I’ve been really busy the last couple of weeks, so haven’t had a chance to reblog this. Well actually I can’t see how to reblog from http://fujikosuda.com/ so I’ve quoted verbatim and linked back, I hope this is OK for her.
It’s nice to have touched and influenced someone’s life in a positive way, how we make friends sometimes, right ?
Life Is A Mystery
For years now, I have been good at not giving into urge to write about my thoughts and feelings. Writing about my thoughts and feelings are futile. What good does it do? It doesn’t produce any income. It exposes my weakness.
Yet I still have the urge to write publicly my thoughts and feelings. And I have recently started to see my friends and acquaintances loosen up in their Facebook posts. Maybe I will loosen up, and write more this year without worrying about doing damages. Get out of this trap of trying to be logical, infallible, forcing things.
I have my own personal problems. After I enjoyed great personal time for a couple of years, family problems began to surface up a few months ago. Just when I started to enjoy this delicious misery and give myself permission to be depressed, I got an email notice from WordPress: “[Project Kobo] doncharisma is now following your blog.” I thought oh, another spam, but it wasn’t a comment on my blog, but a follower. And I haven’t really used this blog site at all since my work site is http://projectkobo.com. Maybe it was the name doncharisma, maybe it was the cheesy icon, but I took a look at his site, and the first words I read there grabbed me out of my hole. They gave me hope, something to hang onto:
I’m a bit of a phoenix, as my life changes, so do I and the things I focus and do, I guess it’s much the same for everyone.
“Life has three rules: Paradox, Humor, and Change.
– Paradox: Life is a mystery; don’t waste your time trying to figure it out.
– Humor: Keep a sense of humor, especially about yourself. It is a strength beyond all measure
– Change: Know that nothing ever stays the same.”
― Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives
Yes, life is a mystery, indeed! Here I sit in a cold McDonald’s second floor, trying to work, while waiting for my 10 o’clock appointment, this guy says hi to me in passing in the cyber world. He gives me hope. Thank you, Don Charisma! Maybe I can do the same to someone in his life.
By Fujiko Suda – http://fujikosuda.com/worklife/insight/life-is-a-mystery/
Only thing I have to add – my avatar isn’t cheezy you cheeky so and so, took me a week’s work to do … Also a bit rich coming from a Japanese person, they have the cheeziest TV I have ever seen ! … In England we call this “The pot calling the kettle black” 😉
Actually two things to add, she poses a very interesting question or paradox about how much of our real selves do we reveal publicly. I think she’s doing it exactly right, I can’t fault her reservedness and care over what she reveals and not, it’s exactly how I feel about it.
And permission to be depressed, totally agree on that. We all need time to process what’s challenging for us, give ourselves permission to feel through what causes us discomfort. Life often doesn’t seem to afford this luxury, so we have to make the time and space ourselves.
Thanks for the mention and the thoughtful article Fujiko, sorry I didn’t get around to reblogging you earlier 🙂
And you are very very welcome, I am happy to have touched you in a positive way.
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