This is cutting edge improvisational blogging.
We call it – “Whose Blog is it anyway ?”
We have written this for FUN, not serious, to amuse ourselves and our readers, and help promote our blogs. So please read with that in mind.
Me And Kerry-Anne
Kerrie-Anne first came to my attention on Twitter, a bit of a double take required at her humorous message.
My curiosity, and her honest and genuine question, sparked off a friendship. Kerrie-Anne is a very warm-hearted lady, who I admire for many reasons, but most of all for always seeing the positives in any situation.
She loves to write about travel, family and good food – the best things in life 🙂
You can find Kerry-Anne at ??JOURNEY OR DESTINATION?? blog.
Please do enjoy Kerry-Anne’s guest improviser submission.
‘What do women want?’ is the dumbest question a man could ever ask
Hi, I’m Kerry-Anne aka Travelling Macs. I believe the pen (or in this case the keyboard) is always mightier than the sword, and as such the cut can be sharper and deeper, inflicting a scar that may never heal properly even with time. In saying that it’s important we use our pen to create slices only at the issue at hand, not those also carrying pens or swords. I am in no way a feminist, I’m an equalist (yes I also make up words to fill gaps). My post today is an attempt at humour on my part and in reality I think the dumbest question a man can ask is in fact “Where’s the remote?” because let’s face it they are always the one that had it last 🙂
“Oh right , ANOTHER thing men want us to do for them! Tell you the answer, study for the test on your behalf?? Do you really expect us to stop what we are doing to answer a question you should already know the answer to?” I hear women all over the world thinking this, some standing up on their chairs shouting it, all rolling their eyes and clicking their tongues. How do I know this you ask, well I used to be one of those women with a man asking this of me. But I taught my husband well. Though, every so often I give him the refresher course just to keep his skills up to date on current practices. 🙂
Asking this question validates what we women know about men. You never LISTEN and ultimately that’s the bottom line of all that we want. And ironically, in saying that, I’ve actually answered the dumb question. That’s it, that’s all there is to know. Ultimately it flows into every crevice of our being our emotional, physical and spiritual support.
As a teacher listening is the most important skill I teach. Without it, you will be forced into a life of asking dumb questions. Effective listening isn’t just about an aural experience. It’s about picking up the subtleties, it’s about getting to know the environment and it’s about using all your senses and observing body language to capture any underlying messages.
Effective listeners are active listeners. It’s about letting others speak or act, picking out what these actions or words tell you and using it to create a dossier of needs and wants of that person. It’s about building a positive relationship. Active listeners don’t need to ask DUMB questions because they already KNOW the answer from their interactions.
Here are a few examples to help you on your way.
If you see us looking at the kitchen tidy bin overflowing and we say “Gee, that’s full” you should hear ,“Take out the bin please” (yes we always use polite terms).
If we are asking if our dress looks good you SHOULD hear we are asking for affirmation of our choice and reply along the lines of “That’s an amazing fit. You choose such beautiful clothes and I’m so proud to be your man”.
So, asking ‘What do women want?’ is truly the dumbest question men can ask. You don’t need to ask us what we want. It’s the dumbest question because in fact if you really were interested in the answer, you already have the whole answer available. I always say the only dumb question is the one you ask after having already been given all you need to know on a platter, gift wrapped with pretty paper and a colour coordinated bow(as we women do for you men).
Perhaps I should now start on the question about the remote control now 🙂
Thanks for reading my attempt at impro. Hope you got a laugh out of reading it as I did writing it. I’ve been blogging for just over a year now at www.travellingmacs.wordpress.com and am always up to dabble in varied writing genres. What started as a travel blog has twisted to a series of rambles (or the more smarter sounding ‘musings’), fiction posts , poetry and now ‘impro’. Pop by when you have a moment. I keep the cushions fluffed up ready for visitors to come sit for a while 🙂
BY Kerry-Anne, blogger extraordinaire at the ??JOURNEY OR DESTINATION?? blog.
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