs, and give individual attention here on our own blogs. I’ve blogged about this already.
I like the one-to-one interaction with most people, so I continue to do my best to reply to comments personally, visit other blogs when I have time (although heads up on relevant articles is appreciated) and comment and like when I get time.
I’ve received various criticisms from people, and I’m sure my fellow powerbloggers are the same, having received the same kind of crap. And as I said earlier I can empathise with this to a certain extent coming from nothing myself and building a large blog, I’ve seen it all, or almost all. Politely, experienced bloggers and powerbloggers term this – “new bloggers” – newbies, greenhorns or virgins essentially.
A recent critic/newbie who I can’t figure out whether they spin because they are stupid or because they have a political motivation, comes to the end of their piece, after having been extremely critical and says exactly the same thing I’d been saying all along. They had the good sense not to name my blog, but there aren’t that many large blogs such as mine so someone reading between the lines could figure it out. For now I’m putting it down to a lack of understanding, should it escalate then I may choose to defend myself. Perhaps the axe-murderer wants some company on my public blacklist ?
I recently blogged about people doing petty stuff, leaving petty comments. It’s childish stuff, really I don’t have time for it, and find it boring. I’m sarcastic about it and write posts about it for humour, let off a little steam and share my experiences with my readers – I think it’s in everyone’s interests to be aware of the pettiness going on. Also gives me a chance to exercise my creative writing muscles, so I’m usually winning either way. Alongside with that I’ve also blogged about lonely people, and that may be a reason behind it, the pettiness that is. If people are lonely and fed up, I don’t mind them coming to visit me – I do my best to have a chat on my blog with them, as long as they are not making their problems my fault. Being petty and rude, I can’t abide by. Petty or manipulative politicians I can’t abide by either.
BEING A LEADER
Being a powerblogger is a leader. Leaders have to act as GOOD ROLE MODELS and to take the lead. That means making decisions, giving direction and to a certain extent providing stability. These are not easy things to achieve day in and day out. We do make mistakes, and learn to lead better along the way. I already blogged about “I’m not perfect” – most decent normal people get this, they take it into account when I make dumbass decisions. I do make them, not going to lie about it, and make out I’m perfect, I’m not, simple as that.
We as leaders and powerbloggers do get morons sniffing around looking for chinks in our armour. Yawn, come on, have you got nothing better to do with your time ? Ever thought about trying to make friends as opposed to looking how you can fight your way through life ?
The attack strategy that’s employed is tried and tested and very familiar to me – there’s nothing clever or well thought out about it. Largely it says some very bad things about the moron who’s trying it, and little or NOTHING in the way of anything bad about me. T-shirt philosophers I call them, take everything at face value and spin everything so it suits their purpose, obviously leave out any positive things the person did. Spin, misinterpret, misrepresent, lie, leave out, half truths, want me to go on ?
I believe the same as most martial artists do, which is I don’t engage in a fight unless I have to. Self-defence and self-preservation 101, all fights have the risk of injury on both sides – it doesn’t take a super-brain to see this. I have never seen the sense in picking random fights with people, that’s not as far as I can see the trait of a leader. Doing it publicly really only makes the person look like an attention seeker. It seems largely prison/jailhouse mentality, and basically once someone’s picked a fight with me, I never fully trust them again. Or put another way they’ll never be able to feel safe and trust me again. Obviously within reasonable limits, sincere apologies go a long way in building bridges and extending olive branches. No-one’s perfect I already said that, and forgiveness is a charismatic trait.
Not meaning to be sexist, but women I’ve found on WordPress largely seem to get all the above. Occasionally I’ve had disagreements, and bit later on it’s all resolved and forgotten about. Compromise and common sense almost always prevail. Dudes on the other had seem to want duels at dawn, “pistols or sabres”, it’s a win or lose, fight to the death scenario, with compromises and relationship not possible. Bit pitiful really because there’s little chance of any ongoing relationship. So for this reason I’d say my generally experience is that women are usually more socially intelligent than men.
I’m not saying that women are more intelligent than men, per se, I just don’t think men have generally thought it through or spent enough time learning to be socially intelligent. Drinking beer, playing sports and masturbating (with or without other men) aren’t conducive to learning social skills. Social intelligence comes from practice and a willingness to learn, and having experienced the occasional complete and utter faux pas’ done at one’s own hands. It’s all good learning in the end, although often it didn’t feel like it at the time !
Is there a silver lining – YES, indeed there is. Every time I have morons pick a fight with me, I learn something new, and become better able to ignore or defend myself. So in a kind of round about way I ought to be thanking stupid people for teaching me to be smart and updating/upgrading my armour. “Rhino skin” a friend said to me yesterday. So thanks MR and MRS Moron, you are my teachers, however as already indicated are never likely to be my friends. You could have chosen the friendship route to start off with and we could have been friends – my blog doesn’t say anything apart from “I’m a friend”, nor do I generally. Your choice, up to you.
I do believe anyone can learn to be a powerblogger or leader, but it takes Charisma. And I also do believe that anyone can learn to be Charismatic. So this writing is potentially for everyone, not just for powerbloggers or leaders.
Being a person who looks beyond the smoke and mirrors, beyond the T-shirt philosophy, beyond the surface, is Charismatic material.
OR Put it another way, look for the positives and you will find them, look for the negatives and you will find them – Charisma is simply taking the positive road.
The positive road is what goes into a successful blog. The negatives are what goes into a soon to be abandoned blog with no followers or visitors.
It’s not such a hard choice and bottom line – you are the one who makes it.
Resources & Sources
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I read ALL comments but can’t always reply. I will comment if I think there’s something that I can add to what you’ve said. I do delete without notice comments that don’t follow rules above. For persistent offenders I will ignore you permanently and/or report you.
Most decent people already know how to behave respectfully. Thank you for your co-operation on the above.
Warm regards, Don Charisma