The great and all knowing all seeing Don Charisma got caught out yesterday. I used the R-word and offended a few people.
I won’t ever apologise to passive-aggressive commenters, you’re generally bound in a trash or spam queue direction. If you think you’re being clever with plausible deniability, well you’re not, you’re actually just pissing me off. I think the expression is – “You can’t kid a kidder” … does that translate into “American-English” ?
However I did have at least two polite reasonable people who pointed out that my choice of word, may cause offence. That wasn’t my intention, and extremely clear from the context of the post that I was talking about passive-aggressive, perhaps narcissistic behaviour from people and how I very much don’t enjoy it. I WAS NOT TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE WITH AN INTELLECTUAL DISABILITY WHICH WAS OBVIOUS IF YOU READ THE POST.
I would like to clarify that I have a friend with Down’s Syndrome who’s the cousin of my best friend from my college days. I also have a friend who I used to DJ with he has two Autistic boys. I cant fault these boys, they are bright, loving kids all of them. Retard is not a word I would ever use to describe them when talking about them or to them. It’s obvious that they are different, insulting is the last thing on my mind, more usually trying to be sensitive and accommodative.
So I am very annoyed at the implication that I’m some kind of biggot that’s simply not the case. And I will not tolerate as already mentioned passive aggressive, argumentative, rude or manipulative comments on my blog. My blog is public, my responsibility and I get the final say on what goes on it and what not. YOU ARE NOT INVITED TO LEAVE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE COMMENTS NOR ARE YOU INVITED TO HIJACK THREADS FOR YOUR OWN PURPOSES WHATEVER THE JUSTIFICATION.
Writing about Autism or Cerebral Palsy or Down’s Syndrome is not something I’m congruent with, I don’t know enough to intelligently answer and moderate comments. Nor enough to write intelligent and pertinent content in the first place. So I will not either have my posts hijacked into discussing issues which are clearly completely outside the context of what I’m writing about, and outside of what I’m congruent with.
Also I’ve said this before, it’s my blog and I will continue to put on it what-ever I want to.
Actually I’m fairly mild, most people who read my blog would tell you that. So some of you might want to check out The Sting of Scorpion’s take on people being offended by a cow photo he posted on his blog – “When You Choose To Be Offended”
Which is fair enough it’s his blog, he runs it, he can put whatever he wants on it, same as me. I respect that, I respect him.
So within the confines of a public blog that has a multi-cultural, multi-national following – please can someone enlighten me on words that I can use to show EXTREME criticism of someone’s stupidity without falling foul of offending people who have an intellectual disability that is outside of their control.
I’m quite within my rights to criticise and quite within my rights to criticise strongly. Dumbass and stupid aren’t really quite strong enough to describe the stupidest of people, especially people who are being manipulative and passive-aggressive.
Retard is I understand not to be used in a derogatory or critical context, so that is out. Accepted, lesson learnt, it’s been politely explained to me, my mistake – I’m not an unreasonable person.
How about moron and imbecile, do these words have the same problems ?
So over to you readers, please assist me on being able to communicate my feelings more clearly. *Help !*
(Obviously bear in mind that an expression of seeing someone else as stupid is entirely subjective and down to one’s own opinion.)
Resources & Sources
Boy Pulling Silly Face – morgueFile.com
Not Offended Yoda – thestingofthescorpion.wordpress.com
Notes for commenters:
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I read ALL comments but can’t always reply. I will comment if I think there’s something that I can add to what you’ve said. I do delete without notice comments that don’t follow rules above. For persistent offenders I will ignore you permanently and/or report you.
Most decent people already know how to behave respectfully. Thank you for your co-operation on the above.