It’s an interesting topic, that’s enlightening to hear and know other people’s opinions on, the wider reaching scope of which is – are humans capable of change, under their own steam ?
Take Joe. Joe’s not very charismatic, in fact he’s relatively pathetic. He decides one day to learn to be charismatic. Can he rise to the challenge or does he just have to accept his lot in life that he’s just not one of life’s winners ?
Or take Joe2. Joe2 wasn’t born a leader. So does Joe just say, well genetics and my “luck” didn’t favour me as a leader, so I resign myself to being a follower ? Or does he say, maybe I’m disadvantaged, but I’m going to be the best me I can possibly be ?
Or take Joe3. Joe3 is depressed, in fact the guy is borderline suicidal. Does Joe3 say, well I was born this way, I’m just miserable, fed-up, I’m just gonna lay down and die ? Or does Joe3 say, not so fast, I’m gonna give my best shot to trying to change my life for happiness and move myself out of this trap ?
Now Joe, Joe2 and Joe3 have a choice. They can take the path of just accepting things as they are and doing nothing, resign themselves to “fate”. Or they could take the path of accepting things as they are and moving forward making changes to make himself the best possible him he can be, taking responsibility and choosing “free-will”.
Some say that the path of improvement and change doesn’t lead anywhere, fight club I think it was “self-improvement is masturbation”. Well that actually takes it to another level, saying it’s pointless and narcissistic, and goes on to say self-destruction is a more noble goal.
It’s an interesting sentiment, however I think in being and striving to be the best that we can be is worthwhile, and it’s not just for ourselves. IN being our best selves we are much better equipped to help, support and positively influence others. I also think change is something that we can bring about in ourselves, and change from NOT to SO is possible. As I’ve said already, anything is possible with Charisma 🙂
There are many examples of “mediocre” people who’ve been outstanding successes, Einstein I believe was in this category. And I’m sure there are plenty of examples of people who had it all, and achieved very little in the way of success. Don’t they say that disadvantage can actually be a catalyst to success ?
The difference I feel is the personal belief that positive change is possible, and in fact probable with consistent effort. Moreover having or acquiring the self-belief to do, be and become what is necessary to succeed is the important thing. Charismatic is something we can learn to be if we want to, and being a leader isn’t the sole right of someone who is genetically favoured, or comes from a privileged background. However no one would argue that it helps to have had advantages to start off with.
What always surprises me is when people seem resigned to mediocrity, it’s genetics, it’s fate, I didn’t get the advantages that other people did – why, why would we limit ourselves so harshly and unfairly ? Why do we let others do this to us ?
Life offers many challenges, problems, difficulties and hardships, but at what point does one “sell-out”, give up or quit ?
Largely rhetorical questions, I know, but nevertheless may get the grey matter pondering anew.
Lastly, again, clearly I’ve already formed my own opinions on the subject. This is not a request for support or cry for help for “personal problems”, I don’t need, I don’t have, I don’t want. Merely it’s an interesting topic, that being one’s best self is entirely possible, and probable with the will and vision to see it through. You can digest or comment 🙂
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Resources & Sources
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