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doncharisma – I am Part of the WordPress family … Award


moreissuesthantimemagazine has nominated me for this award, and I humbly and proudly accept. Thank you for nominating me:)

Since starting blogging I’ve “met” a bunch of really cool people, a real driving force for creativity and positivity. Quite a few people have followed my blog, and I really appreciate everyone who’s followed me, but hard to narrow my nominations to ten bloggers amongst so many great people. So I’ve picked random 10 people who’ve inspired me and made me feel like part of their “family”.

Here’s my ten :

skinnyuz2b – 1950suburbanadventures.wordpress.com
paulettemotzko – TotallyInspiredPC.wordpress.com
bruceky – bruceky.wordpress.com
annetbell – talesalongtheway.com
5readsblog – 5readsblog.wordpress.com
digger666 – digger666.com
Sanguine Speak – idylliclilt.wordpress.com
DottaRaphels – dottaraphels.wordpress.com
breathethislife – breathethislife.wordpress.com
kqduane – kqduane.com



Thank you all for inspiring me and for being cool people 😉

I’m sure 5readsblog would be happy to accept a submission from any of my nominees, so hopefully we’ll see more posts there in the near future!

Keep on blogging:)

doncharisma, don charisma, I am Part of the WordPress family Award
I am Part of the WordPress family Award

Please note the award originally started with Shaun Gibson, his blog :http://prayingforoneday.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/the-wordpress-family-award/

Update: FAQ for Nominees – Some questions about nominations from Digger666

Q. Is there an etiquette surrounding acceptance posts?

A. Don’t think so, I just followed a similar format to the blog that nominated me. I wasn’t able to find the source of the Award or any detailed instructions. My advice do what you feel is best.

Q. Am I also expected to nominate other contributors as part of the acceptance?

A. Seems that others have nominated 10 people each, so yes that’s the general idea.

Q. Are there specific standards to maintain?

A. Not that I’m aware of.

Q. Are you able to advise on import of the badge to my template?

A. You can link to my image here – https://doncharisma.files.wordpress.com/2013/08/wordpress-family-award-1-11-300×300.jpg
OR
You can download and then upload to your own blog.

73 thoughts on “doncharisma – I am Part of the WordPress family … Award

  1. MY AWARD 🙂
    Thank you for the mention…
    And welcome to the Word Press Family to all..

    From Scotland with love

    Shaun

    1. Hey Shaun, I originally did some google’ing and wasn’t able to ascertain the source … one of my nominees obviously better with google than me pointed out you’re the originator … so thank you for starting the award and glad to make your acquaintance.

      Love back to you dude …

      Sincerely

      Don Charisma

      1. It’s cool, now worries man !

        Found the original post eventually after googling a bit and have updated my blog post to include …

        “Hey” too, and lots of love bro 🙂

        Cheers

        Don

      2. I know buddy, just toying..
        And I agree, doesn’t matter where we are from, as long as we can be civil and have a laugh I guess?

        Cheers Don

        ps: You a real Don?
        The thought impresses me.. lol
        My Dad was “Kinda one”
        😀

      3. 🙂 🙂 🙂 … Usually boils back down to a matter of respect.

        My dad too, great guy, always a Don in my heart …

        I don’t know what you mean, “a real Don” ?

      4. A real Don? really? lol… I am jesting bud, Scottish nature I guess. And I agree, respect takes seconds, hate takes effort. Opinions will vary on all things said and written, but allowing these opinions (Within reason) is the key I guess. We all have a story, if you have NOTHING to do and are as bored as a dog in a washing machine, This is my story. Today I live in pain, tomorrow I will also. Karma? The Question I have to ask Don. With respects….

        http://deliberatedonkey.wordpress.com/2013/07/02/murder-and-more-through-the-eyes-of-a-child/

      5. With 50000watts of music blasting in nightclubs a lot of people call me Don, I figured no point in correcting them, as they not really listening anyway !

        Humour face to face dude, hard to pull off without the being able to read the face and body language.

        Like you say, opinions vary and people like to think they are making up their own minds … We’re only ever really “free” in our minds, in every other realm there are limits and boundaries …

        For me boredom is an issue but not that often, I find that when I’m getting on with stuff that I enjoy, I’m not bored, just get tired, burnt out, then rest, then do it all again … At present I’m channelling my creativity towards making my living, and doing things I love at the same time.

        I read your post at deliberated donkey, thank you for sharing with me. I’m of the same mind about putting the past behind, and putting love and joy into the present, especially for the ones that love me. Seems a paradoxical issue of survival vs being, both are equally valid given the circumstances at the time.

        If your question is, “is it Karma?”, then my answer is no it is not. You need to figure out how to forgive yourself, that’s all that matters. What happened happened, let it be, let it change, let it go, I just did a post, saying same thing …

        Anyway, out for beers now with the lady of my life, she’s good hearted and happy and lucky to have her.

        Cheers

        Don Charisma

      6. Great reply my friend…
        And I can’t add anything…

        Enjoy your night with your lucky lady.
        I am about to cuddle into mine at 10:20pm here in Scotland and watch a movie.

        Have a good one pal.

      7. Things are good Don…
        And this is SUPERB…
        Eddie Izzard I want to see live…He is political, religious in his comedy.. This scene is one of the best ever.
        “Are you Jeff Vadar” 😀

      8. “I could kill you with a thought” … love it, probably one of the funniest things out there, for Brits anyway, Eddie got a good understanding of the culture.

        Sorry for late reply, you know how it is …

        Also thanks for visiting doncharisma.com:)

        Cheers

        Don Charisma

      9. Ediie is running for Mayor of London in 2016 I hear. Very smart man, have you ever watched a full concert? If you do watch Glorious and Dressed to kill…Funniest stand up shows you will see… “Cake or Death”?

      10. Better than the current Blonde haired one, and much better than red-Ken … To make that much humour out of British, Eddie got a very good understanding of British people and culture…

        Never watched a full “concert”, will go with you recommendations and have a look…

        Bored today?

      11. No, having a great day Don. Everyone is out. I am on my lonesome. Just me and my Dog. So chillaxing big time. Lazy day, tons to do and here I am on Word Press 😀
        So just me, my dog and the scary woods…I live in the woods..in a house of course lol

        You?

      12. Mrs came back from visiting sister who’s just had a baby, this evening so happy days … been out for a walk get the creative circuits flushed out, I do a 3-5K most days when I can … here I am on WordPress too, my career moving towards writing, web design and the emerging online market, so it’s work as well as play for me.

        Woods are good, I’m a poet and I didn’t know it 🙂

      13. haha 😀
        Congrats on the baby to front to all…

        I don’t need to work, I can’t work, but I wish I could…
        ..You are a lucky boy to be able to put a shift in. I am also writing a book on my past. Doing small foot notes just now for chapters. The concept goes over my head. The lad who had a hand in writing/producing Trainspotting (Movie) I get his ear a few hours a week…All for fun, I will give it on Amazon for free if I ever do it…I just want to do it for fun…

        Loves the poet line. 😀
        Was Good
        LLLLLaterz

      14. baby has had to stay in hosp, having trouble breathing, hopefully he’ll be ok …

        I like work for myself, have had a couple of awesome bosses in the past, but mostly they bosses are doughnuts!

        Doing the next chapter in my virgins guide to promoting a blog, which seemed popular and I’m interested in SEO, so win all round.

        Sounds like you’ve got friends in high places, making some money from blogging/writing wouldn’t be so bad ?

        Cheer ears

        Don CHarisma

      15. Prayers for the kid…They can do wonders these days.

        You know my past Don, that life never leaves you, You can take the man out of the prison, but the prison remains in the man. If that makes ANY sense? lol

        And I already write for free, http://www.broowaha.com/articles/17557/russian-scientist-photographs-the-soul-leaving-the-body

        I can’t do much else with the pain, so writing gives me an outlet. Money I hate. We need it, sure. But it can turn people evil and change people. So with money, you need a plan, and a strict way of living, or it will destroy anyone…

        Later Gator

      16. I hope the babe will be OK, but not in my hands, I’m supporting my Mrs, who’s supporting her sister is about all I can do.

        Regarding the past, I do understand and it’s makes sense, perhaps the old timer from Shawshank Redemption who leaves prison and doesn’t understand the outside world, is a good example of what you’re saying? But yes and no Shaun, perhaps a question of fate vs free will. Personally I’m a free-will-ist, so I believe concious change is possible, probable and inevitable with persistence, and that the past can be left behind. Although I wouldn’t say it’s always easy, for some it’s very difficult.

        As for Money, I see the sentiment, I don’t agree it’s that simple. It’s a bit like saying I hate guns because they kill people. Guns don’t kill people bullets do. If I was being really pedantic about it, 99.99% of the time it’s people that kill people with guns and bullets, the trigger puller is the responsible party.

        From what I understand and I didn’t check this in the good book, it’s “the love of money is the root of all evil”, not money itself. So it’s an individual’s reaction, their greed or lust for power, “the love of”, that causes a problem and causes them to depart from being virtuous, through abnormal, through cruel, right up to evil. Greed and lust for power are thoughts, felt thoughts most likely, but people experience their thoughts differently, not an exact science. Thoughts belong to us and are our own responsibility, so can’t blame money – “the money didn’t make me greedy, she/he didn’t make me greedy… I made me greedy”

        Beliefs and thoughts can and do change, based on social conditioning, culture, influence from peers & authority and the individual person’s other beliefs, experiences and efforts. Sorry, I made that sound really complicated but it isn’t really.

        I try very hard to keep my thoughts positive, and upbeat, but try to accept that some negativity is always present and is necessary, and has positive reason for existing. I do my best to stay strong for others that are lost in negativity, and try to be strong long enough so that they can get back to being happy again, provided I’m safe and in control. I’m lucky enough sometimes to have had others who’ve done the same for me, other times I’ve had to find my own way. These are the kind of acts of kindness that I think real relationships and real communities are built on. “Life is Beautiful” on the one hand and “Scarface” on the other.

        Changing one’s thoughts and feelings can change their life and can heal emotional pain. It’s up to the individual to find their own path, as internal understanding is a very personal and individual thing. Sometimes it takes intervention from another person or people, sometimes I think people learn how they work inside themselves on their own.

        I see you enjoy writing and that you’re good with the social aspects, thought maybe there might be some money in it for you and your loved ones:) to me that’s just normal wanting the best for myself and those that I care for and care for me.

        Anyway, it’d be a bit boring if we were all exactly the same:)

        In a while crocodile !

        Don Charisma

      17. WOW Good reply, so much to take in. I think you just explained my life from age 15 till now in a nutshell 😀

        And I blog for free, I do it because I love doing it. I live in agony Don, no money can help me, presuming I had any. I am comfortable, before I was in pain I was this guy, http://prayingforoneday.wordpress.com/2013/06/08/the-football-story-i-never-told/ Sorry if I have sent before, the old memory (At 40 years old, lol) isn’t too good) And also I was a PC Tech, we saved hard, so these days, now I can’t work, we live of what we save..My partner is going back to work as a toddler/nursery assistant, she just loves the job..So not all that rick really lol..I dislike money. I have seen 1st hand what money can do to people so you are right, free will, choice, whatever we want to call it changes people with money..

        Good honest reply, honesty is top of my list, so thanks for being honest. Respect

        Shaun

      18. Thanks Bro, I guess you’re getting a bit about me now too:)

        I can see that footy very close to your heart and you’ve done a lot for others in coaching, a positive influence as a leader, props:) For one reason and another I never got the football bug, I enjoyed playing, but found the competitive aspect amongst my peers a bit petty. I’m all for team work, but competing against your own other team members isn’t a team.

        I’ve also been in the PC tech arena myself, my savings went into property. Lehman brothers and others things almost broke me, but have somehow managed to keep it together, have had to settle for less, but no problem. Stubborn, persistent or gifted, take your pick !

        Truly sorry for your suffering Shaun. I don’t have many helpful words for physical suffering, sometime it can clear up sometimes not. My dad I know uses painkillers, which on top of the pain make him not very energetic. For emotional suffering it’s possible to heal, given the right set of circumstances.

        I’ve had my own fair share of bad experiences with money, but yet am still uncynical about money itself, it’s people’s reactions that are the problem. In the end it’s a learning of people’s motivations, good and bad. Once one stops getting annoyed about it, one can see clearer and swerve to avoid the ones that are “vampires”.

        I’ve just posted an Anne Frank quote, which describes perfectly how I got through a couple of my most challenging moments. She says it much better than I could, hard to describe emotional processes !

        Later ‘Ron

        Cheers

        Don

      19. In soccer, we don’t compete against our own team..you compete against other teams. We talking Football or Soccer here? It can be petty, but if you are into sport and have desire to win, that is impossible to lose, it stays with you.

        And Money, tell people you have none..Works for me. Otherwise we be a Charity shop you know..I have money but enough to make sure my Kids are “ok” when we are gone, Dawn and I. I will give it a read mate..

        Good comment as per, you are a decent lad..
        Respect to you..

        Shaun

      20. Hi Shaun,

        I’m from UK same as you bro, so we’re talking soccer (not the rugby’esk game the Ameriqueens play). I enjoyed the little soccer I’ve played, but I didn’t get a bug for it. Others who were competing against their own team was just one of the reasons.

        Common sense really, if you have money don’t be bragging about it too much, there is always someone who’ll try to take it off your hands. I don’t exactly have a rock-solid-secure future, but I’m OK. Don’t want to be not-OK through making dumb decisions or other people making dumb decisions for me. It’s all very well to say live for now, why save for a rainy day etc, but future DOES come and so do rainy days.

        The “your-mean/tight” (add relevant nationality) brigade are usually trying to dip their hand in one’s pocket, and I generally tell those people to take a long walk off a short peer, or just ignore them if there’s no scope to tell them to get lost. Also I don’t dress to impress, probably has lost me some opportunities, but prefer people like me for me not for what’s in my pocket.

        Respect to you also Shaun, I admire what you’ve done and are doing, and understand to fair extent.

        Cheers

        Don

      21. I would trade any money I do have or might have for a life with no money and no pain so I can work, 100% I would. I don’t have all that much money, we are comfy. Any savings we have are for the 4 kids. We manage and “with luck” our future will be secure, but only if we remain clever.

        How you say, I am in a position where safety is there. You could be anyone, I could anyone, anyone I speak to could be anyone. I (Like you I guess) am not zipped up the back 😀

        I share what I do, what I can and what I need to. Living in pain is shit, pissed me off, BUPA even sucks for what I have. I am a legal junky some days. Guilt is a LARGE part of my being. I have blogged it months ago and a few times.

        Just here to have fun, meet new peeps, share, learn, and pass time and take my mind away from the agony I live in each day. But I have a brilliant family for help, and I use it when needed. Help with the kids etc.

        We all have a Story Don. I share 20% of my life on here. We can’t share it all 😀 We be in jail or dead haha..

        And “Mean-Tight” is me, I am Scottish lol
        Copper wire was invented by 2 Scotsman fighting over a penny…you probably heard that one…

        I hope you had a good weekend buddy…

        Shhaun

      22. I heard the wallpaper was invented by scots, because you can’t take paint with you when you move ?

        Guy trying to sell me a diving related course called me scottish, but he was just trying to guilt me, therefore I don’t mind ignoring him.

        I think for guys our “role” in society is often defined by what we do, so challenging to be valued and value ourselves for just being. Perhaps something to look into?

        Guilt plays a factor in a lot of people’s lives, so you’re not alone. It’s a fear of punishment for past, present or future misdemeanours (or perceived misdemeanours), and guided by our internal moral compass. I looked into the whys and the hows, of the wrongs and rights, and concluded self-forgiveness is the release and then use the guilt to guide me in the future. Clever manipulators will also use it as a tool to get what they want. Seeing those people for who they really are is empowering.

        I’d say not sharing 100% of yourself in public is a smart, authentic move, the truth belongs to you not anyone else.

        Weekend was ok, haven’t been sleeping that great so managed to get some fairly decent sleep. Aircon and heat seems to be the issue, if I leave the aircon on when I’m sleeping I get sinus headache and it costs a lot for the electricity, if I don’t leave it on I don’t sleep so great have bad dreams, been trying to find a happy medium.

        Have 7 hour road trip tomorrow, so need to prepare for that.

        May the “luck” be with you:)

        Cheers

        Don Charisma

      23. PMSL @ Wallpaper 😀 Like it!
        Maybe the diving guy had heavy boots for ya?
        I challenge myself to walk, to live, to love, to be a decent Dad. Also a decent person. The guilt I carry is for what I did. I fucks with me, haunts me. The day I told people to fuck off, the pain came. Karma? I believe so. It came almost right away. 15/16 years or so ago when I was about 23/24, just a kid. To my Dad and Uncles I am still Kid, what gives eh 😀

        And I tell the World what the World needs to know. My name might not even be Shaun, I could be a Woman from Canada? lol

        I have been up 30 hours now (Again) was 45 hours up when I knocked myself the fuck out on Friday with a cocktail of pills, Morphine (For my illness) a sleeping tablet and a really heavy joint. Many I know smoke cannabees for pain, Harder for people in the USA, You can get 20 year in jail for a Quarter over there. Here, old bill don’t give a fuck. The take some and smoke it with me 😀 (Joking)

        And luck? Hmmmm
        I think I need a bit more than Luck Don mate…
        I need a fucking break…not as in a holiday, just in general. I am a lucky lad, but the pain wants to make me throw myself in-front of a flute band

        loL
        Glad you are well chief….

      24. Dude, your messages are always cause to make me think, and oddly inspiring.

        It depends on what you mean by “karma”, you’d need to be more precise on what you actually mean. Karma as in fate I don’t believe in, well not really, perhaps some lingering superstitions but not intentionally. Karma as in one’s own ability to punish oneself with guilt for sin or praise oneself for virtue, I understand that mechanism, I believe it to be true. With that mechanism, it’s the individual that ultimately controls his or her destiny and his or her own personal hell or heaven, via their own beliefs on what’s right and what’s wrong, or more accurately what they believe they did right and wrong. Changing beliefs, changes internal state of heaven or hell.

        It’s said “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. The way I understand this is that I need to process my own pain, now (or as soon as possible), and let it go. If I delay processing it, don’t want to process it or simply don’t want it, then I will suffer.

        In terms of how human beings process guilt, depends on the individual, some can process internally without the need of external help, through introspection, staying with their feelings or being “lucky” enough to have a belief system which allows them to process it easily. Others rely on their emotional support systems such as friends and family, but those people would have to be strong and enlightened enough to be able to actually listen and actually provide non-judgemental support. Others might turn to a counsellor, psychotherapist, religious figure or other “trusted”/”experienced” confidant, in order to work through it. Others might turn to the public, society at large as a forum to express their angst.

        You could be a woman from Canada, but I’m fairly sharp at spotting fakes and I’m fairly sure you’re not a woman from Canada. Fakes tend to slip up now and again, and it’s a very long game to have setup an established blog and have a detailed understanding of a Scottish dude.

        For pain relief, or if I’m sick or ill, or exhausted from pain, then I reckon what legal drugs are available are enough in moderation. I don’t believe I have chronic pain, so most of the time I don’t need them. “Recreational” drugs I decided that I’m generally not in favour of, as the negatives heavily outweigh the positives. I’m no killjoy, just seen too many bad things happen when people under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Good things can come out of bad things don’t get me wrong, but I don’t believe I need to look for bad things happening in my life.

        Sounds like you need a break dude, luck often smiles when we least expect it. My experience has shown that making a decision about how I want my life to be, who I want in it, how I want to feel, somehow means that I end up getting what I want. Might call it goal setting or law of attraction, but it does work. The power is in the imagination and the decision.

        Holidays not such a bad thing, nor is a change of scenery. Yesterday I got up at 4.45am for a 9 hour road trip. Although I saw a dead body by the side of the road, and we almost had a blow out, it was a nice relaxing journey, a time to just be, a chance to see things from a different angle, a different perspective.

        TC

        Don Charisma

      25. Karma for me means “Pay back” I was a bad bastard as a kid and into my early 20’s (Family thing, and NOT BOASTING, HELL NO, IT WAS WRONG) What I mean is, I did some shit things, not proud about, wouldn’t want, pray and hope, that anyone things I am boasting, oh my god no. I worked with kids 15 years to give something back. The day I decided “Enough” I wanted to live, be free from crap and bad people, the pain came. So for me “Karma” means pay back..My brain sends impulses to my body and make me cry in pain 24/7, some days unbearable, some days just managing..

        Guilt comes to me when I talk about pain and then I read someone died, or someone is dying. People say “Don’t be silly, your pain is your pain” But 15 years of medication and pain and depression and suicidal thoughts make your mind (At times) think things you know are stupid. I hope that makes sense….It is very hard to explain to people not living this “Devils Disease” of the workings of it and what it does to a person. When I read a blog from someone else suffering, like Dawn here: http://findingmyinnercourage.wordpress.com/ She can’t not blog her pain. All I did when I started to write was pain, but I trained my mind to switch off and find things that interest me, if you read my blog, you will see politics, space, football, music and funny pictures are what I am interested in 😀 It helps, all I know bud

        I know you are a good judge of character, easy to tell., I have a saying “Less you tell lies the less you need remember” and it is true. But as Dawn or any of the 300 people I follow and 100 I speak to on Skype, Facebook, email, whatever will tell you, the medication fucks with our minds. Before we tell someone something we ALL think “Have I told this person this before” Seriously a big pisser for us all, but something we do laugh about. It’s shit, but we do try to make light of it and see the funny side of it all..Hard, but many make themselves

        I agree illegal drugs are bad, I taught kids for 15 years about the dangers, There is a drug dealer not far from me, he sells Heroin to kids, I punched him in the lips shall we say. I hate that. Cannabis, that I smoke is legal in parts of Europe, and is just frowned upon here in Scotland/UK unless you have a few Kilo on your person 😀 Cannabis helps MANY with pain, some Americans I know, even devout religious people I know say “I wish I could smoke a joint” But if they do, years in jail depending on what state you are from. The “Cannabis leads to Heroin” thinkers need to re-think. Kids are more vulnerable, adults who smoke Cannabis, I know police, lawyers, teachers, famous football (Soccer) Mangers smoke it, it helps with depression and pain. For me, it will be legal all over Europe instead of just parts of Europe within a few years…Class A drugs, jail people, they kill and destroy areas where people live..I seen it first hand, families falling to bits as a son/daughter is on Heroin..But I do get your point Doc..

        And break from what? I sit at a PC or watch TV or lay in bed all day…This is my life. I find writing to mellow me out. I did a live commentary this evening, LOVED IT, was about a huge soccer game in Scotland last night. https://twitter.com/TCNLiveblog My match report is the last blog…I was doing live reports here: http://thecelticnetwork.com/2013/10/01/tcn-live-celtic-v-barcelona/ and it tweeted it. The editor of the site is a good football man also, as its a football site 😀 I also write here: http://www.broowaha.com/articles/17584/america-on-precipice-of-government-shutdown I am sorry for the links, but taking a break? I can’t, I don’t need to. I am afraid of flying, 40 years old and I have never gotten on a plane 😀 I don’t want to fix it. My life is at home, I worked as a baker for many years, so my life is a painful holiday. I don’t know what you mean by take a break buddy… lol

        Some days me, my partner and my 2 daughters; http://prayingforoneday.wordpress.com/about-2/ Will jump in the car and go visit the Loch Ness Monster, or the Safari, Zoo, Animal petting park, whatever. Scotland is small, 15% populated, has 4 cities and tons of small villages (Kinda like where I live) and you can get lost here easy, get lost in the beauty of it all. So we do that..

        Thanks again for a BRILLIANT reply, I enjoy our chat, I really do, you seem a decent man with good principles and I like honesty, so you are a person I like to speak to.
        Word Press is 10% of my Internet, I am actually hardly on, I am on at Night when the rest of the World is either middle of the day or asleep… lol

        Cheers and speak soon.
        Shaun

      26. Dude, brilliant reply also. A break from taking a break, but sounds like you’re doing that already. I find that getting out for a nice walk gets my positivity and creativity flowing again when things start to stagnate.

        I’ve been through my fair share of suffering, lost things, money and relationships etc, regretted things from the past. I’ve been through a process of processing those things and putting them behind me, and to a large extend they no longer occupy much of my thoughts. To suffer was useful and helped me improve my life and state of being and understanding of how life really is.

        I’ve done plenty that I’m proud of and helped others, so not all bad news LOL

        If you believe that you deserve “pay-back”, for the bad things you did, then you will suffer. Karma is a bit vague and ambiguous, means different things to different people, Wikipedia just adds to the confusion. If you want peace and freedom, then you need to come to terms with what happened, and let go of being attached to it. Self-forgiveness is harder to do than it sounds, but ultimately that’s where the salvation is. After forgiveness comes forgetting. You can learn this process yourself internally or not, up to you how you want to live.

        I have two dead friends one down to alcoholic and one other down to drugs. One died at early sixties and other mid thirties. They both lovely people always had time for others, you’d have liked them both. Just I guess they didn’t feel right inside, problems from the past, not strong enough to cope, no one they could trust to help and needed to take the suffering away.

        I also have two (or more) friends who’ve ruined their lives with smoking weed, and other drugs, they can’t live a normal life, they’re paranoid, and they blame everyone and everything else for their problems rather than getting better. They have memory problems, and really hard to relate to them because they don’t really listen to what your saying. Also hard to listen to them, bit like trying to have a conversation with a drunk, ok if your drunk yourself, otherwise it’s a bit, well, pointless.

        I have personal first hand experience Shaun. Endorsements from whoever and legality/illegality, are not the point in my eyes, it’s the destruction of people’s lives, through the weakening of their minds and souls via unnatural highs and fantasy living. Alcohol and weed are in some ways worse than hard drugs, because they are easier to get hold of and people don’t take them as seriously.

        I drink a beer from time to time, occasionally get drunk, but on the whole I don’t really need it or want it. The negatives outweigh the positives.

        Not perfect Shaun, made some mistakes, everyone has, but I’m a good bloke for people that treat me with respect. I’m happy enough in my life, again not perfect, but it’s similar to how I dream it to be.

        Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

        TC

        Don Charisma

      27. lol…
        I do really enjoy out chat here, I learn a lot. I am 40, and I do find it hard to let go. But I have. The pain came when I became a MAN..But the past is the past, I should have been clearer, sorry. I live for THIS SECOND….Right now. So if this second I am happy, then life is brilliant. It is 7am, I have been awake I think 3 days now? I forget. Medication is shit, but it keeps me from doing something stupid. I love my kids same as anyone, I love my partner who is my best friend. I would live in a box with them in the street, god’s honest truth.

        Cannabis, we will have to agree to disagree, but that is ok. I smoke a few joints a week when the pain is bad. I never smoke it when the kids are around, and I get it free. Because I help friends, whatever, it is no brag, and not important. I fix computers still so favour for favour.

        I am sorry for your friends, I don’t know if I said, I forget. I lost several friends to Aids. I grew up in a place called Muirhouse in Edinburgh. Muirhouse was the Aids capital of Edinburgh, Edinburgh the Aids capital of Scotland, and Scotland the Aids capital of Europe…This was the early 90’s when I was 20 years old or so. Over the years I distanced myself, but every so often I would get a call, email, face book message “so and so has died” So funerals were almost a get together. I paid my respects and came home as most there were the wrong people for me. In life we ARE who we surround ourselves by and with. If we surround ourselves with alcoholics. for me the Worlds biggest issue, we become an alcoholic, and so on, you get the picture…

        And yeah, none of us are perfect, well said. But we can strive to be. Look at my blog, I just help buddy, all I do now. I keep kids off “that path” and I am proud of how I turned things around and became Shaun and not “His son”…

        Life is good.
        What can I say..

        Good debate sir. very good. and one of the reasons I come to Word Press…To meet people like you. Honest, decent, people.

        Shaun

      28. Same, Shaun, I’ve learn’t a lot about myself chatting to you, you have an good way of getting me to think about things:)

        And dude really I’m sympathetic that you can’t sleep, I don’t face the day so easily when I’m overtired and exhausted, and after 3 days I’d be more than frayed around the edges !

        You gotta do what you gotta do as regards smoking that stuff, but don’t feel bad about for god’s sake. I just had a lot of bad experiences myself with others smoking it, and not the right thing for me. Live and let live?

        I went through my own process of putting the past behind me. There is another side, and I’m happy enough to be on it.

        WordPress I’m happy to be here, it’s a good community, the staff when I’ve had technical issues were so helpful and polite, what a refreshing change:)

        Keep your pecker up …

        Don Charisma

      29. Thank you Don, means a lot for you to say that, and vice versa, living and learning is a two way street. I have this 4 day thing..up for 4 days all night, hardly sleep, then for 4 day I sleep like a normal person and I am up early, Used to frikking annoy me, but these days I smile and get on with it.

        And yeah, live and let live, took the font from my mind you did 😀 >
        http://prayingforoneday.wordpress.com/2013/08/22/why-we-need-to-live-and-let-live-more/ Good song in there also..

        Cannabis has never been a “Sit in a room with 20 mates having a pipe” thing. Always a personal thing for pain. Harder drugs as a young fool, different story 😀 I am glad I did it, Had I not did all these dickish things I wouldn’t have the life I have, wife and 4 kids and I do. so I change nothing, I guess you would think the same..

        Good speaking again.,I must get to your blog and join in 😀
        Promise I will.. lol

        Catch..

      30. We’re not that different, my sleep pattern goes haywire too, but I usually manage to get my 8 hours in somewhere even if it means catching up at the weekend.

        Gossipers need to take a long walk off of a short plank…I reckon their lives are just so boring, they have to make stuff up to stop them topping themselves…Saddos !

        Still, that’s what “news” is all about, people making up stories about stuff that happened. There’s just as many saddos that read the news as want to write it. Me, I “gave up” news few years back, happy enough without it.

        Did a couple of posts partly inspired by you whilst we’ve been chatting :

        https://doncharisma.org/2013/10/03/how-to-make-your-dreams-come-true-fathers-advice-to-his-son-2/

        https://doncharisma.org/2013/09/30/don-charisma-what-motivates-men-love-hope-purpose-2/

        think i sent you the anne frank one already ?

        TC

        Don Charisma

      31. I left a comment and a video on the father and son one, loved that..
        Just left a reply on the other blog…Good blogs, my “kind” of thing. Inspiration. I used it as a soccer manager, I use it with my pain, and more so I use it to help my kids to grow up and be decent people..

        My Dad says the same “I am 68 years old, I live in the middle of nowhere surrounded by water, the World wasn’t interested in me, I cry for humanity, but I am done worrying about the news and other affairs, I want to live now that I am old”

        I got taught that at a VERY young age, he didn’t want me to be him, when I did, he stopped and moved away. I have blogged this, no biggy. But your message means as much to me as what my Dad says mate…
        …You have meaning, a purpose and try to inspire people.

        For that, I take my hat off to you

        Shaun

      32. Hey Shaun, Sorry for late reply, I’ve had a troll problem been trying to resolve … you ever problems with ’em?

        I do my best Shaun, enjoy helping people makes me feel good…Have a lot of plans for things I can do on web and blog, but sometimes I get stuck on other things in life, so can’t be creating inspiring stuff… sometimes I need a Charisma break too … it’s normal !

        Hope all good for you, thanks for the vid much appreciated …

        Speak soon

        DC

      33. Troll? In what sense buddy?
        Email me if you need to, I am a PC tech, my email is in the top of my blog in “Contact Shaun” Please if it’s an internet issue, tell me. Might be able to help..

        And yeah I get that. I am not/ever on the PC during the day. It is 2:40 here and can’t sleep for whatever reason. I get myself into a good sleeping pattern for a week or so, asleep at 11pm up at 7am with the girls for nursery (Pre-School)
        Then I have periods when I am awake for 5 night and sleep all day..
        Speak to anyone with my Illness, you hear the same stories. lol

        And my pleasure on the video mate..
        Hope you are keeping well Don

      34. LOL, my sleeping pattern goes haywire sometimes too, you probably wouldn’t believe me if I said it’s 8.45am here and I’m just going to bed …

        Troll as in the kind that try to wind you up by whatever means they can to get you to react … like making up stuff that never happened and playing the victim … passive aggressive I think it’s called, but I’m no psychologist or expert.

        Anyway, all is OK, think I’ll take a charisma break for a few days, peruse some non-internet/non-computer interests…

        TC

        DC

      35. Ahh Internet Wanker? HAHA, Ignore, block, delete and move on. Anyone that knows you well enough will be the Judge Don. These Online cardboard gangsters I used to argue with. These days I have a different approach. I did once, I though I schooled the prick fairly well?

        http://prayingforoneday.wordpress.com/2013/05/26/so-i-gave-a-person-an-award-he-asked-me-if-i-was-a-jew/

        Enjoy your non-internet break, I couldn’t if I tried. The Matrix has me 😀 PMSL…
        Whatever you do on your break, I hope you enjoy buddy.

        Take it easy
        Shaun

      36. PMSL … Shaun, what can I say, I haven’t laughed that hard in a couple of weeks:)

        My guy doesn’t even have the nuts to tell me himself, went behind my back and I find out by a random search for something else.

        Anyway, that’s put it in perspective … Cheers buddy …

        DC

      37. So you know this person personally?
        If you do give him a call, I would..
        If he is just a prick from internet land, block and move on. There are ways you can get to these dicks..But I am guessing you know a few tricks yeah?

        lol..
        Glad it gave you a laugh, but he was a spunk-bucket to be fair.. 😀

      38. Hey Shaun,

        Initially trolls are annoying but you’ve really put it in perspective, and I learnt something valuable – you somehow have a talent for that:)

        I’m a degree graduate in Computer sciences, been around tech/computers most of my life, worked in city/swiss banks, so yes I know a few tricks, or could figure them out easily, but really it’s not worth it. People like this will come unstuck on their own, they create their own misery, and that’s probably punishment enough.

        Trolls feed on weakness and reaction, so don’t be weak and don’t react to them too much, and they tend to wither away, bit like Vinnie Jones in Snatch, Desert Eagle .50 vs REPLICA …

        I’m in two minds whether to blog about this experience, I’ll start writing something and see how I feel when I’ve finished.

        Thanks for support … how are things in bonnie-Edinburgh ?

        Cheers

        DC

      39. Edinburgh is good, I am not however..
        I am finding this pain is now starting to hurt when I type, Last few weeks it has taken me an hour to write what I usually could in 10 minutes, have to keep stopping..

        I replied to your email. I think we agree on what you say here. I was given a hard time once, 19 years online and have had a hard time once, so not bad. And you are right, karma comes to those who come online with motives other that JUST BEING A GOOD FUCKING PERSON you know. I know you agree. I hate these Cardboard gangsters, but here in Scotland you do really need to be careful, I will explain in email one day. If you ever do Skype (Audio) feel free to add me here shaunyg1973 I think we would have a good chat Don..

        How are things at your end? good I hope buddy

        Shaun

    1. Hey Ellie, my pleasure and thank you for your kind words. I wasn’t sure whether I was really for an award, but I think it’s a nice idea and gives me the chance to pass on to others that have helped me, so all good.

      Hope to stay in touch, sincerely, don charisma

      1. No problem! I have a question? How do you get the share buttons at the bottom of your posts? I’ve tried and I’m not sure if the problem is my theme or what?

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