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Depression Is An Inability To Construct A Future

“Depression is an inability to construct a future.” – I don’t know the original source of the quote, could be clinical literature or somebody like Freud. Usually someone comes along on the comments and lets me know, or it’s an original quote from the movie. Dunno.

The quote made me look back at tough times in my life – and I think it’s an explanation or partial explanation (of course there’s other factors that make us depressed). We tend to predict the future based on what happened in the past. We tend to feel happier with a “secure” future, and less happy without. Uncertainty feeds into this. With the caveat, that the future doesn’t really exist, it’s a mental construction (ie we don’t know for sure what the future will be, it’s just degrees of certainty or uncertainty.) Continue reading Depression Is An Inability To Construct A Future

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Stages Of Grief (And Loss)

I can’t remember if I blogged about this before, I first heard about it in the movie “The Bucket List” with Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, who’s characters were both terminally ill with cancer, and they eventually made friends and had some adventures together. It’s a nice film, well worth a watch. In the movie, they talk about the 5 stages of grief which I think originated with Elizabeth Kubler Ross Continue reading Stages Of Grief (And Loss)

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Suicide – Saving Lives – Befrienders Worldwide And Samaritans

Danny posted yesterday about the saddening Thai Suicides. The post didn’t publish correctly (WordPress on the blink I think) – so if you missed it it’s here –

Reports Danny’s heard today are that things may be opening up economy wise in Thailand shortly, so hopefully, that’ll work out OK for the folks who’re struggling. Official reports also indicate that COVID-19, is a *relatively* minor problem in Thailand.

I thought it worth bringing again to your attention The Befrienders Worldwide (who I hadn’t heard of before) and the Samaritans. They are volunteers who “man”/”woman” phones (sometimes 24/7/365) to speak to people who are having difficulties in their lives, usually desperate to the point of feeling suicidal.

Obviously use a bit of common sense and don’t contact them, unless it *really* is necessary, as you could be tying up the line, where someone who’s really suicidal can’t get through.

Befrienders Wordwide

The Befriender’s Worldwide have contact telephone numbers in many countries on their website :


“Whatever you’re going through, a Samaritan will face it with you.” – The Samaritans UK


Tel: 02-713-6793

Tel: 02-713-6791

Tel: 05-322-5977


Tel: 116 123 (Free)


Tel: 1 (800) 273-TALK (I think 1 800 is a free to call number in USA)


I’ve been in a few tough spots myself, and others helping me made all the difference, so – Thankyou to Befrienders Worldwide and Samaritans, for being the change *we all* want to see in the world – without good people like them in the World, we’d be lost. Real heroes.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.


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“Winning doesn’t always mean being first. Winning means you’re doing better than you’ve done before.” – Bonnie Blair


Quote of the day …

“Winning doesn’t always mean being first. Winning means you’re doing better than you’ve
done before.”


Bonnie Blair


Hope you like it.


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