I’ve had a flu the past few days. I’ve been feeling rotten and just getting on with stuff as best I can. It’s not ideal, but that’s life and what analgesics are for.
Frogs And Princesses
So what about someone special in our lives ?
I’m lucky at the moment, have a lovely lady and I’m happy. But it hasn’t always been like that. I was married once and now I am not. A mistake that I’m unlikely to repeat. Why ? Because I don’t see the point in it. Well not at least in a marriage shorter than a lifetime, marry then divorce, what’s the point in that ?
I’m happy enough to be with a woman I love, and would stay with her until either of us dies. I don’t need a piece of paper, a legal status and a ceremony witnessed by my peers to prove it. If she doesn’t believe me then she shouldn’t be with me. And it has f*** all to do with commitment or being frightened of tying the knot. I’ve done it once before, but why put myself through a divorce again. The money and emotional energy wasted, incalculable. An extremely poor investment indeed. Didn’t Einstein say the definition of insanity was doing the same things expecting different results … Getting married more than once, insanity … But never say never, maybe I’ll change my mind, has been known …
So why bring up the ex ? Well not everyone is as fortunate as me on this just passed Valentine’s day. I’ve been there too, plenty I can assure you. Not everyone has a special someone. There are many reasons why not. Some people are happy on their own and don’t care. But then there are others who do care and would like to share their moments with a special someone.
I like to share my life and my time and my moments with someone who loves me and I love her back. And certainly I do miss that when I’m not in a relationship. There are some big things, but it’s a lot of little things really.
Finding Your Princess (or Prince)
So, look, I really sincerely wish for those who are looking and don’t have someone, that you will find who you’re looking for soon. For me, looking back it’s been a choice, a decision that I didn’t want to be alone anymore. Or more accurately deciding that I wanted to be with someone awesome. And then go out and find Mrs Right. Whatever it takes AND however long it takes. Period. No excuses, no deviation from the road, the road is to find her, all other roads lead to somewhere I’m not going.
There is a lot of frog kissing along the way, but take your time and find someone who is right for you. Having high standards actually means you’ll “lose” a lot of the time, but eventually you’ll meet someone who’s actually more right for you.
One day you’ll meet a bunch of morons, and the next you’ll meet a bunch of lovely people. Or it might be months of meeting morons and then a day of meeting good people. Let the idiots quietly disappear into the road behind and keep looking for the keepers.
A change of geography may be a required catalyst. If you can’t find who you want where you are then move town, county/state or country if that’s what it takes. If you don’t want to move try changing community or social circle.
ONE DAY, you’ll be going about your business, thinking you’ve utterly failed at finding your sweetheart and there she’ll be smiling at you like you’d never been apart. It’s my experience that there won’t be any effort or game playing, it’ll be easy because it’s right and meant to be. If there’s a need for game playing then there is something wrong anyway, let the gamers shoot up their crack or otherwise feed their addictions elsewhere, you don’t need ’em.
Bottom line – don’t be so selfish keeping yourself to yourself, there’s a Mrs or Mr RIGHT who’s waiting for you, don’t keep them waiting too long … and don’t keep yourself waiting too long either, you are worth more than that.
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