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You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone. – Marcus Aurelius

You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone. – Marcus Aurelius Continue reading You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone. – Marcus Aurelius

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The Wrong Thinker’s Guide To Being A Successful Novelist (Or Any Kind Of Creative)

WARNING – CREATIVE WRITING AHEAD

Without freedom of speech, we no longer have freedom of thought. Without freedom of thought, how the hell are we supposed to be creative?

 

– Source – Someone cleverer than me, probably JP.

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“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” – Marcus Aurelius

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Quote of the day …

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

 

Marcus Aurelius

 

Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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The Home Office Response To The Grooming Gang Petition is Atrocious – (Akkad Daily)

I had a conversation with Robert from “NOT IN MY WORLD” recently. He’s a lovely man, and a long time follower of the blog, and he says it’s difficult to get support for his cause. So, what can I do ? – I can help raise awareness, and help him get support. Help these kids who’re being abused.

I’ve held my tongue long enough on this topic which I’ve known about for some time, and haven’t said anything. But after speaking to Robert and seeing the STAGGERING statistics of millions of children continuing to be abused in the USA – I feel it’s my duty to raise awareness, of the 19000 English girls in multiple cities across the UK, as young as 12, who are being sexually abused, drugged, murdered, raped and gang raped by gangs of older men RIGHT NOW in the UK. This has been going on for decades, and covered up (even assisted) by the police, social services, local councils, the media and now at the top level, the civil service and home office.

The individual stories of the victims are heartbreaking. The whole thing is heartbreaking. Continue reading “The Home Office Response To The Grooming Gang Petition is Atrocious – (Akkad Daily)”

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“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

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Quote of the day …

“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”

 

– Winston Churchill

Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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EU Could Collapse, Warns Emmanuel Macron – (Jeff Taylor)

Thanks to Seax for inadvertently encouraging me to post this – The EU in SERIOUS financial difficulties, whilst continuing to play hardball on Brexit negotiations – UK’s response – No, No, No.

This update from Jeff Taylor from about 4 hours ago @ 25-Apr-2020 18:15 UK time.

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“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.” – Dan Millman

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Quote of the day …

“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.”

 

– Dan Millman

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Strip Richard Branson Of His Knighthood – Change.org

I used to look up to the man. But since he bought my mortgage company after the 2008/Lehman Brothers crisis, they have set their interest rate at an extreme profit margin, all whilst interest rates have been historically low (like close to zero). For more than 12 years now I’ve been paying a huge premium over the Bank Of England’s base rate, straight into Richard Branson’s pocket. It’s one of the reasons I’ve personally struggled financially ever since 2008 – whilst Richard has his fingers in a number of pies, including his own island. Bouncing around in his private jets and floating around in Bentleys, living the life of Riley. Continue reading Strip Richard Branson Of His Knighthood – Change.org

Happy St. George’s Day, And Risque Painting By Petar Meseldzija

I just found it’s St. George’s day today, an important traditional day for English (and some Spanish and Portuguese) and Christian people.

So wishing you a Happy St. George’s Day.

I’ve also added the Portuguese flag to my sidebar – so hello and welcome to all my Portuguese followers (4097 page views as of today).

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Saint George’s Day, also known as the Feast of Saint George, is the feast day of Saint George as celebrated by various Christian Churches and by the several nations, kingdoms, countries and cities of which Saint George is the patron saint including England, and regions of Portugal and Spain. – Wikipedia

And, in Don Charisma style – here’s a “little risque” St. George and the Dragon painting that I posted back in 2014, as a bonus.

Painting by (c) Petar Meseldzjia – Originally posted here (with permission) :-

https://doncharisma.org/2014/04/23/nudity-in-art-st-georg-and-the-dragon-by-petar-meseldzija/

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” – Marilyn Monroe

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I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle.

 

But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.

 

– Marilyn Monroe

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Suicide – Saving Lives – Befrienders Worldwide And Samaritans

Danny posted yesterday about the saddening Thai Suicides. The post didn’t publish correctly (WordPress on the blink I think) – so if you missed it it’s here – https://doncharisma.org/2020/04/21/thai-suicides/

Reports Danny’s heard today are that things may be opening up economy wise in Thailand shortly, so hopefully, that’ll work out OK for the folks who’re struggling. Official reports also indicate that COVID-19, is a *relatively* minor problem in Thailand.

I thought it worth bringing again to your attention The Befrienders Worldwide (who I hadn’t heard of before) and the Samaritans. They are volunteers who “man”/”woman” phones (sometimes 24/7/365) to speak to people who are having difficulties in their lives, usually desperate to the point of feeling suicidal.

Obviously use a bit of common sense and don’t contact them, unless it *really* is necessary, as you could be tying up the line, where someone who’s really suicidal can’t get through.

Befrienders Wordwide

The Befriender’s Worldwide have contact telephone numbers in many countries on their website :

https://www.befrienders.org/

Samaritans

“Whatever you’re going through, a Samaritan will face it with you.” – The Samaritans UK

Thailandhttp://www.samaritansthai.com/

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans.Thailand

Tel: 02-713-6793

Tel: 02-713-6791

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans-Chiang-Mai-1027321303981834/

Tel: 05-322-5977

UKhttps://www.samaritans.org/

Tel: 116 123 (Free)

UShttp://www.samaritansusa.org/

Tel: 1 (800) 273-TALK (I think 1 800 is a free to call number in USA)

 

I’ve been in a few tough spots myself, and others helping me made all the difference, so – Thankyou to Befrienders Worldwide and Samaritans, for being the change *we all* want to see in the world – without good people like them in the World, we’d be lost. Real heroes.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Passive Aggressive – Stupid Is As Stupid Does

WARNING – CREATIVE WRITING AHEAD

“Speak the truth” – Jordan Peterson.

That’s what I’m doing right here. Exercising my right to speak freely as what I currently see as truth.

I may look stupid to you. I may write stupid stuff sometimes. I may not be a great artist, or a great writer, or a great photographer, or that great at anything. I may not be in the same tribe as you, or idolize the same gods. I may not be the cookie cutter blog you’d prefer me to be. I may not be as intelligent as you.

In fact I’m pretty average and ordinary by all accounts, nothing special. I just do my best, and hope for the best, most of the time.

I have done my research on passive-aggression. I know what your motives are and what your narrative is. I know that you deserve my pity more than my respect. I know the counter measures and moves – I have been doing this for a while, 57000 comments on this blog at last count, so I’m not exactly short-in-the-tooth by now.

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So please kindly stop leaving passive-aggressive comments, or trying passive-aggressive schemes on me – You’re wasting your time, and making yourself look pathetic in the process.

It’s transparent to me by now – someone broke the rules of fight club and showed me “the matrix”, might have even been me that did it.

The silver lining – I never end up short of something to blog about, so thanks for that at least. Also makes me laugh, so double whammy.

But – Why oh why, would you prefer to argue when we could have been friends – I’m perplexed at the lengths people will go spread their misery onto others – it beggars belief, the lengths their ego will go to ensure they feel they’re right, holier than thou, ideologically superior or have “won” the argument, even if it means completely deluding themselves, and destroying a potential friendship in the process.

“Stupid is as stupid does” – Forrest Gump

I guess.

If I have the time, and the skill, I try and help other people who’re honourable and respectful. I’ve lost count of the number of reblogs, guest bloggers and shares I’ve done over the years – bloggers helping bloggers, helping each other – you know solidarity. Not to mention that at least half of the 57000 comments are my replies to others.

At the end of the day – if you have no respect for me, you’re not worthy of my time.

Which reminds me of a quote I saw the other day, I’ll post that later.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Ithaka

Thanks to Maria for sharing this for me to share with you …

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As you set out for Ithaka
hope your road is a long one,
full of adventure, full of discovery.

 

Laistrygonians, Cyclops,
angry Poseidon—don’t be afraid of them:
you’ll never find things like that on your way
as long as you keep your thoughts raised high,
as long as a rare excitement
stirs your spirit and your body.

 

Laistrygonians, Cyclops,
wild Poseidon—you won’t encounter them
unless you bring them along inside your soul,
unless your soul sets them up in front of you.

 

Hope your road is a long one.
May there be many summer mornings when,
with what pleasure, what joy,
you enter harbors you’re seeing for the first time;
may you stop at Phoenician trading stations
to buy fine things,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
sensual perfume of every kind—
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
and may you visit many Egyptian cities
to learn and go on learning from their scholars.

 

Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Arriving there is what you’re destined for.
But don’t hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you’re old by the time you reach the island,
wealthy with all you’ve gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.

 

Ithaka gave you the marvelous journey.
Without her, you wouldn’t have set out.
She has nothing left to give you now.

 

And if you find her poor, Ithaka won’t have fooled you.
Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,
you’ll have understood by then what these Ithakas mean.

 

– Constantine P. Cavafy (first published, 1911)
– Translated by Edmund Keeley

Hope you like it.

Thanks Maria, you’re one in a million.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” – Roald Dahl

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Quote of the day …

“If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

 

– Roald Dahl

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Thai Suicides

Hi, it’s Danny posting on Don’s blog from the UK. I felt that this was important to share this, to raise awareness.

I don’t as yet have anything other than word of mouth, of initial reports coming in via FaceBook. But friends have sadly reported to me a number of Thai men and women have committed suicide in Thailand due to basically running out of money. With curfews and lockdowns, little to no government help, no tourist income (a large part of Thai GDP), many Thai’s operating small/micro-businesses, a drought in Thailand, already an economic downturn and with little or no savings – people who are poor are basically living hand to mouth and have become desperate.

I really don’t know what else to say, other than I’m deeply saddened to hear these reports. Losing a life through suicide is heartbreaking, and needless. My deepest condolences to those who’ve lost loved ones.

If this isn’t resolved swiftly, I’m worried things will descend into civil unrest, which would obviously lead to violence and more deaths.

I don’t know how this can be achieved – But it’s time we got the world economy going again, so more lives aren’t lost, and we don’t have more tragedy on top of the tragedy we’ve already suffered.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Danny


If you’re affected by this, then it’s possible to contact the Samaritans :

“Whatever you’re going through, a Samaritan will face it with you.” – The Samaritans UK

Thailandhttp://www.samaritansthai.com/

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans.Thailand

Tel: 02-713-6793

Tel: 02-713-6791

https://www.facebook.com/Samaritans-Chiang-Mai-1027321303981834/

Tel: 05-322-5977

UKhttps://www.samaritans.org/

Tel: 116 123 (Free)

UShttp://www.samaritansusa.org/

Tel: 1 (800) 273-TALK (I think 1 800 is a free to call number in USA)

There’s also Befrienders Wordwide (similar to the Samaritans), who have contact telephone numbers in many countries – https://www.befrienders.org/

Continue reading “Thai Suicides”

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Coronavirus And Blog Update 3

Having blogged 93 days straight now, through UK general election, Brexit and Coronavirus outbreak, it’s time for me to stop posting so much about Coronavirus. In the beginning I was doing my best to raise people’s awareness and warn of a possible problem aka “a pandemic”. My sources ended up being right, even though I’d prayed they wouldn’t be – and right a long time before the legacy media had any clue what was going on.

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“Stay positive; all other choices are pointless punishments to your psyche.” – Joe Peterson

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Quote of the day …

“Stay positive; all other choices are pointless punishments to your psyche.”

 

– Joe Peterson

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” – Albert Einstein

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Quote of the day …

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

 

– Albert Einstein

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Jaded Coloured Spectacles

Judging by the number of comments, seems like I was missed yesterday. As a general rule, I think one should rest of Saturdays and Sundays. I do try and put at least one quote out per day – sometimes the simplest things are the best. In these times of struggle it might be the only positive/interesting thing that person saw that day.

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Yesterday best described as “jaded”, one of my commenters apparently felt the same, so I wasn’t the only one in that boat. We are, like it or not interdependent, it’s how the world still spins. Without spending countless hours, or having any qualifications, this is roughly what I said :

Sometimes life doesn’t feel full of possibilities, it’s the same for most people. “Charisma” seems to take a day off, for various reasons.

 

Ultimately, short version – In the end up, it’s up to you to pull yourself back to a motivated and positive state – external forces sometimes are there to help, sometimes we have to do it on our own.

 

Sometimes reaching out and telling a friend how you feel can bring one back to positive mental attitude. Other’s rely on their faith.

 

Do something you enjoy doing today, or do something for someone else, that they’d enjoy. Write or speak to someone you miss, or haven’t written in a long time. Do you’re own mini-thanksgiving – think of all the things in your life you are grateful for.

 

“When the going get’s tough, the tough get going”

I’m fairly sure by now that the 38000 of you subscribed to my blog are smarter than me, so what would you have said ?

Well, there are a few subscribers straight off of this page –

https://doncharisma.org/2015/03/23/100-ways-to-say-not-the-brightest/

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

Continue reading “Jaded Coloured Spectacles”

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“New day. And new thoughts. Plus new strength. As a result, new possibilities.” – Karen Salmansohn

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Quote of the day …

“New day. And new thoughts. Plus new strength. As a result, new possibilities.”

 

– Karen Salmansohn

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” – Marcus Aurelius

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Quote of the day …

“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.”

 

– Marcus Aurelius

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Reduce the speed and intensity to reduce stress. A flower blooms slowly, in calmness, and in serenity.” – Debasish Mridha

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Quote of the day …

“Reduce the speed and intensity to reduce stress. A flower blooms slowly, in calmness, and in serenity.”

 

– Debasish Mridha

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Worrying doesn’t stop the bad stuff from happening. It just stops you from enjoying the good stuff.” – Karen Salmansohn

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Quote of the day …

“Worrying doesn’t stop the bad stuff from happening. It just stops you from enjoying the good stuff.”

 

– Karen Salmansohn

 
Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.” – Mandy Hale

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Quote of the day …

“You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.”

 

– Mandy Hale

Hope you like it.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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The Origin Of Fear

Firstly – Happy Easter. Clearly I’m a wrong thinker, and contradictions-a-plenty – so don’t expect a traditional Easter message !

During these times which just seem to get odder and odder – I don’t write so much anymore, the shape of free speech has changed for the worse over the last few years, and often times I’m not interested in competing for the “freshly pressed” award I’ll never receive, nor care about TBH, or the income I’ll never get from blogging. Matt and WordPress.com don’t like me, I’m fairly certain of that by now, for mostly, they think I’m a “wrong thinker”, in an Orwellian way. To the extent I’m now officially shadow banned on WordPress.com (maybe I’ll write about that experience someday). I’ve even been a long time follower and liker of ma.tt’s blog, but that doesn’t make any difference. Is what it is, c’est la vie.

So, I share what’s of interest to me, use my meagre talents as best I can – sometimes I do write, sometimes I’m compelled to write enthusiastically, other times not so much. I like to help promote other’s art, especially when they are better artists than me – because they help me improve, learn and grow as a person. When we’re helping each other, it’s a cooperative win-win.

Since publishing three recent guest blogger’s submissions – there’s a few things been bouncing around in the Don Charisma thinking soup. Each blogger very different, and each very thoughtful in their own expression. Each made me think deeply – Maria about “doing/thinking vs being”, Urban about how he perceived my blog, plus an interesting foray into the paradox of light and dark and Shelley about solidarity during the pandemic. The thinking soup ended me up at, “the quote” :-

The included quote is something that I read about 10 years ago, and eventually sprang to mind out of the soup. The part in bold was the most memorable, or at least what stuck in my mind. But doesn’t work to quote it out of context, so I have included the context, or at least enough of the context.

(A theology student once told me I’m a “humanist”, and I’d say, having looked up what one of those is, he’s probably right. So, I don’t draw my theology from any one authoritative source, I prefer to keep an open mind. Eckhart Tolle was handy at the time, although most of my cultural and theological influences have been Christian, Hindi or Buddhist)

I’ve suspected for a while, that the edict of some – “every human interaction is power based”, is defective and will likely lead to suffering, for others, but mostly for themselves. The vainglory in power obsession over all else, seems probable to make life as meaningless as nihilism, and the world as hostile a place as ever one could live in. And in living by such an edict – haven’t you just objectified, into a mere tool to do your bidding, every other human being on the planet ? Where is the place for love, sharing, kindness, compassion and empathy ? Or, solidarity ? Or, doing the right thing ?

Still, each to their own I guess. Perhaps I’m naive, and I need to learn something. Perhaps I’m not naive and I have already learnt something (thanks to Urban for that one).

So, this is my “reaction video” in written form, or response, to my three guest blogger’s most excellent writings – Thankyou again Maria, Urban and Shelley.

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The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger.

 

It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now. You are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future. This creates an anxiety gap. And if you are identified with your mind and have lost touch with the power and simplicity of the Now, that anxiety gap will be your constant companion. You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection – you cannot cope with the future.

 

Moreover, as long as you are identified with your mind, the ego runs your life. Because of its phantom nature, and despite elaborate defense mechanisms, the ego is very vulnerable and insecure, and it sees itself as constantly under threat. This, by the way, is the case even if the ego is outwardly very confident. Now remember that an emotion is the body’s reaction to your mind. What message is the body receiving continuously from the ego, the false, mind-made self? Danger, I am under threat. And what is the emotion generated by this continuous message? Fear, of course.

 

Fear seems to have many causes. Fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of being hurt, and so on, but ultimately all fear is the ego’s fear of death, of annihilation. To the ego, death is always just around the corner. In this mind-identified state, fear of death affects every aspect of your life.

For example, even such a seemingly trivial and “normal” thing as the compulsive need to be right in an argument and make the other person wrong – defending the mental position with which you have identified – is due to the fear of death. If you identify with a mental position, then if you are wrong, your mind-based sense of self is seriously threatened with annihilation. So you as the ego cannot afford to be wrong. To be wrong is to die. Wars have been fought over this, and countless relationships have broken down.

 

Once you have disidentified from your mind, whether you are right or wrong makes no difference to your sense of self at all, so the forcefully compulsive and deeply unconscious need to be right, which is a form of violence, will no longer be there. You can state clearly and firmly how you feel or what you think, but there will be no aggressiveness or defensiveness about it. Your sense of self is then derived from a deeper and truer place within yourself, not from the mind.

 

Watch out for any kind of defensiveness within yourself. What are you defending? An illusory identity, an image in your mind, a fictitious entity.

 

By making this pattern conscious, by witnessing it, you disidentify from it. In the light of your consciousness, the unconscious pattern will then quickly dissolve.

 

This is the end of all arguments and power games, which are so corrosive to relationships. Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within, and it is available to you now.

 

The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: The more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering – and free of the egoic mind.

 

If you no longer want to create pain for yourself and others, if you no longer want to add to the residue of past pain that still lives on in you, then don’t create any more time, or at least no more than is necessary to deal with the practical aspects of your life. How to stop creating time?

 

Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.

 

Whereas before you dwelt in time and paid brief visits to the Now, have your dwelling place in the Now and pay brief visits to past and future when required to deal with the practical aspects of your life situation.

 

Always say “yes” to the present moment.

 

– Eckhart Tolle (an excerpt from “Practising The Power Of Now”)


For lovers of the concise I recommend “Practising The Power Of Now”, as it’s essentially the teachings of Eckhart Tolle in 72 pages. I have read both of the other books of the same time period, and this one I found most useful in it’s simplicity.

My best way to explain Eckhart Tolle’s teachings would be, to impart spiritual knowledge (for want of a better word “enlightenment”) without religious dogma or doctrine. Or there, or there abouts.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Rule number one is don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is it’s all small stuff.” – Robert Eliot

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Quote of the day …

“Rule number one is don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is it’s all small stuff.”

 

– Robert Eliot

 
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Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Within you, there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.” – Hermann Hesse

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Quote of the day …

“Within you, there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.”

 

– Hermann Hesse

 
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Cheers

Don Charisma

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If COVID19 Can’t Bring Us Together Nothing Will

If COVID19 Can’t Bring Us Together Nothing Will

by Shelley (c) 8-Apr-2020

I think we can all agree that we are fighting a common enemy.  At the writing of this post 81,478 lives have been lost to COVID19, and infections have long surpassed 1 million worldwide.  Countries are in lockdown, there is great uncertainty and the world is gasping for breath, literally and figuratively.  These are extraordinary times like we have never witnessed, and you would think that we would cling to each other, help each other, defend each other against this common enemy, but yet we squabble among ourselves like seagulls on a beach fighting for that last piece of tossed watermelon rind.

Of course, the divisiveness is not easily apparent in many countries, and doesn’t exist in some, however here in the west it’s a free for all.  A few days earlier, reports of shipments of N95 masks being blocked from leaving the US incited anger and debate. [1]

Not only has the US blocked shipments of masks to Canada and Latin America.  It has also blocked the shipment of ventilators to Barbados.  Additionally, buying medical supplies at inflated prices while circumventing previously agreed upon contracts with other countries, is a version of “modern day piracy” as termed by The Guardian. [2]

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N95 masks, ventilators and personal protective equipment are in high demand.  In countries that did very little to prepare, the game to acquire these materials is on, leaving other poorer or defenseless countries to fend for themselves.  Is this a form of bullying?  And when all is said and done, what becomes of the relationships that are damaged?

Beyond the global squabbling, it has been noted that domestic violence is on the rise. [3]

As families are sequestered together, not all is wine and roses.  Perhaps more wine than roses and that may be the issue.  If there were cracks in your domestic relationships before, then those cracks have turned to chasms as many families are confined to their homes and time spent together is enforced.

In a recent article The San Antonio Express News states, “Last month, when local residents were told to stay home in order to slow the spread of the coronavirus, emergency 911 calls for family violence increased 18 percent compared to the same time in 2019, officials said Tuesday.” [4] This means that victims are facing greater hardships than just combating potential illness.  Lives are at risk and abusers are taking advantage of an already difficult situation.

To get a sense of the divide in North America you just have to visit Twitter for a short period of time where opinions are rampant even though they may be spurious and misinformed.  Typically based on political, religious or ideological beliefs people engage in combat with each other but contribute nothing to the solution or system at large.  Fingers of blame point in all directions, not recognizing that blame does little to alleviate a situation that is going to change our world permanently, in some ways not for the better.

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At a time when we need to be physically apart, we need to come together ideologically. Work on the solution together. Find the common path beyond this crisis.  There is greater strength in unity than in any one individual’s belief system.

If COVID19 can’t bring us together, nothing will.  We’re sunk, and we deserve all we get.

Shelley (c) 8-Apr-2020


References

[1] https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52161032
[2] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/apr/03/mask-wars-coronavirus-outbidding-demand
[3] https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/06/world/coronavirus-domestic-violence.html
[4] https://www.expressnews.com/news/local/article/Family-violence-calls-increase-18-percent-in-San-15184892.php


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Shelley’s bio (in brief) – I dive into data for business and emotional intelligence, and because curiosity kills.  Data is a storyteller.  Measuring and analyzing data reveals the story and shifts decision-making.

https://makingbetterdecisions.ca/



Shelley has been a long time follower of my blog, and we’ve become friends.

I’m very proud indeed to present her writing to you, and her message of solidarity during this global crisis we are *all* facing.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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Charisma: May The Force be with you.

Charisma: May The Force be with you.

By Urban Vyaas

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The Force in Star Wars was an innate person’s quality; you were born with it or not. You had it or you didn’t, and so it goes for charisma. When you’re a shy, retiring, socially inept introvert, there are little chances that you’ll ever become a charismatic leader. There exists only a little loophole to that; you can build some resemblance of charisma.

The cultivation of a resemblance of charisma needs you to balance between inviting other people in close and letting them feel your power by standing apart. Introverts should not discount the effectiveness of quiet confidence and the qualities that introverts bring to the table, such as empathy and independent thinking. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be straightforward about your introversion. Diversity is good. Remember that. Many minds and diversity among them make for creativity.

This blog invites you to accept that life is full of paradoxes. In this context I often like to quote the American poet Walt Whitman ( 1819 – 1892):” Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.”

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Walt Whitman (PubDom)

Part of Whitman’s charisma was derived from his self-reflexive humor, as illustrated by the previous quote. Self-referential humor is sometimes combined with breaking the fourth wall to explicitly make the reference directly to the audience, or make self-reference to an element of the medium that the characters should not be aware of.

Just as The Force, charisma has a “dark side”. I wonder sometimes if Sheev Palpatine was also telling to Darth Vader “May The Force be with you” when the camera wasn’t running.

The pen name Don Charisma refers to the “dons” at Oxford University, who’re lecturers and teachers. There are also plenty of places where it refers to the darker sides of the charisma abusers. Think for example at the Mafia Don, the Don Juan who uses his charisma to turn himself into a women magnet or the delusional Don Quixote who burns it to fight windmills.

And then you have the most dangerous of all of them: the demagogues. They’re political leaders who seek support by appealing to the desires and prejudices of ordinary people rather than by using rational arguments.

Modern demagogues include Adolf Hitler, Benito Mussolini, Huey Long, Father Coughlin, and Joseph McCarthy, all of whom built mass followings the same way that Cleon did: by exciting the passions of the mob against the moderate, thoughtful customs of the aristocratic elites of their times. Since the rise of Donald Trump in US politics, the word “demagogue” has been widely used in the press to describe him.

Luckily for the human race, history balances things out with the teachings of charismatic figures as Buddha, Jesus, Mohamed, Confucius and many others, placing them into the centre around which we model the lasting social conventions that rule our society. Their visions of reality go back to exceptional experiences of humankind at its moments of most refined insights.  Rising up from the particular but stretching out to the general. Not many among us aspire for such a historical appeal.

Charisma: May The Force be with you. by Urban Vyaas (c) 8-Apr-2020 (Thankyou Urban)


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Thanks to Urban Vyaas, for this guest blog, which I’m proud to publish. He fulfilled every request I made of him, and then some. He’s a regular visitor and commenter on the blog, and we’ve become friends.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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“No matter what you’re going through, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel … just keep working toward it and you’ll find the positive side of things.” – Demi Lovato

 

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Quote of the day …

“No matter what you’re going through, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel … just keep working toward it and you’ll find the positive side of things.”

 

– Demi Lovato

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Cheers

Don Charisma

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“If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.” – Guy Finley

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Quote of the day …

“If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.”

 

Guy Finley

 

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Cheers

Don Charisma

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“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.” – Alice Morse Earle

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Quote of the day …

“Yesterday is history.

Tomorrow is a mystery.

Today is a gift.

That’s why it’s called the present.”

 

– Alice Morse Earle

 

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Cheers

Don Charisma

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THE NATURE OF TIME

 

THE NATURE OF TIME [by mariafokas]

How did we get to this dire point; not all at once, I suppose, but bit by bit, being too busy with life; drunk with regrets of the past and manipulated into worrying about the future. I don’t know what stand to take today. I tried writing this post so many times, stopped, and started, and stopped, and then back to the keyboard – and all I accomplished was to exhaust myself; you’d think it were a love letter, where I struggle to find the perfect words to make it work; while hiding the gore of bodies piling up without end as we speak –

Going back to the beginning of this virus, I started gathering information, believing it would help me and my loved ones. I watched and read everything about this novel virus. I even had an opinion about how governments of countries are handling it, and responding to it, and soon enough it began to take me hostage; it had become an addiction; collecting all the news this virus was creating. The stories I came across were endless; the mistakes and delays of the world health organization, the secret agendas of governments, Bill Gates and the Rockefellers involved in promoting it, conspiracy theories, a novel supposedly written in 1981 predicting it; and then I put my two-cents in too… what if just maybe, E.M. Forster predicted our restricted lives due to this virus, in his short story, The Machine Stops, (1909),  and just maybe, the Titanic had also been predicted in Morgan Robertson’s novella The Wreck of the Titan (1898). And was it the iceberg that took 1500 lives, or was it the delayed response, and ignorance to the iceberg? But, does any of this solve the problem?

I listened to people complaining about having to stay home. Could they not see the devastating alternative; images around the world of hospitals in chaos, doctors forced to decide who lives and who dies. Dead bodies in New York, stacked up in 18 wheeler-truck-fridges. A nurse in Italy, calling it the lonely flu; people dying all over the world without any hope for recovery; isolated without their loved ones to hold their hand in their final moment; to be reminded that THEY WERE LOVED! This virus has exposed the weaknesses in our system, our weakness to prepare, our weakness to prevent and to prevail – I think about our response to this virus; our delayed actions, and ignorance; the crack in our health system due to the governments we voted for; or didn’t even bother voting; too busy that day; giving away our greatest power of voice.

I listened to President Trump telling the American people that it was going to go away like a miracle, I heard Boris Johnson claiming that there was no need for restrictions; business as usual; we’d eventually become immune to it; Turkmenistan’s government claiming it doesn’t exist and, making it illegal to utter the word “coronavirus” or you’ll be arrested. The world health organization not only took too long to declare it a Pandemic, but they also informed us that there was no true evidence of human to human transmission, on January 14th – And China kept too quiet about the information that would have saved lives.

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“Ceidefields” by (c) Barrie Maguire

But I will not search for more to blame. I closed my door to the fear this virus has been spreading; the kind of fear that makes us weaker. I began to feel the stillness I was forced to bear and noticed the voice inside my head; words not mine, but nevertheless, coming from me; regurgitations of the outside world telling me, all the things I should believe and should be doing and should be wanting. And I stopped! I was not going to waste any more time –

These stay-at-home restrictions haven’t been taking time away from us; they’ve been giving it back to us. Having to live hour-to-hour, I realize that all I have in this world is that hour; that moment to moment that flows through me, and what I choose to do with that moment, determines everything. . . “God give me the wisdom to know the difference.” –

So, I wonder about the universal values of today – how do we make choices; on the basis of what? Yes, 95% of the information out there is a lie, so what is the truth? The truth might be that it will go away and that we will continue our lives regardless of how it has affected each and every one of us. We will gather the data and analyze the outcome – and there will be much talk and more blame but the crime will never be solved; and then soon after, we may forget.

Or we can decide to wrap our arms around the only thing that truly belongs to us – the present moment in time – not the past – not the future – only that precious moment; the one thing no one can take away from us; the most precious commodity we give away, in exchange for a deception; a promise for a “better” future waiting to be obtained. Aren’t the past and the future merely labels to define illusions; an anchor holding us back and, a promise of a holy grail at the end of the tunnel, in exchange for our lives?

Having to give up my freedom for a brief moment in time ended up saving me from an empty life filled with goals but no essence. This stillness made me aware of how numb I had become, and how I completely took my existence for granted; using myself to make ends meet, instead of experiencing life as a means to an end. So do I want to go back to that life, when the restrictions have been lifted; do we go back to the life this virus momentarily took away from us, or, when this is all over, do we make it better?

The Nature of Time by (c) Maria Fokas April 5/2020 (Thankyou Maria)

Artwork – “Ceidefields” by (c) Barrie Maguire, (published with permission of the Artist, Thankyou Barrie)


Maria has also written a poem, which is kind of a “companion” to this writing, you can find it here –

The Nature of Time


Thanks to Maria Fokas, for this guest blog, which I’m EXTREMELY proud to publish. She’s lovely person and would highly recommend visiting her at her blog.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.

Cheers

Don Charisma

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