I had a conversation recently with a friend and the phrase came up – “LGBT”. My grey matter seemed to have heard the phrase or acronym before, and eventually with a Gollum’esk strain I remembered … “EGGSES !”
Check this out :
And the full scene :
Just goes to show how dumb I can be or how bad my memory is 🙂
LGBT is short for “Lesbian Gay Bi and Trans”. Please don’t ask me to explain “trans”, couple of people have tried and still doesn’t make complete sense – I get the gist though. Sorry trans people, it’s complicated, I even looked it up on Wikipedia 🙂
Since I was a kid I’ve been straight, I always liked women and don’t think that will ever change. I just don’t imagine myself in any other way. I dig chics and they rock ! And dudes don’t err have curvy bits and welcome mats.
Where I grew up it, there were quite a lot of bigots, sadly minorities didn’t exactly get an easy time. I expect it’s fairly similar in most places. I was brought up to believe in accepting other people as they are, to attempt not to judge too much and to try and understand others I don’t understand.
Fast forward to spreading my wings and moving to a big city. Minorities often congregate in big cities, because they tend to be more metropolitan, and easier to meet other people of the same minority. I met a lot of gay people in London (LGBT doesn’t work for me, sorry guys & gals). In general my experience with gay people has been they are often a lot more open about themselves and their sexuallity. They also tend to be less bigoted and more accepting of others.
I had a good job in a city bank. It was at the firm’s Christmas party that I first met who was to become one of my best friends. I’d spoken to her on the telephone quite a lot. Never met in person. We’ll call her Angela, although that’s not her real name. For me it wasn’t “love at first sight”, I wasn’t all that “attracted” to her. Don’t get me wrong she’s a very good looking woman, stunning blonde, bambi eyes, fit and part Dutch. We were brought together through work, but I just enjoyed hanging out with her, she’s cool, down to earth, fun and very intelligent. If prudish then prudish in a funny positive way, not in an anti negative way. Nothing ever happened between us, and never will, we like each other but no “chemistry”.
Looking back writing this I must have been out of my mind not to have hooked up with her, she’s the catch of the millenium ! Anyway …
I’ve known her more than 10 years now. After a while it became obvious that she was/is bi, and I asked her about it. I’m quite a curious person. People who are different, often I’m wary of, but not scared to the point of needing to push them away, well the friendly ones at least. No, what interests me more is an empathic understanding of why they’ve decided to be who they are.
It was quite a long time later that I asked her about it in more detail. Her theory is that men are more fixed in one direction or the other, we’re gay or straight and that’s it. But for women her theory is a sliding scale between straight, bi and lesbian. Now I’m not saying this is “the truth” or even that I agree. But what I am saying is that it deepened my understanding of her and allowed me to relate to her better. It also helped me relate better to lesbian, gay, bi and trans people.
I think humans are basically scared of things (include ideas and people) that they don’t understand. People who are “different” or from a “minority”, then mainstream people usually don’t understand. It seems easier for people to reject than accept what they don’t understand, and sometimes this occurs in very unpleasant ways. Untold suffering, hate, aggression, tension and bad feeling. Bigotry through ignorance perhaps.
But why ? My experience is that gay people have always treated me with respect, often far more respect than straight people. Most of them don’t try to force their ideas on me, and for me, have been more open and honest than straight people. So why indeed. It makes little sense to me. I’m sure I’ve said this before, but actually it doesn’t take that much effort to reach an empathic understanding of others. It’s the way forward, for me.
In summary, I’m not pro-LGBT or anti-LGBT, I’m somewhat agnostic, that is I keep on open mind. I’m happy for people to be themselves, do what they want, provided it doesn’t hurt me or my loved ones. I don’t see that LGBT people do hurt anyone, they are just people who made different choices from me. Others people’s opinions don’t need to be agreed with but they can be accepted, and let those people live their lives the way that they want to. For instance I don’t eat anything that walks or flies, but I don’t have a problem with people who do, up to them if they want to eat cows and pigs and chickens.
So what does LGBT mean to me? Well I don’t like the acronym, I don’t think it does any favours, but I’ll do my best to use it and get used to it. LGBT “El Gee Bee Tee” isn’t exactly a roll-off-the-tongue thing to say. THAT ASIDE – Gay, Lesbian, Bi and Trans people are my friends, just the same as any other people. With the caveat that I expect to be treated with respect, and this is the same for how I expect to be treated by straight people. Give respect and you’ll get it back, lack respect and you’ll find little from me.
Anyway, enough said.
Resources & Sources
Sexy Woman Photo – morgueFile
“Love” Double Necked T-Shirt – hotlinked to flickr
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