Why is it that we chase new experiences ? To boldly go where no man (or woman) has gone before ? Pioneers, explorers and fashionistas, it’s all the same thing, really. The glory of being first, or, well, at least the glory of having a new experience, and perhaps being one of the first to experience … who could deny that this feels good ?
Could be a killer pair of shoes, a dress, or for boys a new gadget, widescreen TV, new designer clothes, or whatever “floats your boat”. It’s that Christmas eve feeling of anticipation, then the peak of experience in the achieving, getting, having or doing, opening presents Christmas morning.
Is it healthy all this chasing the NEW, the unexplored, the uncharted, the desirable or, and I hesitate to say this, the forbidden ?
Why do we go to a party with the most gorgeous girlfriend/wife or handsome boyfriend/husband, and still find ourselves looking around at the “talent” ?
SOME might say, oh, you’re addicted to shopping, addicted to fashion, addicted to porn/sex, addicted to X, Y or Z – HUSTON YOU HAVE A PROBLEM … YOU’RE AN ADDICT … NOT I, I don’t say this, why tie myself up in knots with guilt or shame ?
I look for the why before pointing a finger. WHY then do we chase new experiences, why aren’t the old/current ones good enough ?
I reckon it’s partly the child in us, children love to explore and try out new things. Their minds are like sponges, they need and want to be stimulated, to grow and learn. Healthy use of imagination, and of fantasy goes into it. What will I feel like when I’m wearing those killer shoes and dress. And boys probably won’t admit to it, but imagining all those movies or sports in a vivid clear experience on an 80″ flat screen TV, well, it’s a boy’s wet dream, not to put too fine a point on it.
If there is a problem, which I don’t think there really is, then it’s when we start to lose sight of the HERE and NOW, of what we already have in favour of the NEW. Obsessed and focused on the future, so much that we lose track of what we already have and the people that are already around us. Too much “doing” and not enough “being” is also a factor.
Not something to feel bad about, or guilty or ashamed. I won’t preach those things. The only thing I’d suggest is awareness. When we’re aware, we can be like “Ah, hmmm, maybe I’m spending a bit too much time obsessing over dresses or widescreen-TVs, time to take a reality check and enjoy the dresses I already have and the TV that I watch every day”. Don’t forget to enjoy the things we’re passionate about, without passion what are we ? Stoic automatons ?
The bottom line for me is that enjoying what we already have (and are, and can do) is a key to happiness.
And for my next trick … “Stuck in the past” …
For bottom feeders (summary readers)
Becoming addicted to the NEW is a potential pitfall that most, if not all us can become trapped by. New experiences are great, necessary, fun and important. But do keep one eye looking at what’s right in front of you, for what’s in the “right here, right now” … If you want to know the rest then read the whole thing.
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