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The Origin Of Fear

Firstly – Happy Easter. Clearly I’m a wrong thinker, and contradictions-a-plenty – so don’t expect a traditional Easter message !

During these times which just seem to get odder and odder – I don’t write so much anymore, the shape of free speech has changed for the worse over the last few years, and often times I’m not interested in competing for the “freshly pressed” award I’ll never receive, nor care about TBH, or the income I’ll never get from blogging. Matt and don’t like me, I’m fairly certain of that by now, for mostly, they think I’m a “wrong thinker”, in an Orwellian way. To the extent I’m now officially shadow banned on (maybe I’ll write about that experience someday). I’ve even been a long time follower and liker of’s blog, but that doesn’t make any difference. Is what it is, c’est la vie.

So, I share what’s of interest to me, use my meagre talents as best I can – sometimes I do write, sometimes I’m compelled to write enthusiastically, other times not so much. I like to help promote other’s art, especially when they are better artists than me – because they help me improve, learn and grow as a person. When we’re helping each other, it’s a cooperative win-win.

Since publishing three recent guest blogger’s submissions – there’s a few things been bouncing around in the Don Charisma thinking soup. Each blogger very different, and each very thoughtful in their own expression. Each made me think deeply – Maria about “doing/thinking vs being”, Urban about how he perceived my blog, plus an interesting foray into the paradox of light and dark and Shelley about solidarity during the pandemic. The thinking soup ended me up at, “the quote” :-

The included quote is something that I read about 10 years ago, and eventually sprang to mind out of the soup. The part in bold was the most memorable, or at least what stuck in my mind. But doesn’t work to quote it out of context, so I have included the context, or at least enough of the context.

(A theology student once told me I’m a “humanist”, and I’d say, having looked up what one of those is, he’s probably right. So, I don’t draw my theology from any one authoritative source, I prefer to keep an open mind. Eckhart Tolle was handy at the time, although most of my cultural and theological influences have been Christian, Hindi or Buddhist)

I’ve suspected for a while, that the edict of some – “every human interaction is power based”, is defective and will likely lead to suffering, for others, but mostly for themselves. The vainglory in power obsession over all else, seems probable to make life as meaningless as nihilism, and the world as hostile a place as ever one could live in. And in living by such an edict – haven’t you just objectified, into a mere tool to do your bidding, every other human being on the planet ? Where is the place for love, sharing, kindness, compassion and empathy ? Or, solidarity ? Or, doing the right thing ?

Still, each to their own I guess. Perhaps I’m naive, and I need to learn something. Perhaps I’m not naive and I have already learnt something (thanks to Urban for that one).

So, this is my “reaction video” in written form, or response, to my three guest blogger’s most excellent writings – Thankyou again Maria, Urban and Shelley.

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The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger.


It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now. You are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future. This creates an anxiety gap. And if you are identified with your mind and have lost touch with the power and simplicity of the Now, that anxiety gap will be your constant companion. You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection – you cannot cope with the future.


Moreover, as long as you are identified with your mind, the ego runs your life. Because of its phantom nature, and despite elaborate defense mechanisms, the ego is very vulnerable and insecure, and it sees itself as constantly under threat. This, by the way, is the case even if the ego is outwardly very confident. Now remember that an emotion is the body’s reaction to your mind. What message is the body receiving continuously from the ego, the false, mind-made self? Danger, I am under threat. And what is the emotion generated by this continuous message? Fear, of course.


Fear seems to have many causes. Fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of being hurt, and so on, but ultimately all fear is the ego’s fear of death, of annihilation. To the ego, death is always just around the corner. In this mind-identified state, fear of death affects every aspect of your life.

For example, even such a seemingly trivial and “normal” thing as the compulsive need to be right in an argument and make the other person wrong – defending the mental position with which you have identified – is due to the fear of death. If you identify with a mental position, then if you are wrong, your mind-based sense of self is seriously threatened with annihilation. So you as the ego cannot afford to be wrong. To be wrong is to die. Wars have been fought over this, and countless relationships have broken down.


Once you have disidentified from your mind, whether you are right or wrong makes no difference to your sense of self at all, so the forcefully compulsive and deeply unconscious need to be right, which is a form of violence, will no longer be there. You can state clearly and firmly how you feel or what you think, but there will be no aggressiveness or defensiveness about it. Your sense of self is then derived from a deeper and truer place within yourself, not from the mind.


Watch out for any kind of defensiveness within yourself. What are you defending? An illusory identity, an image in your mind, a fictitious entity.


By making this pattern conscious, by witnessing it, you disidentify from it. In the light of your consciousness, the unconscious pattern will then quickly dissolve.


This is the end of all arguments and power games, which are so corrosive to relationships. Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within, and it is available to you now.


The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: The more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering – and free of the egoic mind.


If you no longer want to create pain for yourself and others, if you no longer want to add to the residue of past pain that still lives on in you, then don’t create any more time, or at least no more than is necessary to deal with the practical aspects of your life. How to stop creating time?


Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.


Whereas before you dwelt in time and paid brief visits to the Now, have your dwelling place in the Now and pay brief visits to past and future when required to deal with the practical aspects of your life situation.


Always say “yes” to the present moment.


– Eckhart Tolle (an excerpt from “Practising The Power Of Now”)

For lovers of the concise I recommend “Practising The Power Of Now”, as it’s essentially the teachings of Eckhart Tolle in 72 pages. I have read both of the other books of the same time period, and this one I found most useful in it’s simplicity.

My best way to explain Eckhart Tolle’s teachings would be, to impart spiritual knowledge (for want of a better word “enlightenment”) without religious dogma or doctrine. Or there, or there abouts.

Hope you are safe and stays that way.


Don Charisma

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18 thoughts on “The Origin Of Fear

  1. What a great read Don. Living in the moment is indeed a way to heal ourselves when the fear of the future and the baggage of the past engulf us. You’re much more than a novice theologian. And I can’t understand why you’d be shadow banned for sharing such wisdom.

    1. Thanks Shelley. I do my best, and know that I don’t know everything. Perhaps I went too fa, maybe trainee, or student would be better.

      Shadow banned, is a story for another day.

  2. I read Eckhart Tolle as a boy during my first existential crisis. His “now” conceptualisation stays with me to this day.

    Most of my responses to fear I’ve taken as cues from my reading of Pagan Theology. Fear exists as a tool to sharpen and shape yourself with, not something to conquer per say, but to be motivated by and to regulate, temper and wield as a tool. Fear I think acts as a natural indicator of the inclemency of opportunity for character and spiritual growth.

    1. I think it’s helpful to draw knowledge from multiple sources – so I try to stay open to learning something.

      Tolle also came to me during tough times, which is kinda when one needs a guide.

      As for fear, without it there’d be no courage, which is pretty much I think what you said. Some people I guess don’t experience it, but that’s generally considered abnormal – ie some kind of personality disorder.

      And of course Tolle qualified the fear he was talking about as “psychological fear”, which is not the same as the fear when one is facing rear and present danger.

      1. “eso me hace feliz” … “el gusto es mio”

        Just do your best, it’s not always easy to be in the now, and practical aspects of life need to be thought about too 🙂

      2. You nailed it Don, and thanks for the mention x I really enjoyed your blog post! Where do I start? Ok, I will pick one: “How to stop creating time” – I love it! Practically by being creative; we all are, you know – that feeling of accomplishment while breathing in the now is overwhelmingly sweet. Embrace it as much as possible because though it’s there for your taking, waiting quietly, it’s also priceless –

      3. Absolutely 🙂 And no problem you guys deserved it.

        All have different ways of manifesting their gifts, so yes creativity is open to everyone – something I always advocated, since being denied access to Art class in school, for not being good enough. Maybe I’m not, but I can still try, especially if I enjoy it.

        I feel lucky to know people like you, and the other good people who happen across my blog.

        Email received, reply taking time, but I’ll get there.

  3. “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.” …. Wow wow wow, seriously, you just made my day. Wonderful post, beautiful thoughts. I am your fan #1 from now on. Thank you, sincerely.
    This post is the most inspirational, but truly inspirational/from the heart/mind I have read in long time.

  4. I had read once, not sure the source anymore, that there is only one God, and that he chooses to interact with us as each is ready to receive him. To Jews and Gentiles his message was sent through his only son, Jesus. To others he spoke through prophets – Muhammed, Buddha, Gandhi, Mantiou. Through all the message was one of peace.

    1. Not sure I’m qualified to answer, as a complete novice theologian. Or even if I need to. But I’ll try.

      My understanding is that simply “being present”, is when “God” interacts with us. And that we all have the capability of being present, at any time.

      Aside things like ethics, morals, edicts, dogma and doctrine etc, this is a key thing that the main religious teachings are pointing towards in their own different ways – presumably the writers knew culturally how best to convey this message to their own people.

      I’m not sure there is any other state than peace – in being present.

      Also, it’s said that being present in oneself, can aid others in being present. And vice versa.

      “God” I think is a pointer or “nickname” for being present. So, there is only one “God”.

      My two cents worth 🙂


      Don “novice theologian” Charisma

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